Disengaging is always good
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Comments (7)Our local weekly prints the obits from information furnished by family. As this is a small town, and many of the departed are old-timers and everyone knows them, it is actually pretty personal and they all have a gazillion relatives living in town or in the County. The primary obit/death notice it put up on the door of the Post-Office with a picture and frequently an invitation the a "celebration of the life" either in the village hall, ,or in another public place, sometimes in Boomer's Saloon. Funny personal anecdote: Running across an acquaintance I had not seen for quite some time he said: "You are still around?" I told him I supposed I was, hadn't seen my picture on the P.O. door yet....See MoreThe good old days.... Maybe not always so good?
Comments (21)Sexual abuse, wife beating, inequality of women were always with us and no doubt always will be. Things were different back then, but "better" is open to debate. Nostalgic reminiscing is fun, though. It can depend a bit on your age - where in the old millenium you spent your childhood and formative years. After WWII when the vets came home, married, built or bought a house, started families just about anyone who wanted a job had one. (Not like today!) The future looked promising. Budgeting, saving, paying one's bills and meeting obligations was what people did even if it was difficult... and it often was. We kids played with toys that didn't do all the playing for us; spent a great deal of time outdoors both in the summer and winter. We used our imaginations and learned to amuse ourselves; learned to transport ourselves by opening a book. Hard to believe now that getting the old piece of furniture black & white TV was life changing! Kids today are a lot more cosmopolitan and worldly wise than we ever were, but many are going to be struggling to find a decent job - or a continuous string of decent jobs - and the money to move out of the folk's basement. Even with all the electronic toys, they're not going to have it easy by any stretch of the imagination. Although I had a very pleasant childhood and life, in general, was good, I have no desire to go back....See MoreGood design always ages well
Comments (59)I can't stop playing with the ceiling in this one. I sort of like a cathedral tray in this room. After removing the Tuscan detail on the columns, I am not sold that it is an improvement. I think they were used because the house was built in the post-modernist period and any house that is designed to be contemporary to its time (versus a historical recreation) is going to be influenced by the period. No matter what the primary style is. This is why there are light fixtures that are Deco and Colonial Revival at the same time. These two houses were designed by Venturi, Scott-Brown Associates. The house in Stony Creek was designed by Steven Izenour specifically. These are strongly post modernist and the columns here are caricatures, really. The fireplace in the Stony Creek house is a single fat column. Anyway, the house above took period influences. In Architectural Record there is a discussion of the removal of the "columns" on one side of the Stony Creek house. It improves the view but it also strongly dilutes the façade. And the cathedral-tray:...See MoreDisengaging?
Comments (10)You are right. I have always on some level felt like I have had to compete with his ex. I always feel like I have nothing to give that she hasn't already given him, and have brought this to his attention. The idea that they were together for 4 or so years and have a child together makes me wonder if spending all of this time together couldn't bring up old feelings. My past has burned me of ex's, I have had 2 serious long term relationships end because he went back to his ex. I don't think my DH would ever do that to me, but the thought it always there. I guess more so since he does spend this time together. As for the children, I agree they are ALL equal. But his time doesn't justify that equation, he doesn't know how to interact well with multiple children. I have seen this with my little SIL's, and it worries me when all of our combined children will get together. I grew up in a house where the EOW child was always favored more then anyone else, even my mother. And I know how much that hurts, I am just trying to get him to understand that (even though he doesn't see it) it will become damaging at some point. AND IT DOES, I still find myself hurt by my growing up. Though it taught me a lot about life, that is one thing I don't want my soon to be 2 children to have to experience. I did however call upon my grandmother yesterday, probably one of the smartest women I will have ever known. I spoke with her for an hour about some of the things I was going through. She agreed that some of my "issues" are valid points but that I needed to keep in mind that I am pregnant and once I have the baby and my emotions calm down that I should reevaluate some of what I feel now. She said that chances are that some of the BIG things wont seem so important and those little things wont bother me at all. It's funny how people my age tend to take the Young at Heart for granted, I thank god everyday that I have her wisdom to fall upon....See Moresunnygardenerme
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