I don't know the names of the murderer and the murderee, but I know they were married. They appear in quite a few photos taken before I was born, when my parents lived in the Village. I don't think they show up, or at least not often, in pictures taken after my parents moved to Queens, so they were probably neighbors in the Village. Yes, both my parents had a great sense of humor. They had a good time with their many friends, including shared vacations, etc. As I've mentioned here before, my mom was only 38 when she died. A lot of people were stunned. I'd love to know what happened to my cousin Beth, Buddy's beautiful daughter with his first wife. She was a few years older than I. I haven't seen her since childhood. Incidentally, I think his first wife was the "drunken" woman seen in the picture with the piano player, if anyone remembers that one.

LindaC, that may be, and we'll never actually know. She said she was lying on a towel on the cement pool deck and got really hot, and started feeling sick to her stomach so she jumped into the pool to cool off. That's all she remembers. However, Amanda has grand mal seizures, the kind with a lot of involuntary muscular movements. Ashley has been present since that time when Amanda has had a seizure and says that she didn't have a seizure in the pool, she just jumped in and suddenly sank to the bottom with no thrashing or flailing. Amanda had never had a seizure before that incident. Since Ashley was there and described it to the neurologist, and it didn't appear that she had a seizure in the pool because the type of seizures she now experiences is very noticeable, the doctors all agree that they think she had some type of physical reaction going from so hot to so cool so quickly and passed out. I guess, at this point, the cause doesn't matter, only the effect. I do know that I'm darned lucky to still have her and equally lucky that her seizures are very well controlled with medication. She has had four that we know of in her lifetime, and none in the last five years, but she tried to go off her medication when she was 24 and that's when she had the last one. Annie

moonie, I did come to terms in a way...Things changed between him and my mom when they moved in together. Before they moved in he took her out a bunch, they went on a couple of trips, etc. As soon as they moved in, he stopped courting her. He became controling and she became unhappy in the relationship. We only stayed there for about 2 years before she grew tired of the relationship and we moved out. That is when we moved across the country. I was on board with going, but it was still a rough adjustment for me. I was 17 by that time and had just finished high school. I finished a semester early, so I was just planning to work until August and start college with the rest of my classmates. The move was hard for me because I was no longer in school, so I didn't have a way to connect to my peers. It was a lonely time for me and took a while to adjust. This is why I suggested that stressedmom move at a time when the kids will be going straight into school, so they don't have to deal with not having anybody to connect with. I was never against the relationship with my mom and her boyfriend, I was just so used to it being just the 2 of us and living by my mom's rules alone. With him I wasn't allowed to have my friends over very often. He always went to bed very early in the evening, and the master bedroom was next to the living room, so it made it impossible to entertain when he would get angry if there was much noise like the TV or talking after about 8:30 pm. That was the part I didn't like, but all in all, I got along with him alright. I just wanted my mom to be happy and I was warry that this wasn't the right guy for her. When I was a teenager, I just had a need to be included in decisions that involved and affected me. In the end though, I knew that I could always trust my mom to use her heart and although she didn't always make the best decisions, I know that she always had my best interest at heart. It has occured to me since then that part of my reluctance about moving in with him had to do with the problems I was going through with my dad and his girlfriend. He ended up married to her, and she has never been much of anything, but hateful to me. It's hard to trust the mate of a parent when you are going through hard times with another parent. A little note to stressedmom, do you think it would help if you told your son that if he gave it a shot and if he worked hard in school next year that you will buy him a plane ticket to come back home for a week or 2 over the summer and stay with his best friend back home? This way he doesn't have to feel as if he will be completely losing touch.

So very pretty. I love it. I can tell there is a lot of time spent in there keeping it up.