Hi, Im hoping some of you can give me some advice or at least help me see things from a new perspective. My son and his girlfriend 20 & 18 are planning to get married in May. Her parents have fallen upon hard times and do not have money to pay for the wedding she wants. ($15,000) He has asked if we would help. My problem with this is that one, they are way too young to be getting married, and two, he is not able to support himself (due to debts he has accumulated)let alone a wife. He has acknowledged his unwise money choices but has yet to take action to fix these problem areas. He is in the military. Should we help pay for a wedding that we really don't support and that traditionally we are not suppose to pay for? We want to still have a relationship with our son and finance but... I feel like my husband and I are in a no win situation.