I make the same resolution every year. That is to not stab anyone. (Paraphrasing Wanda Sykes!).

But seriously, I resolve to cut back on spending. And I resolve to spend less time with the TV on.

I've tried resolutions in the past and was not successful, but I really think this year I can make at least one come true. (Especially since I got a 5% pay cut and DH's income has virtually dried up).

LOL, Pesky. Yep, there is something great about realizing one survives another year in this crazy-crazy world.

I'm sorry to hear about your pay cut. I'm not sure what is your husband's line, but I hope it picks up. I've got a good feeling about this next year, like things are going to sort themselves out in the economy.

I wish you well with the tv one. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. I never realized the days were so LONG until I stopped watching shows in the evening. Now I only watch shows in hotels.

I'm going to watch what I eat to keep my blood sugar counts low. I want to cook better (been watching the food channel and think I can do this). And I want to eradicate bermuda grass in my flower beds!!! Wish me luck! :)

I don't make resolutions, but I do have an ongoing list of things to do. In no particular order:

Remove the dead/dying trees in back yard.
Get grass in back yard.
Make garden wall on side of house and plant veggies and herbs.
Screen in front porch.
Continue eating healthy and losing weight (12 pounds down since October).
Exercise more.
Get Sergei trained on the Invisible Fence.
Finish my office project.
Start a new business (veterinary hospital) or at least get the ball rolling in that direction.
Call my friends and family more often.

At dinner with DH and the kids tonight, I made up a really foolish song about my resolutions. It had to do with No more fries, More exercise... for thinner thighs... no matter how much mom cries...

Well, something like that. Basically no fries (and fewer calories in general) and more exercise. I am starting a new regime with a personal trainer on Tues.!

Fact: My birthday is 1 January.
Assumption: If it were any fun, I would have to resolve to do it.
Conclusion: I'd have to be a masochist to make resolutions on New year's Day, so I don't!

I'm going to go with the not stabbing anyone...I think I can handle that. Beyond that...I don't make resolutions. Ohhh I won't go to ummmmm China! There ya go...first year I'll probably meet my resolutions.

I'm not going to start smoking! And I'll also try not to stab anyone. I do think that my husband and I are kind of in a rut, so I'm going to propose to him that we try to figure out something to do together each weekend.

Please let me high jack this for a minute, please!

I'm giving up the rich Mr. Duvall and all that goes with him. I'm wiping the red clay of Atlanta off my shoes and I am going to start to live again.

I'm in terrible finanical trouble right now. And he knows that, so I said, because our relationship has had so many up's and down's let's not exchange gifts.

So he says, should I send your gift back then? I said, I hope you didn't buy me anything to wear (for fear that it may not fit). Of course I didn't share that thought about size with him.

He sent my necklace back to Tiffany's and didn't so much as send me a card. But managed to tell me about the necklace because I ask what it was.

And then told me what he bought for everyone else and how happy it made him feel.

I sent him a T shirt and made him some of his favorite reeces cups that included a card. Which I know is nothing but he would sell his soul for a homemade meal. Incidently, he was thrilled about the candy and couldn't thank me enough.

I called him and told him that he didn't even think so much of me as to even send me a card.

Am I wrong to be hurt?

We've fought our last fight I am too old to go through this S--t any longer. So, my resolution is to give him up and it kills me, but I must for my own good.

I have plenty of people that want to go out with me and yet I find myself addicted to him, and quite candidly so does he. Not a good reason for a healthy relationship, but like all addictions they are hard to break.

He says, he has never fought or wanted a woman as much as he has me. And it is the same for me. I am tired now and wore out and so is he, I think. We need to move on and be happy with other people.

I have shared my feelings on here before about him and I don't want to appear foolish. Perhaps it is too late and I have embarrassed myself yet again to all of you. For that I am sorry.

You all seem so happy when you talk about your DH. After all this time I think that means Dearest Husband, am I right?

....Jane

Still working on 1997 resolutions! LOL

Sorry ya'll I went off the deep end dis morning!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lBy4QXAAil8

Oh Jane, not embarrassing at all. I'm touched you would share it with us. I had thought of you and him recently, but did not want to ask on the board what was happening.

I'm sorry things have turned out as they have. It sounds like you have your head in the right place and you know what to do. I wish you much happiness this coming year.

You do not seem foolish at all, please don't think that. I can honestly say, my hubby is the man of my dreams, and I hope that you find that also. Mr. Right is out there! Don't settle for anything less.

If you ever wish to talk, or need a boost - please feel free to email me.

tina

Jane - I know nothing of your situation, obviously having missed previous posts. But it seems that tina is right. You seem to know what you need.

Before I meet my DH (yes, Dear husband), I dated a guy over and over that only hurt me. Don't know why I did it for so long.

You can only meet the right one when the wrong one is gone. And I completely understand about being addicted, in contrast to love. I was addicted to a man once, and am glad that I finally got over it. He had to hurt me deeply for me to get over him, but I was finally old and wise enough to realize that we were not right (at all!) for each other.

It takes a lot of strength to move on, as sometimes we get comfortable even with the one we shouldn't be, and to face an unknown future can be daunting.

I wish you the best. I know (from experience) that there is one out there that is good for you. My DH and I are perfect for each other, and we are both blessed to have found each other. I think a lot of that came with wisdom - and the strength to keep looking. Good luck.

Hugs to you Jane. Sorry to hear about the financial troubles and the relationship problems too.
It sounds like a dramatic relationship--is that the main problem? I think it boils down to: if he makes you unhappy, then get get rid of him. If he makes you happy, keep trying. In my experience, Christmas gifts/lame gifts/different expectations are a rich source of arguments and misunderstandings.
Jen

Paint chips, great thread! Don't have "resolutions" per se, but yeah, I have that ongoing list.

Jane, Yes, DH can stand for Dear Husband, & does, most of the time. But the "D" can also stand for Dastardly, Devious, Devilish, Darn, or Dumb! (I'm sure I'm leaving out more than a few choice words.) No husband & no marriage is perfect, no matter how good they sound from the outside. I agree w/jlc. If the guy is good to you more often than not, don't call it quits. If his bad behavior tips the scale, then move on.

My resolution is to finally, finally get some of the zillion house projects I think about, actually done.

Many don't even involved a cost, just decluttering, organizing, freshening. I sincerely want to keep pushing forward with making my home clean, fresh and welcoming the way I know it could be.

Wish me luck!
Ann

Jane, I think I must have missed a post while I was in la la land from pain killers. But you seem to be thinking through this clearly and have a level head. Let him go so you have the chance to meet others that will cherish who you are, as you are.

Jane.....My DH = 31 years of smiles! I married my best friend. Hope you can do the same.

New years resolutions: I'd like tighter abs, like a washboard. I wonder how much time that would take? :0)I think I'll just think about this one and not really make it a goal. So.....my goal is to .......think up a goal & fly with it!

Tina your a doll to lend a shoulder, truely. And all of you for your support and advice.

The relationship ended tonight, thank God and Hallelujah. Personally, I gave him too much credit, as most addictions get. (lol)

He was a nice man who lived in a 6,000 square tomb as I liked to call it. No, he wasn't a nice man, I lied, he was rude and had the morals of a alley cat. Do I sound bitter? Nah, it was over long ago we just couldn't let go, now we can.

Happy New Year everyone from Alabama!

And here is to a Happy and Healthy New Year to you in 'Bama! 2010 is gonna be your year! Grab it and run!

Thank you Cooperbailey and YOU have a great 2010!

Jane, that just felt like a spin in the twilight zone. I could have sworn you gave up on that man a couple holidays ago. Wasn't it the 4th of July? Sometimes they can be like an addiction. I've seen a couple friends fight that battle. Hope you've finally broken free ... now on to YOU!

And back to the topic of resolutions ... don't make 'em ... don't break 'em. ;)

Mine go like this:

1) Decrease shopping at Target, and when I have to go, only go to the diapers, formula, milk aisles

2) Save more money, and stop wasting it on frivolous stuff. My goal for the year is to triple my savings account.

3) Lose weight- I know it is cliche to say this at New Years, but I've got to get rid of the baby weight from baby #2, I was half way there when I found out I was pregnant with baby #3, and now he's 6 months old, I need to stop making excuses because this is not a healthy weight for me and I feel it.

4) Be more patient with my children. I love them to pieces, but sometimes I lose my patience after hearing mommy, mommy! for the 9,000th time in a day

5) Go to Italy to visit our extended family. DH's Nonna will not be on this earth much longer, and we want her to meet her great grandson. This resolution also includes, conquer my fear of flying and dying in a plane crash.

6) And my final, is to have more sex. I read somewhere last year about a bunch of people that committed to doing it every day and it did wonders for them, An added benefit is it will burn more calories, and it keeps DH happier, and keeps us closer. I am not telling him this, I'm just gong to do it.

Sorry it's so long, I've probably bored all of you.

polly929.....you GO girl!!! More sex.....hhhhhhmmmmmm. :0)

I want to be more gracious. I want to finish my shower.

I'm with natal....don't make 'em, don't break 'em. But, the one about more sex has me thinking...

It's very rare I carry cash. Always use the debit or credit card. Then the receipts are deducted from the checkbook so we can keep track of what we spend. This works well for us. DH is the official book keeper and he hates it when I get lazy about it and give him two weeks worth of receipts. He likes to plan and think ahead for things I sometimes mess that up. We're making a special place for receipts and my goal is to put them there on a daily basis as I use the cards.

This is a realistic thing for me. Last years, stop drinking soda all together. . . Well, I'm actually going to grab one as soon as I hit submit. (Soda is my coffee. I also drink water.)

Make an appointment with my doctor to get a good physical, including a cholesterol profile. I'm not a young chick anymore, and I need to take care of myself.

Move into this new phase of my life, as children are grown. As Cooperbailey wrote in another post I started awhile back, I need to find myself. I've got some ideas cooking....

Happy New Year to all!

Now that Polly mentioned it, the more I think about it, more sex is good! So...

1) More sex

2) Cut down on chocolates

3) Start exercising (again)

4) Eat healthy

5) Not to be upset about every little thing

6) Save money and cut back drastically on spending. (10% pay cut, ouch!)

Wait...aren't #1 and #3 the same thing? ;-)

About 25 years ago, I saw a television interview with a couple who had been married for decades; at least 40, maybe 50 years.

The interviewer asked them what was the secret to their long, happy relationship, and without hesitating, they both said "sex". The interviewer nearly dropped his jaw on the floor, the studio audience laughed, and the woman looked at them and said "It's true. Sex." Her husband began to explain "that sharing, that intimacy is so important.." and she laughed, slapped his knee and said "Good sex, bad sex..." and her husband laughed said "as long as you're moving." I'm guessing it was an inside joke between them. (it's certainly become an inside joke with DH and myself)

Wishing you all a prosperous, moving New Year. ;^)