Is everyone living on Facebook?

8 years ago

Okay, I'm pretty internet savvy. I've been on Facebook for around 10 years, so nothing new. But I've been on somewhat of a self-imposed exile from the site for the past few years due to a few things, including a big drama which is just a whole other story. I was also a bit judgemental about just how navel-gazing that world is. But got sucked back in - originally by my street - which has a private Facebook group to keep people aware of what is going on. Then by Bunz, which I just discovered and am using to list some of my stuff as I declutter. Then decided to update my profile and posted a photo album of my garden...

The response has been crazy. Just a day and 60 Likes of album and counting. Childhood friend from forever ago gets in touch - says he is dating a former co-worker of mine from 10 years ago - by the time I finally get back in touch with him, they are no longer together. Family pops in and starting multiple conversations. People posting they are "sad" and everyone expressing condolences on another friend's page - I think someone has died, did I miss the memo? Another old friend wants to "re-connect". And then the whole Bunz thing is crazy too - things I couldn't give away on Kijiji or Craigslist - people are scrambling and running over to trade stuff for! I've already scored 3 bottles of wine, homemade tomato sauce and apple butter, 2 cartons of orange juice and some money just over the weekend. And I'm getting stressed because I feel like if I'm not on every minute, I am missing something. Just what I was afraid of - Crazy!

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8 years ago

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Chi
8 years ago
Your Facebook seems much busier than mine! I just use it to keep in touch with family and friends.
LaLennoxa 6a/b Hamilton ON thanked Chi
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Michael
8 years ago
We have a family group. I have blocked the rest of the world.
LaLennoxa 6a/b Hamilton ON thanked Michael
maire_cate
8 years ago
I'm way behind you in the social media race - the only one I signed up for is Instagram so that I can see the photos my dd posts.

And I've never heard of Bunz. ----oh happy ignorance.
LaLennoxa 6a/b Hamilton ON thanked maire_cate
angelaid_gw
8 years ago
So, just go back into exile?
Not sure what you are asking, or looking for ...
LaLennoxa 6a/b Hamilton ON
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8 years ago
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If you are looking for a question, you can check out the thread title. But otherwise, I'm just making a post, because I can, like everyone else on here.
morz8 - Washington Coast
8 years ago
Kiddo, I think DH could spare some pants if you'd like me to send you some. You seem to be short on clothes.
User
8 years ago
Facebook is mainly boring. I joined to keep up with family and then joined the neighborhood page. Not a whole lot of drama.
socks
8 years ago
I have no interest in Facebook. Joined once years ago and found it just too much in every way for me.
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ravencajun Zone 8b TX
8 years ago
Never joined not interested. I have way too much life going on.
Kathsgrdn
8 years ago
I am there, keep in touch with family and friends. Found my mom's relatives in Japan a few years ago!
moonie_57 (8 NC)
8 years ago
To me, FB is no different than posting here at the KT. You participate only when you want. I tried to keep my friends to 35 and under but I'm up to just over 40. I belong to a few gardening groups. I may post daily or go weeks only reading and looking at photos. No drama to deal with. Just like here at the KT, if it starts getting nasty, you simply step away for a few weeks.
lindaohnowga
8 years ago
I gave in and finally joined Facebook mainly because there are many crafting sites on Facebook to which I belong. We also have a site for our town, so I can keep up with what is going on around me. I pretty much ignore a lot of the junk that gets posted.
Yayagal
8 years ago
FB fan here as we have a siblings site and chat every day.
eld6161
8 years ago
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I also keep mine to a minimum. I hate how there are advertisements and political commentaries or various agency solicitations. FB was supposed to be just a way for friends and family to keep in touch. not what it has turned into.

That said, sometimes there were times that FB was the main way to communicate with DD's when they were traveling. So for me, it has its purpose.
Jasdip
8 years ago
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I joined FB a couple of years ago; I have about 20 friends. Most have the same likes as me. One person who I know in real life unfollowed me because everything I said politically, she would defend the tax increases, annual increase cost of car license, and more expensive everything.

I have a couple of groups that I belong to, and that one can be fairly busy, with new ideas and conversations.

I've never heard of Bunz, and I'm not far from you. I do Kijiji and Freecycle, both giving/selling and receiving.
rhizo_1 (North AL) zone 7
8 years ago
I'll bet you DO create a buzz with that profile picture, lol!
Marcy
8 years ago
morz8!!! LOL!!!
littlebug zone 5 Missouri
8 years ago
I have learned things I'd rather not know, as a result of political postings on Facebook which got downright vicious, about some of my real-life friends. And I've learned which of my Facebook friends have waaay too much time on their hands ('I scored 6 out of 20 on this quiz! Bet you can't do better! Share!!!' Or 'Share if you think kids should learn cursive in school'! Or 'Share if you love Jesus!') I've learned who are the drama queens ("I feel so bad and I can't sleep at night because my friend said ..... on Facebook!!") And I also learned that at least one of my cousins is a Facebook stalker. :(

Give me a break. I've blocked a lot of people and blocked a lot of trash (any post that pleads that you Share.)

Other than that, I like Facebook.
jemdandy
8 years ago
I'm a maverick. I do not have a face book account.
lily316
8 years ago
I've been on FB for ten years at least. I spend way too much time there but I connected with two college roommates and my first friend I had when we were three years old. I like it for political stuff, news, animal stories and best of all live cams of my beloved ospreys.
Rita / Bring Back Sophie 4 Real
8 years ago
I am so not a Facebook fan. I have no interest in anything that service offers. My children and their friends don't care for FB either.
angelaid_gw
8 years ago
No, I don't "live" on Facebook. I do, however, utilize it to interact with family, friends, and groups, that are close to my heart, but not close enough in proximity to engage in personal interaction.
Apparently, I am "internet savvy" enough to avoid the "drama" and, undue, "stress" that you describe.
Fun2BHere
8 years ago
I'm with Jemdandy. I can do without FB. If I want to talk to someone, I call them...so old fashioned, I know.
arcy_gw
8 years ago
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What is this Bunz? I got on FB to see what my boss posts about our program..it was easier to get the pictures there than from him directly...its a quagmire of stupidity for the most part IMHO. When the internet hit the scene everyone acclaimed how cool for the children to reach out and connect/communicate with people all over the world. The reality is young people cannot talk face to face, do not truly connect but have false impressions of relationships... Everything has good intentions but the reality for MANY is the opposite.
Bluebell66
8 years ago
I like FB....to a degree. I created a fake account so I can follow all my sewing, quilting and cooking communities. There is lots of how to info I enjoy there. I don't do drama and don't get involved in groups that seem to foster it, and I am not FB friends with people from years ago that aren't my friends in real life.
Jasdip
8 years ago
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I find Facebook very user-"unfriendly". If I see a topic that I'm interested in, when I try to find it again, I can't. It's a horrible site to wade through.

As Littlebug said, so many people live and share every minute detail. "I'm tired, I'm going to bed." And this is the post, not a comment in a discussion. Geez, just go, already. Everything is an announcement.

I've installed Facebook Purity which can weed out crap. I've filtered religious words, and other things that don't interest me, so I don't see those feeds. I also have to manually set it to Newest posts first instead of FB automatically having it set to Top Stories. Purity sets it to newest, automatically as well.
sprtphntc7a
8 years ago
not on FB, have no interest. although would like to join some hobby sites. but still have not.

mostly around here, its a "competition". "i went here", "we went to dinner", basically, i have so many friends, i go to so many places, my family is great!! UGH, give me a break.. i am the complete opposite, i don't want anyone to know anything i do. if i do, i tell them..

i don't need the stress/pressure and i don't have the time to keep up with it all... just not for me...

my DD says my age group is a "bunch of creepers", which in her opinion is not what FB is for...LOL...

FB free and Loving It!!!!
artemis_ma
8 years ago
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I like being in FB, re-connected with lots of folk from the past... we all moved a lot. Also relatives. I don't appear to know many if any drama queens.

But i limit my time there. I'm sick of all the political commentary, whether or not i agree with a given point.

So, I'm glad to have FB, to learn about life events of friends and relatives, track my cousin with her super fascinating Smithsonian career, encourage other friends thru illnesses, keep tabs on my local book club and when we will meet. I just don't care to live there.

Edit - I do not ever share those "copy this to your wall" demands. Fortunately most of my friends can't stand those either .
sjerin
8 years ago
No fb for me, purposefully. I've been tempted when relatives/friends ask me to join, but the insidious push by fb to get you to stay on and 'share', not to mention the advertising, turns me off.
Alisande
8 years ago
When I read complaints about FB I can't relate because my experience has been so different. Maybe it depends partly on whom we allow to be our FB friends. I love being able to be in touch with my friends and family. I enjoy sharing photos, especially ones taken by my dad in the 30's and 40's. FB is also a source of useful information for me.

Through FB, I connected with several cousins I'd lost track of over the years. And through FB and a helpful FB friend via the KT, I was excited to find one I hadn't known about. She was excited too, and drove out to visit me a couple of years ago.

FB isn't pushing me to do anything--and yes, I'm pretty sure I'd be aware if it--and I mostly don't notice the advertising. No, I don't live on FB. But I do appreciate it.
User
8 years ago
It's never held any interest for me. I barely have time to enjoy reading through this board. I can't imagine the demands of another such website. Nope! Sorry! Not my "thing".
Rusty
8 years ago
I'm on Facebook, and I like it a lot. It's a fast and easy way to stay in contact with people that I'd probably lose track of otherwise. It's easy to 'pick and chose' friends. It's easy to pick and chose sites I am interested in. I do get a little aggravated at times with the 'suggested' sites that Facebook puts on my timeline, but they are easily deleted. Thanks to Facebook, I have a lot of new-to-me recipes to try. There are many posted that seem like a disaster waiting to happen, those I don't save. And there have been a number of crafts I want to try.

So, no, I don't 'live' there, but I do usually check in to it once or twice a day.

Could you tell us more about this "Bunz" you mentioned?

Rusty
Summer
8 years ago
Bunz: link
Summer
8 years ago
I only use Facebook because it is a necessity to access certain information related to my interests. Other than that, I have no friends, no followers, no photos, no comments.
User
8 years ago
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But...but...

people might FIND me...!
Olychick
8 years ago
Like Bluebell, I have a fake fb account but never use it. I created it to keep tabs on a dear friend's abusive, alcoholic, narcissistic ex. He blocked her from seeing his stuff, he wasn't supposed to drink when their son was with him, but it was obvious he was - he couldn't control himself about things he posted on FB. She needed to know what was going on, but was suffering from ptsd from his treatment of her and their son. So I watched and reported for her, then when she was stronger, gave her the password so she could watch him herself. I'm friended with my son so I can see what he posts about my grandchild; I see my grandson most days, but his dad always is posting cute pics or videos of him, which I enjoy.

I see my friends in real life and don't "get" FB and people's obsession with it at all. 354 friends? Really? I don't think so.
chisue
8 years ago
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How do you 'converse' with multiple people without limiting yourself to trivialities. I like to speak with individuals, person to person.
User
8 years ago
I'm not on Facebook. I already mismanage my time. :0)
User
8 years ago
FB is just another stop on my daily online visits. It's not much different than visiting GardenWeb. I joined a few years ago when my brother died to stay in touch with cousins living at a distance. My "friend" list is manageable ... relatives, former co-workers, friends I met on GardenWeb years ago and general friends.
artemis_ma
8 years ago
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3 years ago, a good friend a state away slipped and fell on her icy driveway. It was far easier for her daughter to keep us posted about her mother's temporary coma via Facebook than to send out individual e mails to people this daughter did not directly know. Her mother has indeed made a great recovery. But i thank FB for the ability for so many of us to be kept in the loop. Chisue, I like direct conversation, too. But, in the above case, FB was an awesome connection.
Alisande
8 years ago
How do you 'converse' with multiple people without limiting yourself to trivialities. I like to speak with individuals, person to person.

Serious, Chisue? You've been at the KT for some time, conversing with multiple people. Yes, light topics here much of the time, but not always.
jakkom
8 years ago
I have a Facebook acct to keep in occasional touch with some folks, but hardly ever check it - maybe two or three times a year, at most. The majority of our friends don't use it. Our neighborhood's listserv, like most in our city, are hosted on Yahoo Groups.
Michael
8 years ago
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It always puzzles me when people claim to have reconnected with their best friends, etc., on FB. Don't you have a phone? And how do "best" friends become disconnected?
oldgardener_2009
8 years ago
I use it to keep track of distant family, but I don't post anything of my own. I do put up a new profile picture once or twice a year so they know I'm still there. Mostly it's just so family can contact me easily, I don't have any interest in posting anything about me.
Mystical Manns
8 years ago
I don't think I know anyone who is "living on Facebook!" I'm doing good to make a post a couple times a week, and most of my friends / family are the same. If I lost touch with someone 20 years ago, it was generally for a good reason and I don't need them back now. My Friends list is very small which probably is why I don't see a lot of "stuff."
mamapinky0
8 years ago
Years ago a friend decided I should have fb so I could play games with her. She set up my account. I've never played games lol. Think I only have been on fb a few times. A few lovely people inthe laundry room set up a private by invitation only fb. I've been there only a handful of times. I'm just not a fb kinda girl. My daughter has a fake name fb that only family and her bf know the name just as an emergency in case someone's trying to reach me and my phone is broken which has happened a few times. They than send Amiee a private fb message to get ahold of me.

My boys 8&(10on the 29'th) don't do any internet so no fb. I am considering teaching them about fb as an emergency in case anything should ever happen to them and they need to contact Amiee.

I'm also not on any other social media, just Houzz.

I have too much to do here with my daughter and two boys I just don't have the time. Some of you that are of the age with grown kids can think back to the days they were kids and how busy you were with home and family..not enough hours in the da y. LOL

Is everyone living on Facebook?

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