Doctor says I've beaten the record
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Comments (24)hhireno explained it perfectly. DH is going to the appointment also, we're not sure if her husband is going...he claims he's 'not up to it'. This is his MO...he has given up on life years ago and while perfectly healthy, has become an invalid, and she's his primary caregiver. It's pretty sickening. And the reason I am going is she has asked me to go for the reasons hhireno mentioned. She has one other son, who lives out of town-this is the anti-Buddha BIL. He is essentially worthless and she makes excuses for him not being able to come help her. She is the queen of making excuses for others! Her DH has children but he's pretty much estranged from them, due to his attitude on life. They may or may not offer to help her, but I've already made it clear that I WILL NOT step in to help him...that is entirely up to his children. I'm not happy about her depending 100% on my DH because it'll be too much for him to handle. He's got a mysterious health issue going on-long story-he's gone thru virtually every test known to man and they STILL can't pinpoint the issue. That has been causing me a lot of stress, as well as him. He wants to be there for her, and will, but he can't do it all...his business is at it's busy season, he's got order he HAS to get out; he's also sick, etc. If he were her only option for help, then I'd be ok with him doing it, we'd manage, but there are others who CAN help, she just doesn't want to put them out. I guess what is getting to me is that she's already ruled out offers of help from others and is expecting DH to do it all. I will not tell him I don't like that, it's his right to do what he feels he can do for her, but I don't have to be happy about her essentially taking advantage of his being self-employed. That is also a deeper issue...everyone he knows tends to think that because he works from home he's available to drop anything and do their bidding. He's not good at setting boundaries, so he tries to serve everyone and he and I ultimately suffer the consequences. So again, her wanting him to do everything is an issue of his not setting the boundaries. I am not going to do any more than I want to do for my own well being. My role is essentially going to be the one who transcribes the pertinent information. Others can take it from there. But having been thru this with my father and her once before, keeping it all written in a note book helps with every appointment, doctor, pharmacist, etc. That's all I'm going to do, be the recorder-the rest of them can figure it out. Oh, and I'll be an advocate for my DH...if I see it's getting to be too much for him, I'll direct someone else to step in for a change....See MoreBoutique doctor
Comments (40)EMRs - Electronic Medical Records. With the exception of many of the younger physicians I have yet to met a physician who honestly likes it. My DH now comes home after a long day at work and spends an additional 2 hours reading all the EMR's that are in his inbox. The cost to his practice to implement this system was over $250,000. Training was not only expensive but time consuming. The software is proprietary and when DH began his office conversion there was only one software program available to medical oncologists. Needless to say this was very expensive. Plus the cost of new hardware for the oncology nurses, techs and physicians. What really bothers him is that it interferes with his patient time. He allots 50 minutes for a new cancer patient. Now he spends the first 15 to 20 minutes asking the questions listed in his software program and typing in the answer. The program won't let him skip a question. Most of his patients dislike it too because they feel the doctor is too busy looking at his laptop rather than looking at them. It's not a good way to begin such an important relationship. In time it should improve. It will facilitate the transfer of important data - but as practices convert it's quite painful. My best friend's DH is simply going to retire when the conversion becomes mandatory. He's a solo family practitioner in a fairly poor urban neighborhood and he doesn't have the extra money nor the desire to switch to EMRs....See MorePlaying Doctor (No, not Nursery Games)
Comments (6)Thanks to you all. I neglected to say that my MD did run a blood panel and took an EKG, and I did a stress echo test -- all 'normal'. My own 'diagnosis' is stress -- delayed stress after DH had some health problems the first half of this year. Now that he's better, my body thinks it can rebel! I will ask my MD about the test for thyroid antibodies and a referal to a cardiologist. I feel obligated to follow through with the monitor he prescribed though. Seems odd to be hoping for *something* to record! LOL I've only had three tiny, 'maybe' episodes to send in over two weeks. That's not much evidence of *anything*! Over the last few years, I've had possibly ten episodes where I feel a sudden light-headedness, a sort of 'whoops' feeling, but it's gone in a flash. I recall having them while seated -- reading or driving. Six weeks ago DH and I started doing exercises using the Wii Fit Plus. I can feel my heart rate go up, but have no trouble doing these things for 30 mins. and feel fine afterwards. Thanks for listening. I'm just puzzled!...See More"Breaking up" with doctor....
Comments (26)When my son was just under a year old my husband's job changed Insurance and my current provider was no longer in their system. I told my Doc this would be my son's last "well baby" check up with her...she appreciated the news and went through my son's records one more time just to be sure she had all her i's dotted and T's crossed. My son has a mole near his eye brow. It appeared at about two months of age. She felt the need to discuss it. I guess moles at birth can be cancerous most often. She didn't want the new doctor to be the one who is concerned and telling me that. I have always preferred the model of "family practice" where the doc is dealing with the entire family. I think it gives them a full view and more likely to catch/notice possible issues....See More- 18 years ago
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