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15 years ago

Do you talk to yourself?

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boxiebabe
15 years ago
Yes, frequently!
curlysue
15 years ago
I hear voices, but I don't think it is me.
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lindaohnowga
15 years ago
Oh yes, I talk to myself and I listen to myself quite well too. LOL
gadgets
15 years ago
Yes, I do, but as I've told people over the years, there's a good reason for it. I'm the only one smart enough to understand me. LOL

(good one, curlysue)

Shirley
Granlan_TX
15 years ago
Sometimes, but I keep saying the same ol' things cause I have no memory. LOL
mariend
15 years ago
Yep, even answer myself--as I tell kids/grandkids want to come up with the "right"question so I will get the right answer from them
itsmesuzq
15 years ago
Oh yes...and it's getting worse as I age. It's embarassing in a store where others can hear me. ~LOL~ I also have conversations with myself in the car as I'm driving. Hey, but who better to talk with than yourself? Remember the book "The Artists Way"? Well in that book the author tells you to "date" yourself (one day a week). I tried that too, and it's really a lot of fun.

Can you tell I live alone? And probably will for a very long time.

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alisande
15 years ago
Since I live alone, I positively babble!
Marilyn Sue McClintock
15 years ago
Oh, once in awhile, but mostly I am talking to Izzi, sometimes she talks back to me! We have some nice conversations!

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rthummer
15 years ago
Yes, I often talk to myself. But I Never answer myself back that would be crazy wouldn't it? Yes. I mean No. Nevermind.;o)
pris
15 years ago
I not only talk to myself, I answer myself also. You get the best answers that way.

I recently retired after working 20 years for the same company. By the time I left, my secretary and my boss were talking to themselves. Don't know if it's catching or if I drove them to it. (afraid to ask)
mylab123
15 years ago
This is a weird one because I have a weird quirk. I don't talk to myself, but I talk FOR my dog, and then answer for her.

Example:

She comes into the kitchen because she want's a treat. It goes like this.

*high pitched voice*

"Mommy, my tummy is growling and I need a treat to shut it up!"

Regular tone of voice back to her

"Ok cutie pie, here you go!"

I mean, I never thought in my whole life I would act like such a laughable fool!

but.....I don't care. It's what we do. I'm approaching 60 - I chalk it up to impending senility which shouldn't happen for another 20 years, if my genes are any good at all and I get lucky *LOL*

Other than that, I appear to myself to be fairly normal in everyday habits. I hope I'm correct ;)
tammyms
15 years ago
Yes I do talk to myself. Sometimes I answer as well.
monica_pa Grieves
15 years ago
Yes, but not out loud :)

I find that I usually get the best advice (and confidential, too) when I talk something out with myself.
barbara3
15 years ago
Of course, all the time. Sometimes it's the most intelligent conversation I can find! LOL ;)
Chemocurl zn5b/6a Indiana
15 years ago
I thought everyone did.
samkaren
15 years ago
sometimes but I do sing when i am in the car driving
jkayd_il5
15 years ago
Yes. My DH is always teasing me about that person I talk to in the shower. I was in a store one day and a lady was looking at a spice. She said something about it being too expensive. I looked at her to see if she was talking to me but then she said to herself. Well, I don't need it yet anyway and walked away. I had to laugh because it could have been me.
stargazzer
15 years ago
nope, I may say da* out loud if I stub my toe or break something.
dibby
15 years ago
Constantly and it IS embarassing in stores!
milkdud_2007
15 years ago
I tend to talk to myself out loud. It's only embarrassing when I'm caught doing it out in public!
stephanie_in_ga
15 years ago
I call it "thinking outloud." I do it a lot. The family has learned when I'm talking to them and when I'm talking to myself.

And "date yourself..." I go out to lunch by myself a couple times a month- not fast food, sit down service. I absolutely love to do that! I can go anywhere I want and no one disagrees with my choice! I do not talk to myself at the table. ;o) But I do take a book or my iPod touch to play a game. When I have time to myself I make the most of it, do whatever I want and forget about everything else that "needs" me.
lynn_d
15 years ago
you betcha! And to the cats, birds and fish too!
twinklenose
15 years ago
Yes, but no longer worry about appearing strange. Not with "everyone" doing it--with those bluetooth headset phone thingies attached to their ears!
marlingardener
15 years ago
I hate to say how many times I've answered someone in a store only to find out they were talking on the cell phone, and not to me! So when I am out and about, I talk to myself quietly, hoping anyone who overhears me will think I am technically ept, and not ga-ga.
At home I speak to the cat (she doesn't listen) and to the chickens (they forget our conversations quickly). I do hold interesting chats with a few plants . . . .
glenda_al
15 years ago
I know I do!
des_arc_ya_ya
15 years ago
Sure do and it looks as though I am in good company doing it! LOL
jel48
15 years ago
Frequently :)
caflowerluver
15 years ago
Yes and I will have quite a debate too. Sometimes even raise my voice.
"You know you shouldn't eat that!"
"But I have been very good all week and I deserve it, darnit!"
LOL
Clare
minnie_tx
15 years ago
Of course I just wish I had listened to my self when I really did know better so many years ago!!!
patti43
15 years ago
You are all so funny tonight. I mainly do it when I'm preoccupied, but since y'all make it sound like so much fun, I just may do it more often.
nan_nc
15 years ago
Often, especially when I've done something exceptionally stupid or clumsy.

I talk to the cats a lot more. They are such different personalities, and their cues are so different, there are different conversations for each. I swear they know what I'm saying, and sometimes answer me by their actions or by different types of "meow."

Talking to DH, now that is a different story. Don't even try. Just keep him fed and with clean clothes and a reasonably clean house. Talk about talking to yourself!
marilyn_c
15 years ago
Not a lot. I will tend to cuss out loud a lot when I mess up something.

I talk to my animals, but each animal has a phrase that I say to it, over and over. Like, to Piggy Sue, I say, "Everybody is mean to the pigths." and "Let me scratch your old butt."

I call each cat by it's name and I talk to the dogs...usually telling them they are "good dogs".
Cherryfizz
15 years ago
All the time but mostly to the animals LOL and never in public!

I was playing Lexulous tonight on Facebook with my friend Dave and my sister was asking me who I was talking to. Dave asked me a question and I answered it out loud before I typed my reply.

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