I agree. Lot's of prayers going for you and DH. I know they work wonders.
Leslie

Oh Sharon....I too am sending lots of good thoughts and prayers for the future for you and DH!

Sharon I'm so sorry. My BF's DH had a lobe removed several years ago and was doing fine until this fall when they found spots on the remaining lobe. He's been through chemo and is now in remission and they have gone to New Hampshire for the summer. Have faith and be strong. I'm extending my hand across the state to you and will keep you both in my prayers and thoughts.

Sharon ~ I wish you and your DH the best and hope that everything turns out fine. My DH was diagnosed and treated with bladder cancer in March 2007, and has been doing extremely well. I hope your DH will have the same outcome. My thoughts and prayers are with you both during this difficult time.

(((( Sharon ))))

You certainly are not alone, even though at times is will feel like you are. I am sending good thoughts and health your way.

Jodi-

Hugs for Sharon and DH!
We are here for you!

Adding my prayers to the others.

Tami

Sending prayers for you and your DH ((((Sharon)))).

Sending special thoughts and prayers to you and your DH Sharon. I do know long term survivors of lung cancer. There certainly is hope.

I am saddened, once again, by this terrible news - Sharon and husband, please know that I am sending thoughts from the heart to you from KCMO!

My deepest gratitude to all of you for your kind words, encouragement & caring.
Awaiting the VA to call now as to what day they'll be doing the needle biopsy-althought she said they're pretty certain the node is 98% malignant, as they did a PETSCAN. No surgery option as he has COPD & enphysema and his respiration is only at 28%. Once the Board reviews the biopsy-they'll decide if chemo, radiation or both.
I am usually so organized & programmed to handle any situation but I can't seem to get a handle on this-my mind is wandering all over the place.
Again-thanks Wendy and the rest of my sweet KT family..it's so reassuring to know I will have someplace and someone to ease my stress with, fill me w/encouragement, etc. when it gets to be too much.
He has always been such a procrastinator-made NO arrangements for things like this nor for me. No life Insurance-we own our manufactured home but down the road? No way will I be able to afford to pay the lot rent, utilities, etc, etc..even tho I will get around 80% of his Soc Security-which is $300 more than what mine is. I filed for disability 3 years ago-I cannot sit for more than 30 min at a time, have inoperable feet so can' walk or stand for any length of time-hard to accept any job that will provide me living costs. I SO NEEd to talk to a widow or a gal in the know-who has knowledge of any & all VA benefits for widows, etc. I just can't do this right now. I asked him a few months ago (when he was hospitalized w/bronchitis),to go with me to find out all I needed to be aware of and ready for-to no avail. Plus I can't get any of that info until he signs a release of his military info. He's a retired fighter pilot-did 2 hitches in Nam-for BOTH the Air Force AND Navy. Oh well, I have always believed that things work out...in time. Thanks again everyone!

Sharon, I am so sorry! Remembering you and DH in my prayers. Bettye

Sorry to hear your sad news. Will keep you and DH in my prayers, too.

Sharon,
I will keep you and your DH in my prayers.
Rita

*If you haven't done so already, try calling VAÂs Health Benefits Service Center, toll free at 877-222-VETS (8387), Monday through Friday between 7:00 a.m. and 8:00 p.m. EST.

*Also, here is a link for Florida veterans. www.floridavets.org/

*And I've posted a link to a Vietnam Veteran Wives forum. Perhaps you can get some support there and some much-needed guidance about benefits. You might also try going to Google and typing in "veteran wives" for links to other fourms.

Here is a link that might be useful: Vietnam Veteran Wives

Sharon,
I am so saddened to hear this news.I agree with what the others have said.Check out all the sources they have given you and also you may want to try and find out if his cancer is related to agent orange,since he was in Viet Nam.Those folks at the Viet nam wives site will probably lead you in a direction to go with that,and quite possibly the VA as well.It's worth checking into.

My DH is also a Viet Nam vet,3 tours.
In the meantime i'll lift you both up in prayers,stay strong.
Hugs
Kathi

Sending prayers for you and your DH along with many hugs and thoughts. I hope the links above can give you some information and some peace of mind.
Linda

Sharon
I am so sorry to hear this news.
However, with the medical advances there are now- he has many options available even without the surgery.

Call the VA hotline posted above and pester whoever you need or how many you need to get the info you need.This is not a good time to be having to stress over the financial decisions so much.
I will pray for you and your DH.
Bless you both.

(((((((HUGS))))))))))

Donna

Sharon, please Google VA survivor benefits and go to the VA site. My husband was killed in Vietnam and I received VA benefits, but they are also available to survivors of other military personnel. PLEASE check into this or, if you have a VA office near you, call for an appointment--he doesn't have to be with you to do that--and talk to them. See what you will need to bring in (paperwork) in order to apply.

I'm not trying to put the horse before the cart, but you need to face all the possibilities and also to take care of your own self. He gave up a good portion of his life for his country, and it may seem cold and hard to you, but as his wife, I frankly think you deserve the help.

E-mail me if you want.

Thank you so much you guys. I have been on the VA sites but I truly need to go see someone in person. The stalling is because he doesn't know where his DD214 is & I have to have that. Yesterday we were at the VA..I am SO lucky-it's about 6 miles from our home. He took a form in to request a copy of the DD214, so until I get that-NOBODY can give me any definite answers as all of his info is classified Priority Info.

Patti..I will check the Viet Nam sites-as well. He didn't qualify for any Agent Orange $$ as he was in a fighter plane, not on ground.

Bay Pines VA is one of the nicest VA's in the state! This is where he will have all treatments & has been seeing his Dr for the past 10 years. I'm sure they will help me get through every aspect of this.

All prayers are greatfully appreciated!

Sharon, my prayers and best wishes to you and DH! I'll never forget how nice you were to us when we got the chance to meet you some years ago.
JoanMN

(((((((((Sharon and DH)))))))))))) I'm so very sorry!

I'd like to add my prayers and best wishes to you and DH during this time.

((((((Sharon and DH)))))))))

I'd like to add my thoughts and prayers as well, and all of the mental/virtual support we can muster!

((((Sharon and DH))))

Sharon, good to hear Bay Pines has improved. Never heard very good things about them until lately. Must have a new director. We go to the Gainesville VA and that's why I won't move back to Pinellas. We are so happy with the care DH gets there. Only gripe is they're slow as molasses and our 9:00 appointment more often than not will actually take place at 11 or after. GRRRR!

I know you can get copies of his DD214, so fill out that form for him and send it in. I'm surprised he doesn't have one, but it's no problem. I hope he lives to 100, but at some point (we outlive the men, right?), you will need it.

Doctors aren't always right, so don't give up hope. ((((Sharon & DH))))

Sharon, I am truly sad and sorry to hear that your DH is ill and that you have all these worries and concerns for the future that lies ahead.

Thinking good thoughts for you both.

Hugs

Anne

You and DH are in my prayers, Sharon.

Ron

(((((((HUGS)))))))

Keep the faith

Danielle

Hey Swap Buddy! I'm so sorry to hear that your poor husband is suffering. My thoughts and prayers are sending your way ((((Sharon)))).

Sue

(((PRAYERS)))
bopeep

Sharing sending good thoughts and prayers for you and your husband.