So, my oldest ss is very obviously trying to make his life as difficult as possible. We have been having a big problem lately with him lieing and not doing his work in school or out of school. He has an excuse for everything and none of the excuses are truthful.. much less even a good excuse. Well, he has a couple of extra fun field trips coming up (one that was this weekend) and we have warned him that he needs to straighten up or that he wont be going on these field trips. But, just about daily we are getting a call from the teacher about not doing his work. Thursday, we got another one of those phone calls this time his excuse was "I didnt do my homework because my mom doesnt know what she is doing" WHAT?? I couldnt believe he actually told his teacher that. Aside from the fact that it was an assignment that they have been doing since the beginning of the school year so even if she didnt know how to do it that is not an excuse ... but how can you go to school and lie about your parents that way. Well, he had a trip to Atlanta that he was supposed to leave for the next morning for the weekend...Lot's of money was spent for him to go on this field trip. But, I was so frustrated with him that I told DH I really dont feel like he deserves to go on this field trip we have warned him time after time after time and it is like he just doesnt care... like it doesnt phase him. Well, it was decided that he would go on this field trip but he wouldnt be able to go to the Epcot field trip (that happens to land on his birthday and his dad and brother were both going to as well...) And, I told DH that I would not pay for football for him. I have had talk after talk with SS and gave him ways to improve and a timeline to do so .. and nothing just more phones calls home from teachers for not even trying to do his work... So, I told him I refuse to do it. I dont feel like he deserves it and if I dont follow through he will never learn. So, anyways, we pick ss up thursday night to get ready for field trip the next morning ss tells dad "Oh I was just playing earlier on the phone when teach called you" DH was poed and let loose on him... then we sat him down and let him in on the fact that there was no epcot trip and there was no football.. It didnt seem to phase him at all.. (but part of me thinks that is because he thinks we wont follow through)... Then, we give him all of the rules for the field trip .. like only spend $20 per item you buy etc etc (BTW I still dont think he should have gone to this field trip but... I was vetoed anyways) The very same day they leave we get a call from the chaperone... SS was trying to buy a $70 pair of nikes (which would have been half of his money for a three day trip) So, DH gets on phone with ss letting him have it because we specifically told him not to purchase anything like that but then that was the first thing he tried to do...
So, now we are in this situation with a boy who just plain isnt doing his work.. (oh, and he didnt bother to do his homework that was sent with him on the trip to do either...not that I really expected that to happen since he cant be bothered to do it at home either) He is lieing every single day... and now lieing about his parents (apparently he told one of the resource teachers that "sometimes I am slick with my parents" Nice... so he knows exactly what he is doing..) And, now I am just thinking what do we do now? I dont think he should have gone on this field trip but.. he has and I really dont think that he gets it ... at all. So, I am not sure what the right answer is.. I think there is a fine line between making the point and getting him to learn his lesson and taking away to many things so there really isnt anything worth working towards... you know? I am just frustrated to no end right now.
gigglemonster
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