So when I read messages on this forum I often chuckle over what we stepmoms are told we "can" and mostly "can't" do.
So here is a list I have began compiling from our lovely bm's on here.....
CAN'T
-tell stepkids what to do
-discipline stepkids
-answer thier questions about bm's who are not in the picture
-be upset when bm doesn't do her part in taking responsibility for the child
-ever disagree with bm, becasue bm is always right
-can't be mad when stepkids throw parties in our homes...because the fact that we are an adult and their a child does not give us any more say than them!
-expect them to be kind to our kids, because then we are favoring our children
-consider ourself a parent to stepkids
CAN DO:
-let skids throw fits
-let skids say nasty things to us
-let skids be mean to their half and step siblings
-let bm's use us as a doormat, errand runner, and last minute sitter
-support stepkids financially
-cook for them
-clean up behind them
-treat the skids as our own but not allow ourself any praise for it
Please feel free to add to my list so we can all sit back and get a good laugh!!
cawfecup
mrsmaddog
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