Hi, if anyone in the Plano TX area has a Heart Leaf Philodendron they would like to part with, or have cuttings from it taken, my wife wants to start growing it in our moderate to low light house as an indoor plant. She heard it was popular in the 80s, easy to grow, and doesn't require much sunlight. Please advise, thank you. Pudgy

First thing that came to my mind was Couers A La Creme (Cream Hearts) 6 6-inch squares of cheesecloth, moistened 1 8-oz package cream cheese, softened 1/2 tsp vanilla 1/2 c sifted powdered sugar 1 c whipping cream 1 recipe peach sauce or raspberry sauce (recipes follow) Line 6 3-inch molds with cheesecloth squares, allowing cloth to overhang. In small mixer bowl, blend cheese and vanilla. Gradually add sugar, beating at high speed on mixer until light and fluffy, In another bowl, beat whipping cream to soft peaks; fold into cheese mixture. Spoon mixture into molds. Cover and chill several hours or overnight. To serve, invert onto plate. Holding onto cheesecloth ends,lift off mold, peel off cheesecloth. Serve with Peach or Raspberry Sauce. Serves 6 Peach Sauce: Heat 1/4 c apricot preserves until melted. Stir in 10 oz frozen peaches, thawed, well drained and chopped, and 2 T orange liqueur. Cover and chill. Makes about 1 cup of sauce Raspberry Sauce: Heat 1/4 c currant jelly until melted. Stir in 10 oz frozen raspberries, thawed, and well drained, and 2 T dry red wine. Cover and chill. Makes about 1 cup of sauce Linda

You are every married woman's nightmare...like a thief, you lurk in the shadow's waiting for an opportunity to steal and destroy that which is most precious to her...her family. As you lurk in the shadow's - you justify it all and feel a "right" to destroy her family, because of "your feelings" and because you "want" it. What gives you the right to indulge what "you" want, at the expense and destruction of several other people...his wife, and two children. Your selfishness will not only harm these 3 people, but it will affect each of these three for years to come, not to mention the families these children will one day have. You say you have not asked him to leave her. Yet you are doing everything you can to entice him away...This emotional "affair" you have begun, is wrong, and unfair to him, his wife, their children, your children, and yes, even to your DH. Stop indulging yourself and your fantasy life at the expense of all these other people. You have no right to destroy another woman's family because you "want" her husband. You made your choice years ago. And you both built a life and a family on that choice. If you indulge your desire, and succeed, you will always know deep down that getting what you want...cost at least 3 other human beings...dearly. That you stole something that didn't belong to you. You can justify it all you want. It is what it is. And what (long term) married couple does not have "issues"??? We can all come up with things to "justify" ourselves, to make our actions seem not so bad.

Its been months since I posted but I find myself struggling with issues that the long distance may have started but I just don't know what to do now! Upon my arrival it was apparent that he had fundamentally changed in his feelings towards our marriage and so his attitude towards me has been extremely hurtful. Its long so please bear with me as I really need help. Just before I came back he told me he had only 1 hour online access at work and no access at his Moms, and he blamed this as the reason he didn't respond to my messages and emails, but as soon as I arrived at his Moms he said 'you can go online and tell the kids your here safe' I asked him why he had told me he didn't have internet at home and he flew off the handle denying ever having said any such thing! I logged onto our yahoo account as it is more reliable in the middle east, he has never been tidy with the yahoo account so it was overloaded with old emails spam and the conversation list was pages long. I started to delete and generally tidy up the account when I noticed that he had over 30 emails from a woman I didn't know, I opened a few of them and they were love/friendship poems and pretty gif art featuring hearts and romantic settings. I don't know why I did it but I forwarded a few of them to another account. after an hour or so he came over with a coffee and nearly dropped it when he saw I was using the yahoo account instead of my msn. neither of us said anything. Later the same day I logged on again and All OF HER EMAILS HAD BEEN DELETED nothing else just those and she was no longer in his contact list!! rightly or wrongly I said nothing for a number of weeks as I didn't want to put even more pressure on what was looking more and more like a marriage he no longer wanted. Over the next few weeks he was so changeable he would either be emotionally shut down towards me or very loving, he became very negative about our years together saying it was a mistake for us to ever be together then he would say things like your different I think we can make this work only to change his mind again a few hours later. He started asking strange questions like 'do you think I will marry again?' or 'what should I do if someone else fell in love with you?' what kind of questions are those to ask your wife???!! I still tried to stay calm and would answer things like that by saying ' I'm not sure I understand what your asking, why would you be thinking of getting married again? I'm here with you" but no matter what I did he would become frustrated with me. One evening he was particularly hurtful and I tried to reason with him but eventually we ended up in a terrible row and I let him know that I knew about the woman at work and had seen all the emails before he deleted them. He told me I was crazy he had never received such emails and certainly never deleted them!! He was visibly shocked when I told him I still had copies and that I knew her name her facebook account and so I also had a photo of her. (where we live adultery carries the death penalty) and I keep wondering if this was not the case he may have been honest about this emotional affair I don't think it went further than sharing a private office together but I cant be certain as he will not speak of it. He then later said he should be allowed to do what he wants as I used to have a work friend that called me a lot. the guy was gay and proud of it and I always took calls from him in front of my husband. His family have all been very different towards me and I have since learned that just before I came back he talked openly about me not coming back and 'moving on' they of course all said what he wanted to hear at the time things like: you should have children of your own/ you need a Persian wife/ it was never meant to be etc etc. and now they seem embarrassed to be around me unlike when I used to live here and they came to us every week for a get together. His mother was very very rude to me throwing things at me and when she realized we were moving into our own home again she kept saying things like you can go but he owes me his life he has to stay/ she would make hurtful comments like 'he wants his own children and a new wife' my husband never told her off for any of this not even when she threw things at me and so it got to the point when we did move out that I asked him to have no contact for a while as I belived she was not good for our marriage. of course the first opportunity he got he went to her and this caused me such emotional termoil, when he came back he could tell I was unhappy and he just kept saying 'I can leave if you want' or an hour or so later ' I think you want me to leave' I ignored it for as long as I could and after a drink or 5! I finally snapped and said yes just go back to your Mom! and so he quickly packed and did!! I immediately felt that I had blwn it so I called him and said I was sorry for getting so angry, he got his brother to call me from USA to tell me to leave the country as my husband was never coming back and didn't want to see me!! My husband texted me the next day saying he felt he couldn't come home but didn't want to go to his Moms I told him to come home and we would see what we could work out. After work he came home but was very very cruel and said things I never thought I would hear from him, and in the middle of saying such things he would look at me and say 'I could never have said these things before as I know it hurts you' but it was as if he was enjoying hurting me. later the same night he started having sex with me but he was very drunk and he forced me to have anal sex which was so very painful!!afterwards he just said 'go shower' and then went to sleep. I cried all night and all the next day I tried to make a joke of it! I know that sounds stupid but I didn't know how to deal with it. I blamed myself as throughout our marriage he has 'tried' but it has always been too painful for me and so he has always stopped. But I feel that because I've always been willing to try maybe he thought it was OK or I tell myself he was so drunk he didn't know what he was doing...but he was sober enough to tell me to wash. If Im honest my gut feeling was that his cruel words before and this forced sex act were a punishment!! He wanted to hurt me??? This was 2 months ago and we are still together, he still is very loving towards me but then doesn't want to be with me, he will often just come home get drunk or stoned and go straight to sleep, but other nights he is lovely to me. If I upset him at all he repeats things like I will only stay if Im happy./ I want a perfect marriage/ if I get to 40 and this is no good then I have no kids of my own etc etc I never promised to stay with you forever!! But then the next day he will say things like 'please don't leave me/ your amazing/ I love you/ I adore you !!!!!! Please help me I dont know which husband to belive? I feel truly suicidal at times Im so confused.