As I have posted before my skids bm lives across the country and goes through spurts of not contacting the kids for a month or so at a time to spurts of calling weekly. Right now she has been in a weekly calling spurt (due to the oldest telling her grandma how she hated her bm because she does not care about them and never calls--since then bm has been calling regularly for the past few weeks) Anyways, I posted a while back about the bm asking us to order school pics for the kids (totalling over $100) and then sending us a check that bounced. That was months ago and she never made good on the check. So not only did we get stuck with pictures we did not even want, but we also paid a bounce fee for her bouncing a check when we deposited it in our account! And she has never paid any cs or helped with any school costs (so it was even more irritating!!)
Anyways, she called today to see how sd's party went. I answered the phone and since no kids were in the room I asked her when she planned on paying us back for the pictures she ordered. She gave me a sob story about no money and her bf losing his job (which they moved across the country a year ago because he was joining the army...so that must have been a lie!)
She never sent sd a card or present. Today she told sd she was going to buy them all (my 3 skids) valentines for them to hand out at school and mail them.
My question is why spend your money on valentines that only cost a few dollars a box and then pay just as much to ship them? She could pay for the pictures she ordered that we still have!!
It just pisses me off that she does not help support them in any way (because she keeps having more kids and crying poor---well then perhaps she should stop getting pregnant everytime she has a newborn baby!) but then she buys them halloween costumes when they tell her I already bought them costumes and now she wants to send them valentines! Why not send them something they need instead? Or maybe offer to pay for school registration? Or band lessons? Or winter coats and gloves and hats, Or ANYTHING USEFUL!
My dh told me that we can't do anything about it so there is no point in being mad, and I know he is right. But for some reason it just burns my buns when she plays "hero" by buying junk when we get stuck with buying all the boring necessities they don't remember.