I would check with a lawyer and doctor on this one. That's a tough situation to be in.

I think it's legal--although he could probably add himself right back on.

My question is, though, does it really matter? Would there ever be a time where your son would be at the doctor's office without you? I just can't really think of a circumstance where your son would be at the doctor, something would happen and they would call his father? If any emergency ever did occur, isn't is reasonable to assume that YOU would be at the dr with your son?

In an emergency situation like an accident or illness with a sitter or day care, and the mother could not be reached. Or if both were in an accident and the mother was incapacitated.

If I were you, I would seek sole legal custody and remove his name from 'emergency contact' lists at doctor and school.

Also, ask your attorney about appointing a guardian/conservator in the case that you are unable to make decisions (if you are ever incapacitated and unable to make decisions)

When I had my grand children stay a month with me I requested that the other grandmother send me a letter giving me the authority to make medical decisions for them. They sent one of my grand daughters to me with a broken arm and my doctor sure was glad to see I had that paper.

ditto stargazer and ima. I think what you want to accomplish (him not making medical decisions) is going to require something more official than a name or lack thereof on an emergency contact list.

I know this is different, me being an adult, but because my family (legal next of kin and people I'd want making medical decisions for me) live halfway across the country, when I'm asked to list an emergency contact, I will ask "do you want someone who can make medical decisions for me, or do you want someone who can physically come get me or meet me at the ER". Well, I should say I *used to* ask... I stopped because I generally got a blank stare as a response... or a generic "just whoever you would want us to call in an emergency" (well, that depends on what you want them to do, that's why i asked). But my point is, the people who ask for that information often don't even know the purpose for asking. I doubt, even at a doctor's office, that anything it says can supercede whoever would normally be considered legal next of kin and legally able to make medical decisions.

get full custody. he can still see his kid but won't be able to make major decisions.

Thanks ladies, I will call my lawyer tomorrow to see about full custody, I like that idea. Kind of like an "ah-ha" moment; why didn't I think of that? That is why this site is so awesome, we can all help each other out!!!!