HA! One year of planning for zip! Time for the hair pulling.

11 years ago

Well, not totally for zip, but honest to gosh people!

I feel like the racehorse in the Seinfeld standup who looks at the jockey when they get to the finish line and says (panting) "hey wait a minute! This is where we started! Why did I have to do all that running just to get back here?"

My very, very first idea over a year ago was to open up a wall between the end of our kitchen and the LR and have a counter with stools. I was shut down on that idea for both structural reasons and also because DH's wishes for the LR seating was that he could face the river view, the fireplace and the television all at the same time. Hence, we needed that wall for FP and TV. My thoughts about furniture placement for traffic flow and comfort fell upon deaf ears. My thoughts about facing windows with a view at night when watching TV shouldn't be a factor since it's DARK AT NIGHT went unheard. "Anyway", I was told, "something has to be there to support the ceiling." Ok. Dropped it and embarked on the last year of graph paper and Houzz and GW,etc etc etc.

Presented my darling DIY DH with the latest kitchen layout, refined to a razor sharp edge and he tells me how he'd like to have some seating at the peninsula. Can't. 44" aisle behind isn't big enough for either the overhang or the person parked there on a stool. "Well. We could take that wall down and have a counter there". (me with Popeye squinch look on face)

What about facing the river view with all the furniture placement, TV FP requests of yore?

"I've been thinking that facing the river view isn't all that important... I mean, when you're watching TV at night it's dark anyway". (me with eyes shooting wide open in disbelief of what I'm hearing)

What about the structural issue? "The joists run the other way, we don't need anything up there." (me, biting the crap out of my tongue and calculating if I want to be 'right' or I want to get my original vision of an open wall which I now can since it's dear darling DH's idea.)

(as an aside, I love that I've shot myself in the foot enough in 51 years and have learned to exercise much more control over what comes out of my yap. It's been hard won, I'll tell you)

What a good idea! sez I. See, that's why I like to show you things!

DH: (beaming) "I think that would really be cool, don't you?"

Yes. Yes I do.

I adore that DH of mine and it's a good thing for him that I do, lol.

Bye bye wall.

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ck_squared
11 years ago
That's hysterical! Well, sort of. So that back wall is coming down? How exciting! Now back to square one? Or did you have something in your back pocket just in case...

p.s. my dh was the same way when we started investigating our remodel. I wanted to keep the same footprint but mentioned how nice it would be to knock down the wall between kitchen and dining room. He thought, too much money. But after hearing it from "professionals" who said that it was a great idea, suddenly he's on board.

Good luck with your new plans. :)

By the way, I envy your restraint.
deedles
Original Author
11 years ago
Yes, the current understanding is that it's coming down.

I have GW in my back pocket! What more could a person ask for?

those darn DH's :>?
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fouramblues
11 years ago
I'm sorry to laugh at your pain, but that's just what I'm doing right now! It's your fault for describing it so amusingly. :)

You are a wise and patient woman.
jakkom
11 years ago
I love my DH. He says, "Whatever you want that makes you happy, I'm all for it!" I keep thinking if I could bottle his attitude and sell it, I could make our fortune.

Well, glad you will be getting what you originally wanted! You just needed to be patient and follow his roundabout way, that's all.
cottagewithroses
11 years ago
Aren't you lucky HE had such a good idea?
a2gemini
11 years ago
And we get to watch your new plans emerge!
angie_diy
11 years ago
Well, it looks like my number of successfully adopted GW kitchen layouts is back down to zero. ;-)

That is hilarious. Thank you for sharing it. I bet GW can refine that new layout wonderfully!
deedles
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11 years ago
fouramblues: what can you do but laugh, really? I mean, WTH else is there at this point?

jkom: you could make a fortune, that's for sure! Roundabout is the word. And round and round and round.

Cottage: oh I AM. :)

a2: yes, but only AFTER that stinkin' wall is actually down, gol dang it. I better not delete everything I've done up to now, just in case.

Angie: no, no... your U/galley vision is intact... just without the end wall above counter height. You're still in the +1 column, girl!
ae2ga
11 years ago
Too funny! I think you should get a spa day or something extra wonderful for showing such restraint, and by that I mean not bashing him over the head or screaming until the wall fell down by itself.
happy2b…gw
11 years ago
Thanks for sharing. So funny and I commend you for your bright attitude. Are all DIY DH's the same? or is mine your husband's twin? relative? I know exactly how you feel. I am happy you can finally get started on your project. The mock up looks great.
kailuamom
11 years ago
Sounds just like mineÃ°ÂÂÂ. I have learned that the best way to fight something with my DH is to say whatever I think, then drop it. It always comes back around.

I used to change plans based on his original feedback. Later he'd ask why, and I'd reply..."because of what you said, I changed it to make you happy". He replies..."oh honey, don't do that. Don't you know it's just noise?"
williamsem
11 years ago
What!? I love your now defuct plan! Did he not see how beautiful it was? You should get a medal for showing so much restraint. Or at least a glass of wine for the pain in your tongue from almost biting though it.

Gotta love our DHs though, keeps life interesting. We are past the point of no return since our cabs are ordered, so I swear if my DH pulls that with me I will lose it!

I hope you end up with another plan that makes you initial vision come true! I'll be watching for your new layout thread.
CEFreeman
11 years ago
I almost died laughing.
and these numbnuts act like it's brand new information, or they've had a flash of brilliance previously unheard of by mankind.

In the meanwhile, we want to stick forks in their eyes.

I'm still chuckling.

HA! One year of planning for zip! Time for the hair pulling.

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