It is not appropriate for him to have conversations with this person on fb.

Do you have a commitment to each other or not ? (rhetorical).

His reason for the communication is sloppy - it is so disrespectful to you.

Perhaps a talk about commitment and your future plans, and what standards of caring you expect from each other.

Suggest more time together and less time on the computer.

Sounds like he's not that into you!

If he really wanted nothing to do with this girl, he would not be facebook friends at all.

That fact that he IS, and that fact that he is telling her you're not around on weekends SHOULD tell you what to do...

After reading your story, it reminds me of what John Lennon told his wife after she was suspicious of his interactions with Yoko. "Yoko? She's nuts."

The rest is history.

Thank you ... I really thought I was freaking out for no reason but my suspicions are correct i see..

I spoke to my thereapist because i was talking about a grieving process lately as someone close to me passed away. She says I need to set the boundaries with these things and see what happens...

My big issue is that he said those things and now I feel like its something more or will be later and I dont know if I should stay or go.

Go.

Staying will drain your remaining self-confidence & weaken your ability to take care of yourself.

Don't get what you're upset about. So some woman he knew from a few years back keeps messaging him and he returns terse responses every now and then. About what I do just to be polite and acknowledge when someone I don't have much to do with messages me alot. I'm assuming that city isn't the one she lives in. Only thing I don't get is why he would say he's planning to move and not tell you, unless he did tell you and you didn't mention that, but assume that's not the case if you just recently moved to where you are now.

"I am moving to (a city) in september just me and my daughter on weekends... " is not a "terse response", it is tantamount to an invitation IMO.

Lee just to clarify..

We were moving in together. And he told this woman that he is moving alone. And did not mention he has a fiancee. Which is why I am upset. Still not sure what to do.

I am going to finish my semester at school and then decide if things don't get better... I will have some money saved up etc to get out and be stable on my feet.

Trust your instincts. Go. Move out and learn to love yourself. Take classes, be with people in a non-dating way. Give yourself time to heal and to have a higher opinion of yourself. Then, when you have a new boyfriend, you will know when to stay or go.

'Still not sure what to do'

Re-read what colleenoz said.

This guy is inviting this other woman to make an overture.

He's your fiancé. Do you have a ring and a date?

Get rid of this guy; he's clearly, from what you've said here, inviting this other woman in.