Are the planets out of whack? Rant

12 years ago

Astrology buffs please chime in! I'm having an interpersonal crisis lately and need to know if it's me or can I blame it on the planets? :)

My boss is being uber-passive agressive and it's making me nuts. My assistant is retiring at the end of the month so she's got short timers disease big time. Not like she even had her heart in the job in the 14 months she's been here, but it's even worse lately.

The other assistant is going crazy because she's doing the work of 3 people and her boss is worthless, so she comes to me for advice...which in turn is making my boss even more weird about me 'not protecting my time', and turning all I do into a convoluted mess.

My work territory has a lot of weirdness about it, but none of it is anything I've done or not done...it's just the nature of the beast, so of course my boss has put a bullseye on my workload, and in turn, me. Yet at the same time, I'm getting high praises from the people I work with. In addition, I'm identifying a lot of screw ups that happened in my absence while I was out having my surgery. My job has a very technical aspect about it, and you can't just go in and make a decision without knowing the details, which is what my boss has been doing lately. So now I have to fix HER screw ups that she made look like MY screw ups. I guess part of her issue is that, she screwed up, but she's got a history of targeting staff and making their lives miserable. She gave me a positively neon glowing performance appraisal, but then she pulls this micromanaging my time/decisions/customer service crap. She and I had a little run in about my time sheet, and she went so far as to pull my key card entry log. There was a discrepency of a total of less than 30 minutes in one week. It wouldn't hold up in a disciplinary action, but just because I didn't want to let her gain ground, I suggested that I would send her an email every morning when I got it and one every evening when I left. That sent her back peddling and she told me I didn't need to do that. Oh, yes. I do. So that pretty much pissed her off and now she's gunning for other things. It's so childish!!

Ok, aside from that, my mother is being a wretched witch. I asked her last night if she was going to attend DD's graduation and she said no. What she said was "She won't even know I'm there, there will be so many people there. It's not a big deal anyway." Excuse me? College graduation, where she's worked so hard to get that double degree?? Not a big deal??? Sigh. Yet, my mother is flying across country next week to attend my cousin's wedding. The cousin I haven't seen in over 30 years. Sigh.

I am so tired of all this drama! At least home is good, and my kids are good and my DH is good. But surely there must be some kind of astral weirdness occuring?? It can't just be ME, can it?

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neetsiepie
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12 years ago
Going to contact admin to move it. Thanks
mitchdesj
12 years ago
Mercury is NOT in retrograde, I just checked, lol....

I've had a lot of weirdness lately also, it has to be something else unexplicable.

Sorry about your disappointment with your mom, makes you wonder how people are wired sometimes....
As for work, that is a tough one; hopefully it will work itself out, good luck
with that.
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Before it's too late...you need to say to your mother that she WILL notice when she is having photos taken with those that come. It will disappoint her not to have her there.

Sometimes people actually need to be told these things, they just don't realize how important this stuff is.

Congrats on the double major to your dd.

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ellendi
12 years ago
Life can be so frustrating at times. Pesky1, you are doing everything right and do not deserve this stress. It makes you wonder why people are the way they are. It is not HARD to be nice and fair minded.
For whatever reason, your mother is feeling unimportant. Could there be reasons for this? I agree with Bee, it will be noticed if she is not in the pictures.
Bee, sorry about the loss of your daughter's friend. There just aren't words for this kind of tragedy.
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12 years ago
Pesky, sorry to see your having one of those kinds of weeks. I don't think there is anything worse then being micromanaged. Nothing good comes from it and why some people in management feel that's a necessary thing to do is beyond me. If it continues into the next week, maybe you should consider having a chat to find out what the core of the problem really is. I suspect that she resented you being gone and her having to fill in on some of your responsibilities. The good news is, it's Friday, time to kick up your heals and enjoy your family. Double congrats for your DD's double accomplishment, that is huge!

I don't know what to say about your Mom, we have a large family and I've had similar experiences with my own mother. It can be really hurtful. Maybe it's the difference in generations, or like someone else said, she's not feeling important or valued. You won't know unless you talk to her. Invite her to a Mother Daughter lunch, or figure out a way for just the two of you to spend some time. Tell her you love her and it's important to you as well as your daughter that she's there. The time and energy it will take is worth it if it reaps a good out come.
kellyeng
12 years ago
Weird week? Yeah, you could say that.

My 41yo, healthy, beautiful, sweet sister-in-law who has three equally precious children died Sunday night from a blood clot traveling from her leg to her heart. The funeral yesterday was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever witnessed. Watching three children completely lost in misery is almost more than I can take.

On Tuesday my mom calls and says that my brother is in the hospital with liver failure and going through severe DTs. We had no idea he was an alcoholic. He's bi-polar and now this. My mom is devastated and I'm really worried for her.

I've never been so emotionally exhausted and I'm just on the periphery of the tragedy.

My perspective today is much different than it was a few days ago.
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12 years ago
OMG, Kelleyeng, I don't think there are words that could make you feel better right now. I'm so sorry for your loss. Those poor children, my heart breaks for them. I don't know what DTs are, but I'm hoping your brother will make it through this. Please keep us posted and know you're in my thoughts and prayers. Lukki
msdeborahd
12 years ago
Check this out, it might provide some insight..

Here is a link that might be useful: http://www.astroalchemy.com/thismonth.html
tinam61
12 years ago
Kelly - I am so sorry to hear about your SIL. Such a shock! I am so sorry for your brother and the children, all of you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers. I'm also sorry to hear about your brother.

You are numb I am sure. Tired and emotionally drained. My family went through 3 family illnesses/death last year and until then I had never imagined how hard it could be. You wonder how much more you can take. I hope your family is able to pull together and hold on to each other. Those precious children will help you, I am sure you will devote yourselves to them, but you still hurt. The only thing I can say is to try to take care of you and each other. Let others help when they can. The one positive thing I will say is that my family members grew even closer with what we went through. Just love each other and share your grief. Your mom is going to need you. I hope there are other family members to help. Again, I am so very sorry for all you and your family are going through.

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12 years ago
pesky, I took the liberty of getting out my tarot and did a reading for you regarding work. Since I only know you from gw, it was interesting doing one for someone I don't know in person - I do this as a lark for my family so this not to be taken too seriously! (but yours was interesting!)

anyway, here it goes...

base of the matter
you have cut someone off cold

where you are now
new avenues are opening up

hopes and fears
a position of power is in the future along with new determination

present and passing
you have had an upsetting confrontation but it will be resolved

forces for and against you
something will happen that is not as planned

near future
you feel as though you have been plodding along with no reward. something new is coming

how the future will unfold
an offer is in your future

new turn of events
practical help is arriving

future
you have no interest in an offer, but it's ok. new avenues are opening

outcome
you will impress someone and you will be in demand and popular. (that last one sounded like a fortune cookie)

3 of the 10 cards were sixes. Many sixes indicate adjustments in thoughts, attitudes and conditions and also represent the ability to transcend difficulties.

bee and kellyang, I am so sorry for your loss.

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