Lost Husband to Alzheimer's

marylmi

My husband passed away on Aug. 9th. and was buried on the 12th. Although I have that empty feeling and miss him so much, I would not want him back in that condition. He lost the ability to swallow and his body was stiffening up. It is just a dreadful disease but I know he is now free of it. Thankfully I set with him the night before and kept telling him that I loved him through the night. One time he opened his eyes and tried to make a sound and I hope he was trying to tell me the same thing. The next afternoon he passed away with lots of love and support around him. I am taking one day at a time and concentrating on the times we had before that terrible disease robbed him of his life.

Mary

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mav63_2007

Mary, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know your DH was telling you how much he loves you and always will.
My husband lost an 18 month battle with cancer two and a half years ago and like you I love him and miss him so much but he suffered so much, I wouldn't have wished him one extra minute of what he was going through. A lot of us on this forum have been through the same thing and can identify with you. Hold on to the memories you have of the wonderful life you had together.
Mavis

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sylviatexas1

I'm so sorry.

It sounds like you were lucky to have had each other.

As Mavis said, hold on to your memories of the *real* life you shared.

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marylmi

Mavis and Sylviatexas...... We were married 33 years, but the last 4 were spent battling the disease. He had not been able to talk for over a year and since he was always joking and talking, it was very hard to see him like that. I hope they can find a cure soon for that as well as all the other diseases. I received a small glass votive holder with the inscription "In Memory Of" with his name on it and a votive candle in it. I thought that was the nicest gift from Hospice..

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sylviatexas1

It's a horrible horrible disease.

You & he fought that battle together, & I'm glad he had you.

The candle does sound beautiful.

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