Demanding Adult Daughter
I came upon this site by a "happy accident". I am at my wits end here.
My daughter is an adult married woman with four small children. She has a good job as does her husband. They do not know the meaning of financial responsibility as whenever a "crisis" occurs, they always come to me to bail them out. I am by no means rich but in the past, have given them help. I finally put my foot down and said "no" as I strongly suspect that they are not being honest with me. First of all, my daughter let slip that her husband gambles. Second of all, they have added income of a rental property. And lastly, her husband has a bank account with his money that she has no access to.
Why I am writing this is they are now trying to get money from me to "buy a house". They want me to foot the downpayment, no loan, a gift. The amount that they need keeps changing, and I don't believe the money is for that. I think it will go to the husband for his gambling or for one of his new "business ventures" that he is starting up. I don't have this money and even if I did, I am sick of being played like this. She told me last week that they have to be out of their rental unit by tomorrow and do not have any place to go. In other words, she is trying to guilt me into giving her this money. Her husband's relatives are not hurting for money, and I asked her if her husband had asked them to contribute. She responded that he would never ask them to give money. I have not heard a word from her for almost a week maybe because she sensed that I was suspicious of her motives. What do you think?