I'll look at the video in a second. But I have a question. Did anyone catch Taylor Swift on The Ellen Show this morning? Cute as a button. And I've always been a big fan of hers, although I don't own any of her CD's. But I noticed something today. All her songs sound the same. lol And is she really singing or is that more of a laid back rap she does because instead of singing, it's like she's mostly talking in her songs.

Whhhaaaattt? Y'all don't like S&M by Rihanna??? I nearly crashed my car when I realized what that catchy tune was saying, and it was playing with my 5 and 7 year old daughters in the car. Yep- I agree. Most of the songs on regular radio are completely inappropriate for young children. My daughters know who Lady Gaga is, but my 5 year old will tell anyone who listens that she isn't allowed to see her videos. Speaking of videos, has anyone seen California Girls by Katy Perry?? Good Lord, I was stuck in a cab in Aruba last week with my family and that video was playing on the TV on the back of the head rest. DH and I had to explain the particular outfit with the bra that looks like ice cream with a cherry placed strategically where a nipple would be. My girls were giggling with embarrassment, and my husband was mortified. Thankfully a fun week in Aruba made them forget about it, and there were no more questions about it. I agree with AJ- I let my girls listen to Selena Gomez, Lemonade Mouth and Taylor Swift. They have no interest in Demi Lovato, and thankfully they never really liked Hannah Montana. DD1 loves Adele, beautiful voice, but I need a happy pill after listening. Adele also covered Lovesong by I think it was the Cure, 2nd to last on the CD, it's fantastic. Here's another great song by Taylor Swift: Never Grow up. My girls hear it, and hear the message, and my 7 year old tells me she wants to stay little forever. Melts my heart. With all that said, I will admit, at age 9 I was singing Like a Virgin and sporting lace gloves and black rubber bracelets on my arm, much to my mother's chagrin. And I had NO idea what Madonna was talking about at the time!

I started talking with my kids when they were small. I talked to them most when they were in Jr. High because there were 'stories' that I heard at work (social services) about kids their age playing sex games at school. My kids confirmed that some of that stuff goes on... where kids are giving each other oral sex for recreation. They didn't consider themselves boyfriend/girlfriend and didn't consider it sex if it was oral. It was one of the deciding factors in leaving the area, the County we were in had the highest teen pregnancy rate (per capita) in the state. I was seeing that in cases I worked and even now, my kids tell me that almost all of their friends from that time have either had a baby in high school, involved in drugs (some both) or dead from drugs or car accidents. Very few have finished high school and gone to college. Makes me glad I talked a lot to my kids and left. We moved to an affluent area and even here, the kids say there is some of that activity but not as much. The major difference is back where we used to live, the families were primarily single parent households and not a lot of supervision. Here, the parents aren't supervising because they are busy with high paying careers that keep them too busy to supervise the kids and some of these kids are more able to do what they want because they've been given cars, credit cards, and too much freedom. The common denominator is lack of parental involvement or supervision. My sons didn't date in high school. My younger son let his grades slide in his third semester of college because he really liked a girl in some of his classes. She got him to buy her things and give her rides to school every day and kinda led him on, then midway through the semester, they got a job together and she started dating a guy from work. Then he had to go to school AND work with her and he was crushed/felt used. He is going back to school next week and doesn't want to think about girls until he graduates. My older son didn't have a girlfriend until he was just out of high school. My daughter is also not interested in finding a boyfriend or dating and she just graduated high school. My step daughter is 9 and breaks her neck looking at any guy she sees and thinks they are all (teenage and older guys) checking her out. We've talked to her about priorities and self respect but she still gets all crazy when she's around ANY guy. We can probably talk to her until we're blue, but she has modeled after her mom that likes to be a flirty party girl and needs to have a man in her life to feel good about herself. We'll continue talking to SD about it and hope some of it sinks in, but as she gets older, only time will tell if she'll be receptive to the message her dad wants her to get. For that reason, DH and I are dreading her high school years.

Thanks everyone. That is what I was tryng to remember. I had the right idea but not the right order of the 4 lines. Cynic, I also agree with you, sad as it is and sue va, you are right also. Thanks everyone.