(((Stacy)))but you answered this time and you are going to be there for her soon. You are not a horrible sister for heavens sake.

Stacy...don't beat yourself up. You are not a horrible sister. You had no way of knowing what was going on. We all get in our moods. I wish your family the very best and you too. Things will work out. Save your energy for being there for them now.

(((Stacy)))

Sending good thoughts their way. I hope your BIL has a complete recovery.

(((Stacy)))

Sending special healing thoughts for the family.

you are not horrible Stacy, sending healing thoughts to your BIL.
Diane

Hi again Stacy,

Please don't beat yourself up ... for whatever reason, having to do with what was going on in your life at the time, you chose to not answer the phone.

Then it turned out that it was serious business.

I didn't hear you saying anything about, had you known, you'd have gone out to drive them home. Had that been the case, then you can feel sad that you aren't able to be as helpful as you could have been, had you known.

As it is, you weren't able to commisserate with your sister and offer her understanding and support during those few hours of her need.

Some years ago I read a book called, "Games People Play" ... and one of the games that we play, usually when beating ourselves up, is the "If only ...." game.

It's a fruitless enterprise, Stacy - we need to learn from the experiences of life as we go, and evaluate whether we might have done better, with some thought as to things that we may want to do in future to (maybe) avoid such problems and difficulties in future. But beating ourselves up for what we did achieves nothing, except to cut ourselves down.

Sometimes we find it easier to forgive others for their errors of commission or omission ... than to forgive ourselves. But we really do need to forgive ourselves.

It's related to self-acceptance, for one thing. And if we don't love/accept ourselves ... we can't love others, effectively.

You'll soon be giving them as much of your time, help and support as you are able.

I'm sending hopes that your BIL may heal well, and quickly, without ongoing rstriction, and for strength, wisdom and courage for all of you as you travel this difficult road together. I'm sending some prayers for healing, as well.

(((((Stacy and family)))))

Good wishes, affectionately offered, to all of you for the days ahead.

ole joyful

Good words, Joyful, good words!

Thanks everyone for thinking of them! I haven't talked to her yet this morning as it is still early and I am not sure how far they were going to try and travel last night. I sure appreciate all the kind words and OJ yours were great....Stacy

Stacy, I wish I was as eloquent as OJ! He's so right on! Where in Texas are they located?

They live in Buna there business is in Vidor....Stacy

Hugs, prayers, and good thoughts for your sister and her DH Stacy. And lighten up on yourself. Your body is making changes, and you need to let it get back to normal. We all have moods. And not answering the phone because you were in a 'mood' is not a bad thing. At least you recognize when your in one.
Leslie

Stacy,
Don't feel bad...please. We've all been in "moods" before! I will pray for your sis and her DH.

who knows what you might have said, had you answered while "In your mood"...I do that frequently...

Don't beat yourself up over this Stac...Healing and special thoughts going out to your BIL...AND YOU TOO!!

Thanks again everyone I just called my sister and she said Stephen had a great night sleep first night he slept all night long. And today they have the bed in the front part of the motorhome made out and he is riding comfortably!! So your thoughts and prayers are helping tons. He is breathing better she said and his color is super! Thanks so much again!! Stacy

So sorry for you BIL!
My DS broke his back and was in a body cast for 12 weeks.

Healing thoughts for him!

Sending hugs and prayers for you and your family.