Pregnancy issues....feeling like carp

15 years ago

Boy being pregnant 2 years in a row and 4 babies and pregnancies in 5 years really stinks sometimes. I will get DH to post a pic, but I have been asked several times if I am due in July.... I say no the middle of November. I am really feeling it this time around, didn't have any morning sickness, took some meds and it made all the difference. But now that I am getting so much bigger already, my pelvis is so out of whack, and the chiropractor told me that making adjustments will be harder because my pelvis is loosening up and won't stay the way it is supposed to, that and my sciatic nerve started acting up a week ago Sunday and have no feeling in my right leg from my butt to my foot.

I helped DH move a roll of carpet from the truck downstairs ( I know, I know stupid move) and now my belly is hurting in all the muscles and ligaments are aching all over. Add to that my hormones are in overdrive. The house is a mess and the gardens need to be worked in. DH tilled the veggie garden and need to plant. The girls will help me plant, so we could have plants in interesting places, but at this point I don't care.

All I know is that being a year older, and I am almost 33 being pregnant isn't as easy as it was when I was 27 when I got pregnant with Rhiannon. We are in the middle of a remodel and all the rooms in the house will be moved around, and I mean every room. DH now has a "a man cave" downstairs and he has been working hard getting it ready this weekend and this week.

Just wanting to whine a little bit, my uterus ligaments and muscles are hurting so bad, it hurts to even stand up and move around. I am already wearing my maternity support belt to hold up my stomach, it is already starting to sag, Hayden weighs over 20 pounds and at 9 months isn't walking but crawling and walking around things and is into everything, so I have to carry him around which hurts each time I lift him. Add to that my worries about the in-laws and my mom had surgery a week and a half ago and can't do any lifting so can't help me out much. The girls are going to my sis's this weekend and take all 3 and give me time to heal a little bit.

Just complaining I guess:)

Stacie

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nodakgal
15 years ago
Oh gosh Stacie! You have my sympathies! I wish I was closer and I'd come and put you to bed awhile and "baby" you and them babies!
I'm just sorry there isn't more I can do than to offer a big, big hug!
(((Stacie)))
Linda Wayman
15 years ago
Stacie, you poor dear. You are going to have to slow down and take it easy. Even if you weren't pregnant you would have a lot on your plate because of those younguns of yours. I hope things get easier for you.

I hate to make fun of you, but I couldn't help but laugh when I read that you were feeling like a fish.

Linda
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I wish I could help you, too! I remember those feelings in my 4th pregnancy. It was unexpected, we were moving from FL to TN, my other kids were 8, 5 and 2. Between pregnancies and nursing, I was starting to feel like a hormonal baby machine, no time to have my body to myself! DH was already in TN, so I was trying to keep a house ready to show and pack. All the while feeling miserable, including bad morning sickness. And getting big fast? LOL. I can tell you my first sign was NOT missing a period. Even before that, my pants would not button! ;o) Just popped right out there! Right from the start people asked if I was having twins. I was not much fun to live with at that time. I was the most tired I've ever been in my life, physically and emotionally. And the hormones just make it harder to cope.

Rest! Rest! Rest! Don't push yourself. Maybe a sling for the baby would put his weight on your shoulders instead of your lower back/belly.

If it helps to know that someone can relate... I feel your pain!!
okwriter
15 years ago
My gosh! You have a LOT on your plate!! I hope you have a restful weekend.
paula_pa
15 years ago
What kind of maternity belt do you have? Mine has been a godsend. I just bought the only one they had in BRU but I noticed they made different ones. Maybe you need something stronger.

I have one like this.
This one looks like it might offer more support.

I've seen some that are just the lower belt and they don't seem as supportive.
maybee_gw
15 years ago
I don't feel like carp today...more like a salmon :o)
Marcia Thornley
15 years ago
Oh gosh, you have every right to complain and feel like "carp" LOL! Do whatever you can to get some feel-good time for yourself! And do not worry about the garden or the state of the house! It will all come together in time!
Cherryfizz
15 years ago
I haven't been lucky to have babies but reading your words I can feel your pain and tiredness. You sure do have a lot on your plate especially with a 9 month old to look after. A baby sling sounds like a good idea.

My niece is 5 months pregnant and she looks like she is due now. I was so surprised when I saw how big her baby belly had grown.

Try to get some bed rest while the kids are away.

(Stacie)

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susanjf_gw
15 years ago
stacie...don't lift your ds...keep an umbrella stroller around...it's far easier and prehaps the other kids won't mind pushing him...we lived in a small condo and that's what i had to do the last time..of course i later found out it was twins...

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