Eat. And have a glass of wine. Or 2. Try to fill my thoughts with something other than my problems that are going on, and making me upset.
Leslie

I fix a tall Pepsi (on the rocks with a bendy straw), grab a bag of chocolate if I have any, the TV remote, reading glasses, a book, and the electric throw and pile down on the sofa. I will likely stay there the remainder of the day, and then sleep into the next, awakening all rested, and the next day will seem so much better.

I think oftentimes we get run down a bit and small things appear much bigger than they really are.

Pamper yourself...maybe a warm bath with a book and a cold drink?

Sue

First, here is a [[[[[[[[[HUG]]]]]]]]]]] for you.

A warm bubble bath with a good girly book always works for me. You deserve it!

Hope the sun shines on you tomorrow.
Dee

The garden is my sanctuary. Even if it's just to get outside and walk through and admire what's in bloom and watch the flutterbys. Sometimes when the sun has set and I can't see I turn on the flood lights and take a stroll.
But if I'm at the shop and there is just too much testoserone in the air I put on my helmet and jump on my bike. Let them order their own lunch. It's NOT my job to decide what you want for lunch. There is nothing like feeling the wind in your face and a couple of bugs in your teeth. LOL

A nice drink, soak in the tub, stop trying to clean something (auto-pilot).
Do something for myself - get my hair done, even if just trimmed or styled. Go to a lush restaurant and order a lovely lunch - even if it's a bit much - pamper myself - I even dress up for this so I feel important while there.
Play with my plants (at this time of year with snow on the ground I go through seed catalogues), quilt or sort my fabric stash, TAKE THE PHONE OFF THE HOOK or call screen - don't need to hear anyone else's problems.
Get out of the house and go for a walk some where nice, outside, fresh air.
What do you like to do?
(((((((((((((((((bunglogrl)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
You keep moaning away to us - I'm here to listen to you and I care very much. Keep talking, we're here for you.

I try very hard to stay away from food. When you start using food as a "feel better" tool, it sort of snow balls into weight gain for me...so that is out. Having a good cry is the best, but maybe it's a "good" thing that you can't work up to one now...maybe things aren't bothering you as much as you think if you can't do a good ol cry.

I'm single so I've learned the hard way that there is (usually) NO one there to comfort you but yourself. After a stressful day I 1) throw on my jammies and fuzzy, ugly robe no matter how early in the afternoon or evening it is; 2) cuddle up on the couch with a blanket and two purring cats, one of whom likes to drape across my head; 3) drink wine or eat chocolate, or both at once (headache next day, but oh so good at the moment!); 4) watch something stupid/mindless on TV; 5) say a prayer, go to bed, and know that a new day will dawn.

I think it's the KT that comforts me. Honestly I can come here and get a sympathetic ear and most always some KTer has been in the same place as I am at the time and knows exactly what I am feeling.

Just coming here and "spilling the beans" like you've done is what helps me.

Hope things get better for you! (((bunglogrl)))

bunglogirl-I'm sorry you're having a rough time.

Honestly, when I'm feeling bad, I come here to spill my guts, and eat something sinful usually chocolately! I know it's not good for you, but it feels like it helps for a little while. And the gym is always great for burning up negative energy!

Why not try to talk to your DH or girlfriend? I'm usually the one comforting others, but my friends did help when I needed it.

Hope next week is much better for you!!!

bunglogrl ~ I'm sorry you are having a bad time right now. I hope it gets better soon. You've been offered some very good advice in previous posts. I like to do somewhat like Marita40 does. I put on my comfortable jammies. Mine are some of those cheap flannel pajama pants usually found in the men's dept. at Wal Mart and either a sweatshirt or t-shirt, depending on the weather. I snuggle under a blanket on the couch with a beverage of my choice surrounded by three dogs and sometimes a niece. It does help.

Linda

My best friend lives across the street, but she's going though her own drama right now - the last thing she needs is to listen to me being a crybaby.

Don't assume this!

When I'm having a crisis, I get sick of hearing about my own problems. I find that I will seek out some of my less-supportive friends, simply because I know they'll say, "gee, that's tough, I'm sure you'll work it out. Did you hear about that new movie?"

Your friend may be glad of an opportunity to care for YOU, even IN the midst of her crisis.

I hope you can find someone to take care of you--even if it's you.

ALSO--pls go talk to your doctor about your "feeling on the edge of tears for a week or so now." Maybe your thyroid is low; maybe your iron is low.

Small physical changes can affect our mood--pls check it out.

(oh, and be sure to get enough sleep)

First of all, CONGRATS on that well-deserved job! :-)

I've sometimes felt like there's nothing really WRONG but there's nothing really RIGHT, either! I just get in a "funk" and need to hang on until I get through it. As for comfort, well --- I eat things I shouldn't (cookies, chips, pop). Years ago, I used to sleep too much when I got in those moods, but nowadays I can't make myself stay in bed that long.

Thank you all so much for the kind words of support. I have been treating myself to long walks and leisurely baths - which will usually get me out of a funk, but it's not working this time.

Tally is right, I'm not giving my girlfriend enough credit. I'll head over there tonight for a glass of wine. She'll probably welcome the opportunity to laugh about my pitiful doldrums.

Talking to DH about things like this just leave me feeling worse (bless his heart). I'm perfectly able to handle the details, but he'll go into problem solver mode. He'll go on for hours about tires and body shops and identity theft blah, blah, blah when all I want is a hug, an 'it'll be okay baby', and a bowl of home made soup that I didn't have to make for myself. Although a conversation with him will likely bring me to tears.

I hadn't considered a lack of sleep making things seem worse than they are. I haven't slept well since my schedule changed. Working up a sweat, as suggested, will help in that area, too. Since my back yard always needs attention this time of year I'll attack it on my day off tomorrow if the weather holds up (don't belong to a gym). That should leave me exhausted enough to get a good night's sleep.

Food? At times like these I resist making Glenda's fudge pie because I have no will power. I'd eat half of it for dinner, then finish it off for breakfast. Especially since I'm currently between blenders...

If it is morning or mid-day, I head to Starbucks and get a nonfat latte. Life is good when I have a Starbucks in my hand. If it is later in the afternoon, I put on my jammies and robe and snuggle up on the sofa with my kittie on my lap and my dog on the floor and watch HGTV or a DVD.
If I need someone to listen to me, I have my next door neighbor or I can phone my best friend in CA.

For me it's a walk in the woods. Immersing myself in nature has a soothing quality I can't even describe.
Ron

In summer my garden,as far as people my family, I think is in denial about my health.I have no one

My cat and also some time in prayer.

(((((bunglogrl)))))

I think that Tally Sue is on to something - quite possibly your friend who's going through her own problems would appreciate getting away from hers for a while and dealing with someone else's ... especially those of someone that she cares about.

If she's ready to be really caring about someone else. Some people are much better at receiving than at offering help graciously.

(((((bulldinkie)))))

It sure is tough having the not external but inside problems that come with our health issues be unrecognized or appreciated by our loved ones.

ole joyful