ARGHHH! Why is life so hard sometimes?

16 years ago

Don't get me wrong, in the grand scheme of things, life is good. I have 4 healthy children, a great marriage, my dog loves me best and my immediate family make up my list of my best friends. Having said that, sometimes I think when things get too quiet in Heaven, the Big Guy says, "I wonder how much Erin can handle?" And the answer is that I can usually handle pretty much in the way of stress and I understand that into each life a little rain must fall, but I'm no Noah. Now that we established all that, I'll give you the story. I started a new job yesterday. I have orientation this week and then training for a month. I love it. I love the company, I love being back in nursing... hell, I even love my supervisors so far. We have had to really juggle to figure out schedules to get the kids where they need to be at the right time and work around mine and my husband's schedules. For the past 8 years, I have been the primary caregiver of my children and we made sacrafices for that. One of those sacrafices is that we don't drive a new car and we share a car between the two of us. We were just getting ready to buy a second car to ease the trouble a little bit. On the way home from my second day of work, the transmission goes in the one car we have. No warning, nothing, just goes. In fact 5 minutes after it goes, the check engine light goes on... a bit late. So, the money we had for car number 2 will now go for a car for us to share again. And because I have to be at training and can't miss, my husband has to find one tomorrow because we can't keep renting one. And I know there are way worse things out there, but I'm tired and I needed to vent, so thanks for listening.

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nodakgal
16 years ago
Vent anytime Erin.
One step forward and two steps back is sometimes the way life has been here also!
Hang in there.
Kathsgrdn
16 years ago
Sorry about the car, but soon you'll be getting those big paychecks and life will get easier. I hope anyway. Always seems like there's something, though, doesn't it?
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misskittycat1
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Bless yo' heart, as my little granny would say... (((((hugs til you grunt))))). Hope things get better for you soon. And hang in there, all of the good that you do will come back to you. Nancy
bunny_lover
16 years ago
I am so sorry Erin. Hang in there!
Linda Wayman
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Chemocurl zn5b/6a Indiana
16 years ago
Isn't that a bummer?

Is having the transmission repaired a possibility sometime after you get another much needed car for now? It likely could be repaired for a lot less than the cost of a new (to you) one.

Why not ask around, and see if friends can recommend someone who is good, to take a look at it.

Hang tuff...better times are coming.

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phyllis__mn
16 years ago
Erin........

Phyllis
grammahony
16 years ago
What a bummer. I hope things turn for the better for you soon. I know the feeling too. Murphy's Rule is it called?
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caflowerluver
16 years ago
Sorry to hear about your latest problem. When it rains it pours! Trust me, I know. Lately I have had a lot of whammies, some quite expensive. What can you do but roll with the punches. Maybe you can find a good used car that can fill in until you can get a new one. Good Luck!
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kittiemom
16 years ago
Sorry to hear about this. Vent all you want; I hope you're feeling better. I know the feeling. We just had to spend a lot of money on unexpected repairs to my car. I could just see my new furniture slipping away when I paid the repair shop. And just when I thought we could finally get the furniture!
ont_gal
16 years ago
"when things get too quiet in Heaven, the Big Guy says, "I wonder how much Erin can handle?"

No Erin..the good Lord is toughening you up for what is yet to come...think of it that way
ntt_hou
16 years ago
Sometimes?!? What do you mean sometimes?!?

Sorry to hear your troubles. Take away a car and it'd take away your independent. It's the worse and it breaks down! I always tried to stay ahead with maintenance but the unexpects visit often.

Hope you have a good night and good rest. ((((HUG))))
lulie___wayne
16 years ago
Maybe you could get the transmission rebuilt. That would be cheaper than buying another car. Put the extra money away and after a little while, then you can buy the second car.
I know, life is tough. I always say, once I get past one hurdle, then there's another one and sometimes it's higher than the one before. That's life.
Lu
kathy_
16 years ago
I hear you....wish I had one to lend but our extra is a big Ford truck and you would be cheaper renting a small gar than filling it with gas.
Hugs and good luck. Maybe this is the time for both of you to have good cars. It will work out.
Kathy
western_pa_luann
16 years ago
I think it is a blessing!

Just think... that tranny hung in there until you got a paying job. That's a good thing!
Happy_Go_Lucky_Gayle
16 years ago
Don't feel bad, I had to resort to a second hand Motorscooter in 1989 to get to work. One day I ended up pushing it all the way home when it died.

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ninos
16 years ago
Here where i live there is a used auto parts place. They would replace the transmission at a fraction of the cost. Do you have a place like that where you live? The used auto part in my area is owned by a real honest guy. He has worked on my cars several times.
FlamingO in AR
16 years ago
(((((Pidget))))) I'm sorry it's hard right now. You do a spectacular job of juggling everything all the time and a set-back like this is like a kick in the teeth. Hopefully you'll come of this OK and soon be back on track. Vent all you want, I know how hard you work at keeping everything going smoothly and speedbumps stink.

Good luck getting it all taken care of and I hope you love your new job! Oh, nurse? I have a boo-boo finger, what kind of band-aids do you have? I require a fun one!

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