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Nana3540
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Grandmother's Hat Does NOT Like My Heat
Comments (25)Thank you, elemire, but I don't grow once-bloomers and to tell you the truth don't care for Raubritter, probably because I'm not that fond of very cupped roses. I really appreciate your thinking of me though. Daisy, it's so nice of you to send me your list, but I must have an even hotter location since three of the ones you mentioned that I have do crisp here and my previous Duchesse de Brabant actually even lost half its branches to the heat. I think for me it's simply going to be a matter of trial and error since my situation is so unique. Either that, or I'll have to content myself with about 80 plants of Le Vesuve.... Ingrid...See MoreNow I know what happened to my grandmother
Comments (17)...my participation here is more theoretical than specific to this situation, only because the topic of family secrets is so interesting to me. So what's to gain from sharing a family secret "like" this one here? Really, it's about the relationshp between father and daughter. A secret puts up walls due to the shame. So being able to say "I know your secret and I still love and accept you" is really really a powerfully healing thing to the person who holds the secret and potentially increases intimacy between two people. Also, the assumption that the secret holder has put it entirely in their past is often false. People hold on to shame for years and years, and often it nags daily, silently, and bleeds into areas that are not easily detected. Another way of seeing this, rather than simply "He's old, why bring it up now" is to say "He hasn't many years now, he deserves peace". OF course, we don't know in THIS situation what is best for him, so we cannot presume to say that he "should" or "shouldn't" be told. The other thing I know about humans is that we gravitate to status quo. It's familiar, it's comfortable, and the devil we know is more attractive than the devil we don't. To be fair, I choose to keep certain secrets too. I have one that I'll go to my deathbed with - however, I HAVE gone to therapy for it, and a bulk of the shame of it has been dealt with. Certainly makes life easier for me. Hopefully this dad has been able to do the same. However, if someone approached me lovingly with the information and asked me about it, I would likely be scared but relieved as well. It's just not my secret to tell, if that makes sense. Maybe dad feels some sense of loyalty to his mom....See MoreObama's grandmother has died
Comments (13)I'm with you, Maryanntx. But what a thrill it must have been for her to see him even rise to the level of a candidate. How hard this is for him; he definitely does not have time to grieve. He'll have to do it after Tuesday....See MoreGrandmother's Hat is killing off Dr. Huey!
Comments (19)Jeri, Carol, those are all good ideas for underplantings--thank you. It's not really that I don't care for the leggy look -- it's more that my plant is so very sparse. She was at @ 6.5 feet tall, with greenery only above @ 4 feet; and there are only a few canes. When she's blooming -- seems like a nice quantity of bloom for the greenery, but I want to see more leaves. That's really the issue. I think the snipping back will do the trick, tho--she's really leafed out. I really don't know much about pruning and such and have mostly avoided it -- but only about a week ago, I did a lot of cutting to the rose that's been winning the "Most Miserable in My Collection" prize -- Dupuy Jamain. And -- incredible -- that rose is already showing a LOT of fresh new growth, after doing next to nothing for the past 2 years except mildew and blackspot and rust! Going to try this on a few of my other struggling/loser plants and see how they manage....See Moresylviatexas1
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