8th grader who can't seem to turn in homework - HELP
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Comments (29)I thought I would check in before leaving for the weekend. Yesterday was a day from hell. I am asking you again for prayers and support for my family. What I am going to tell you is almost impossible to believe. It concerns two of my nephews. One is ninth grade, the other away at college, finishing up his senior year. Last week my brother and his wife received a call from the ninth grader's school, saying that he had suffered an "episode" and recommended taking him to the doctor. To make a long story short, he had gotten extremely stressed out at school (he is always on the honors list) and just cracked. They described it as a manic episode. He is seeing several doctors and has gotten better, went back to school yesterday. When talking to my mother yesterday morning, she said she had started receiving some very bizarre emails from our other nephew, who is away at college. She didn't want to bother my brother, because of everything they had been going through with the younger son. I asked her to forward them to me, and gosh almighty, they were more than bizarre, really out of it, almost suicidal. So I told her I was going to track down my brother and/or his wife at their work and let them know. To make a long story short, this nephew has also suffered some sort of manic breakdown - they tested him and did not find drugs or alcohol in his system and will be committing him to a mental hospital for evaluation. My brother is with him, as my sister-in-law had to stay home with the other son. I was hesitant to post this on a forum, but I believe in prayer and that it can help heal, and my poor brother and his family need it in the worst way. They are just stunned and in shock. They are the last family you would think something like this would happen to. Very stable environment, very supportive of their children. Thank you for letting me share....See MoreSS Support May 8 th- May 6th
Comments (14)Hi all! Patti--I'm so green that you're going to Dallas! I have been to TX since 03, and I am having itchy fingers to hug my godsons! Jen--WOW! The time has flown! I can't belive she is getting so big! Well, BJ and I never got to meet up, and I'm so disappointed! However, I know she is in to see her family, and very busy, but I would have loved to have seen her! Well, maybe third time (next year) is charm! Raeanne, no, no Derby hat this year. I started a great one, and ran out of time. I did see some great ones though, and I just wonder at a $1K hat. (Seriously--it was in the paper.) We're getting ready to leave for Canada late on the 15th. BIL will be staying here to take care of the cats, and keep an eye on things. I can hardly wait! ZIG! I hope we can stop by on the way home--I'll email you with deatils! Things are the same here--still looking, but not as hard--I won't be avaliable until mid-june, so, I've kinda suspended the hunt. Hope all is well! Hugs, Maddie...See MoreKeep a 5th grader back? (long)
Comments (14)Is this about a child who hasn't reached the maturity to take responsibility for his own work or is it about your dislike of standardized tests? I don't see what one has to do with the other. What should or should not have been done in first grade is irrelevent. This is not about past mistakes, it is about his current problems. Whether schools should administer standardized tests or not is irrelevent to your grandson's current academic problems. There might be very good points about such tests, but that debate is another post in itself. I don't think it has anything to do with this child's lack of focus. So focus on what the problem is now and how to go forward in the right direction for him to learn to be more successful. Notice I said "him learn to be" not make him. He needs to learn the skills himself because middle school will be a big change. Many 5th graders are very bright students but aren't ready for the demands that middle school will put on them emotionally. That is the part about self discipline, study skills, prioritizing, etc. If he has those skills, regardless of his intelligence, he should be able to do what the school/teacher is asking in the second half of the year. If he doesn't, he isn't ready for the next level, regardless of his intelligence. I agree with having two tests done for ADD, might as well make certain. But don't go into it looking for someone to affirm what you suspect, try to remain open minded and just wait and see what the tests determine. Then focus on those study and responsibility skills, not just the academics. Both are equally important to school and life success. I would work out a "contract" with my child listing on paper his responsibilities and his plan to fulfill them. If he forgets assignments, he needs to learn to use an assignment planner. If he doesn't complete assignments, he needs to work on the self discipline to finish before he goes on to something else. Whatever the problems are, he needs to be involved with coming up with the solution. He is bright, he can do that. Let him use his problem solving skills to solve his problem. The contract would include the final expectations, how to evaluate if they were met or not, and what the plan will be if they are not met. I would consider keeping him back if he is not able to get himself where he needs to be, he is not ready for 6th grade. Not as a punishment, it should not be thought of or talked of as a punishment. It is the solution to a problem. You don't want him to go into 6th grade with the same problems. Suppose (for example) the academic requirements for moving to 6th grade were to know 50 states and capitols, recognize certain countries on the world map, do long division, label the digestive tract, read on a 6th grade level, and, oh, label the levels of the Earth's atmosphere. Those skills would be required, not because it looks good on the school's performance charts, but because they are prerequisits to what will be taught in 6th grade. Students will be taught information and skills that build on what they should already know. If they don't know that information, they cannot learn what builds on it. The skills of responsibility, self discipline and study habits should be seen as prerequisits for the next level. He will not be able to achieve at the expected level in 6th grade if he does not have those skills. Therefor, he must demonostrate those skills before moving on. OK, that was the long winded answer for yes, if he doesn't prove those skills, I would agree to hold him back. I would do so not as a punishment, but because it is what needs to be done to ensure his success in middle school and later in high school....See MoreSecret Santa Seed Swap 2015 ( 8th year)
Comments (641)Wilsha, I love your beautiful card with the little chickadee sitting on a snowy branch and surrounded by red berries. I really appreciate your words of encouragement! gardengirl37232, thank you for the beautiful card depicting the magic of Christmas with animals of all sorts, predators and prey, at peace with one another. I'll enjoy growing the oregano for my new herb garden. xiangirl, thank you for the sweet card with Santa holding an armful of greenery and wishing "Merry Christmas!" Thank you as well for including packets of two of your favorites -- Gaillardia 'Lemon Queen' and Allium nigrum. Both of those will be welcome additions to my garden! canyonwind, I love the brightly colored card with the festive snowman. I appreciate the good wishes as well. Thank you for the seeds too -- Nigella sativa and one that I must have lost the label from. It will be a fun surprise when it grows! tessie83856, thank you for the beautiful card with the snowy exterior of a home, showing the wreath on the front door, Christmas tree, and sled. An old-fashioned Christmas for sure! I'm delighted with the seeds you shared as well -- California poppies and Salvia 'Coral Nymph.' Diknownana, what a precious card with the little girl carrying a basket of goodies, likely to a friend, and accompanied by her dog and cat. I appreciate the gift of seeds as well -- Gaillardia 'Tokajer,' Celosia 'Forest Fire,' Dianthus 'Cheddar Pinks,' and Agastache 'Apache Sunset.' All of those are perfect for my garden! lorabell, your card is just beautiful! It's red with metallic gold framing a grapevine wreath entwined with poinsettias and holly and the single word "Joy." I'll enjoy all of the seeds you included -- Chrysanthemum 'Cockade,' Poached Eggs 'Spanish Omlette mixed, and Gypsophila ' Elegant Rose.' Thank you! nottougly, I love the pretty card with red and green ornaments and a bit of sparkle. I had some ornaments similar to those with the indentions until my boys pushed on the center of a couple to see what would happen. There are two left, and I'll leave one to each someday. Thank you for the seeds of Marigold 'Moonsong Orange.' I love marigolds, and they do really well in our hot, dry summers when so many flowers give up. redthreaddiy, what a sweet card with the little boy trudging through the snow carrying a wreath with a big red bow and followed by his puppy! You really gave my herb garden a big boost with seeds for lemon balm, thyme, dill, parsley 'Green Pearl,' fenugreek, Christmas basil, fennel, and catnip, which one of my cats discovered this morning and tried to abscond with the baggie! She thanks you, as do I ....I'll have to grow the catnip in a protected spot for sure!...See Moremsmarion
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