The easiest way would be to dig the dormant plant in November, cut back the top, stuff it in a trash bag for the trip, and replant it in the Maine garden as a bare root. Will the ground be frozen Nov. 30? I would guess not in Mass., maybe but probably not in Maine. You could open the hole in advance, prepare the soil, and pile leaves over the dirt pile to keep it from freezing. Late fall planting of bare roots used to be standard procedure in zone 5. Also, mulch heavily around the Mass. plant when cold weather arrives to be sure it will remain diggable. If you transplant to a pot now, it will probably defoliate and use up energy growing new leaves, which would be killed by frosts very soon. Then you have the hassle and risk of overwintering a pot.

You have more than one 'issue' going on...best you deal with them as what they are. 1) The children's mother died. She did not divorce your husband, she died. Right up to the day this lady passed on she and your husband were a couple and the parents of these children...an intact family , if you will. Naturally these children loved their mother. They mourn their mother. They hold very fond and loving memories of their mother. It's not a slam nor a sign of disrespect to you. Fact, it's not about YOU at all. So what if they post pics of Mom? So what if they bring up Mom when occassionally speaking. She was their mother. Why would you expect them to pretend the lady did not exist now that she's died and their father has chosen to remarry? Again, it's not about YOU. 2) Of course your children would never dream of helping themselves to the home you live in. It's not their 'home'. It's a house owned by a gentleman their mother just married recently and moved into. Making a comparsion between the situation of the children's feeling of ease in this house is silly. 3) There is bound to be a lot of emotions tied to this current home your husband shared with his deceased wife and his children. Ever discuss with your husband that perhaps it is time to purchase a house together? One the two of you can claim and share as a new beginning for husband/yours relationship. One where none of the children overly feel attached to nor is filled of old memories. Are you next going to post this current house is still left exactly the way it was the day the deceased wife died? And then you sit and and wonder why you feel like the outsider being haunted by days gone by and overstepping children. Now, look at the other issue. The adult children enabling. I'm going to go out on a limb and guess these children are just doing what Mom and Dad always allowed them to do. Your correct in that these adult children should be earning their own way through life...but I'm going to bank their parents (yes Mom AND Dad) raised and enabled these 'kids' to be the self entitled dependents that they have turned out to be. Did your new husband and you discuss this issue before you said 'I do'? I guess I never quite understand how some ladies go into some of these relationships seeing how tings exactly are (or assuming things) and then get all outraged and shocked when they actually begin to wake up 'from the honeymoon' and find these issues are still very much present. The issues you find objectional didn't just poof because now you wear a ring. Sit your husband down (something you should have done before marriage) and discuss finances, household expectaions, go house hunting (who wants to live with a ghost so to say)and see where and what the two of you come up with. If you find yourself yards apart in your wants and expectations, you'll likely correct that there is not much of a future for your relationship. If you find you're both willing to work as a team to build a solid communicating, compromising future that works for both of you together then it's time to put the plan in motion and begin to work towards that future. This post was edited by justmetoo on Wed, Feb 20, 13 at 13:32

there is so much more and so much hurtful comments, i could go on and on, but what really hurts is that dad acts like nothing happened at all and does nothing. Mom of course only knows the SD version and does not want to know the rest. I do not want to take the parents place-I just don't want to be the carpet they walk on either. I told my husband that if she comes to visit again I am going somewhere else for the week. She called us to get our address to send me a birthday card---not it was court papers for more money for child support....the lie part is what angered me-she sent a xmas card only to the dog and dad. she sent a text to her father for xmas with a pic of her report card saying see i am not a failure.--no merry xmas orf nothing. i feel so bad for him...

Antiques fluctuate wildly in price from year to year and location to location. In Florida, that style is not very popular, most people having sold their antiques before they moved. Take your pictures to several good consignment shops and see if they are interested. Bear in mind their commission. In antiques, what is popular today is not necessarily your mother’s furniture, buyers looking for primitive, chipped paint, rough pieces. As an e ample of price fluctuation, many years ago I bought two coverlets for $50 each. 1834 and the state and county woven into the corner date one precisely. Several years later similar coverlets were selling for $600-800 each. This year at an auction, similar dated coverlets were selling for $150. Fashion changes in decor as it does in cars, clothing, music, etc.