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Former stalker & Facebook Help, panicing!!!!

blitzyblond_protege

12 years ago

How do I block everyone with the same name as a former stalker from being able to view anything about my page? He stalked me for two years, during that time he blew-up abandoned structures in town, set another girl's house on fire, The cops arrested him for trying to blow-up our house..........

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sushipup1
12 years ago
If you're trying to avoid a stalker, and a dangerous one at that, just shut down your Facebook page. Even if he is blocked. he'll find a way to get to your page.

Facebook isn't worth it if you think this person is dangerous.
moonie_57 (8 NC)
12 years ago
I agree, sushipup
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marie_ndcal
12 years ago
It is not only dangerous to you and your family, but anyone on your facebook.. Sorry, I agree with others. Did you get a restraining order? If not why not?
jennmonkey
12 years ago
You can just block him. Go into your privacy controls. He'll probably be able to see you have a page but not any info on it.
arkansas girl
12 years ago
I have my settings set that only friends can see. Otherwise they can get to maybe my name and that's it. Don't even put your picture as your profile pic, just put a flower or something miscellanious...but I agree with others, just get off of facebook, it's just not worth it.
ravencajun Zone 8b TX
12 years ago
I would recommend going to the cyberangels site and ask for help. That is what they do. I am very anti Facebook and if he is determined just blocking him won't stop him, hacking FB is so simple there are multiple sites listed on a Google search telling how to do it.

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lynn_d
12 years ago
If you are afraid then you need to not be on Facebook. That is the first thing we do when a new woman enters our Help Center, both her's and the kid's. Not even under a phoney I.D. because chances are he knows the names of your friends and family. Bless your sweet heart.
oldgardener_2009
12 years ago
I'd worry more about getting a restraining order than anything else.
lazypup
12 years ago
You could just block him,,,but he would probably be back on with a dozen other screen names within an hour...

The smart thing to do is what was already mentioned,,close your facebook account,,,and GET A RESTRAINING ORDER
OklaMoni
12 years ago
That's why I don't go on facebook. Not that the ex is stalking... but I don't want him to read what all goes on in my life.

Hope you take the others advice, and get off there.

Moni
justlinda
12 years ago
Not my cup of tea either. I wonder in the next couple of decades if your "cute" pics of family might cause some members to be haunted by what you posted. That alone would be enough for me, for once it's OUT THERE, there's no way to erase it. I think it's also a playground for hackers to practice their tools of the trade. MHO only.
blitzyblond_protege
Original Author
12 years ago
I think you're all right. The R.O. was made permanent when he was sentenced, but we all know a piece of paper filed in a Court House don't stop the action, it just gives the courts a history. Didn't think he would be loose so soon.

Ravencajun, thanks for the link.

l.marie
nikki_nj
12 years ago
Take yourself out of the public search. Then he can look you up all he wants under any name and you won't show up. No one can see anything on your page unless you give them permission.
arkansas girl
12 years ago
I just don't see what is so fantastic about facebook that would make me just have to have it if it promoted a person that's stalking me to be able to stalk easier! Seems just like a no brainer to me...GET THE HECK OFF FACEBOOK ALREADY! Problem solved!!!!!
dedtired
12 years ago
I have my FB settings so that no one but Friends can see any info. Even then I wonder what happens when one of my comments shows on another person's Wall. If they have not made their page private, the whole world can see it. I am astounded by what people put out there.

I have begun to use FB as a sort of Newsfeed. I follow posts from sites that interest me, although I still can't resist commenting from time to time.

I also wonder about all the info on Gardenweb. It is totally public and everything we post is out there. Try Googling your user name and see what comes up. The internet has made privacy a thing of the past.
Caran79
12 years ago
What rips me is the pictures, stories, etc., that
people take from someone else's page and put it on
their own. To open it up to Lord knows who, and how
many.

I have seen personal pictures on a message board, with the
comment..."saw this on Facebook"....etc.
grittymitts
12 years ago
Kids & Grands thought I should join Facebook -I finally did late one night. Next morning there were 56 people wanting to be-friend me. Took me about 2 minutes to cancel.

Have you ever Googled screen name used for this site?
justlinda
12 years ago
I was just sitting here thinking about this ~ imagine sitting on a crowded bus, with your photo album tucked under your arm and suddenly you see somebody at the back of the bus you haven't seen for quite a while. You pass the photo album to them and tell them to shuffle through it to see what your family has been up to. Next thing you know, there's a crowd around your album pulling out pics that they want/like, and then off the bus they go.

I know I wouldn't feel comfortable with this situation, and I sort of feel the same about most of the "social" sites, even those that you don't post photos on. Like maybe some of the info you pass on is for family only.

Guess I shouldn't get on the computer so late at night. Gets my mind working too hard, LOL.

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