I'm a little sad today

16 years ago

DH just left to take my DGS back to Granbury,TX (where he lives).He has been here since the 23rd.He will be going somewhere the end of this month for training,then will be deployed to Afghanistan anytime,maybe as late as Sept. or could be sooner.He is 23 and my first DGS.He has been in the National Guard for 2 years and has had some rough times the last year with a marriage breaking up.He went active after that and was suppose to go to Iraq last August.For some reason the army kept delaying but he has been real frustrated,sort of in limbo I guess.Since he went active they told him not to get a job because he could be deployed at any time. He has been living in a classroom and has to move all his stuff out when they have classes.He has access to a microwave and refrigerator and that's about it.He was suppose to be deployed this month but his (and 3 other guys in his unit) orders got messed up and they aren't even getting paid! I don't understand how all that works but it sounds screwed up to me.So he has no money and is waiting and waiting and waiting for the Gov to make up their minds what they want him to do.They won't let him get a job in the meantime but they aren't paying him either.DH will give him some money when he drops him off so maybe he can at least eat until time for him to go to his training.

Anyway.......Didn't mean to whine but it just breaks my heart for my babies to be hurting.He really enjoyed his visit though.Ate us out of house and home but that's OK too.My 18 year old DGS was here too so between them both there is very little food left in the house!Boy those guys can put it away! They are both over 6 ft. tall and skinny as a rail.Guess they didn't get any of my fluffy genes!LOL They had fun playing X Box games until all hours of the morning.

Everyone have a good day! They aren't brothers.The oldest is my oldest DD's son and the other one belongs to my oldest DS.

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irishdancersgram
16 years ago
It's alright to feel sad, that's part of being a mother...It is hard to see your kids hurting and we've all been through it...Keep those good Christmas memories close and keep busy...I think just this time of year is enough to make a person sad, so you're not alone....
Hugs, Dorothy
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gadgets
16 years ago
I'd be more than a little sad if I were in your shoes. Tell your DGS thanks from me for doing this. May God be with him and you.

Shirley
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softball_80
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You're not whining. I'd hate to be in your shoes, I wouldn't sleep. As a vet myself I haven't much good to say about how efficiently the 'higher ups' run things in the military, although the GI's themselves have my full support. There's no excuse for his not being paid. How is he supposed to live?

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bestlawn
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Sure hope they get this worked for him soon. I'm sure they'll send him all his money at once when they do. In the meantime, can you periodically wire some money to a local store for him to pick up? He sure has a strong constitution to put up with this, but I guess he has no choice. Hugs to you both.
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lilliepad
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16 years ago
Thanks everyone.We can send money to him and will now that we know his situation.We had no idea he was having this difficulty or we would have already been sending him money.He is the type that doesn't want to worry anyone.We didn't even know until a week ago what the living arrangements were.Up until a few weeks ago,(when he was suppose to get his orders and be deployed this month),they were putting him up in a Gov facility of some kind,but when they screwed up the orders this is where he had to go.I admire him for what he is doing but it scares me to death.I keep hoping the mess over there will calm down before he is deployed.
I don't know how all this works but he said that he won't get back pay because he isn't "on orders".In order to get it he has to be and that got messed up.I don't know how they are suppose to live.He had a job here after he was to be deployed last August (and wasn't),but they told him not to take it because he could be deployed at any time.Even if he didn't get to work 2 days or 2 weeks or whatever,at least he would have had some money until he is deployed! I just don't get it.
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grammahony
16 years ago
What a crock of BS. They aren't paying him? He can't get a job until they do? What do they expect him to do while they 'unscrew up' his life?
I hate the feeling after the holidays, that I usually get. All the rush, rush, hurry, hurry, noise/mess. Then BLHAM. It's over. Deafening silence.
Prayers for your DGS lillie, and (((lillie))) hugs for you.
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vannie
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The sad thing about worrying about a grand, is that you have to watch your child, the parent, worry too. So, you have 2 to worry about instead of just one. I wish I could have all the answers for my 8 grands, and 3 children, and 2 in-laws when they have problems, but I don't think they'd listen. Tough life lessons you have to learn for yourself. Bummer.
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Linda Wayman
16 years ago
Hugs and prayers for your DGS. He should not be getting the run around like that. I think it's horrible. I hope our government gets things straightened out real soon.

Linda
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lunchlady1948
16 years ago
I just do not understand this happening to a young man, what is wrong with this country treating him like that? How do they think he is living?? I can not even believe this is happening and too how many other young people:(

My DS is 23 and I know just how you feel, I would be really upset:(
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lulie___wayne
16 years ago
I would be sad, also. I'm so sorry.
Please tell your GS THANK YOU for his sacrifice.
Lu
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