does it ever feel like information overload??

16 years ago

When we started our build process we were out-of-state so we were relying heavily on our builder. But now that we've been here since the beginning of Aug. we've been much more involved with picking finishes, etc. Our builder is okay with us shopping around for stuff like floors and fixtures, etc...we don't HAVE to use "his" people.

We're building in a neighborhood of primarily custom homes and we've gotten to know some of our neighbors pretty well in the few months we've been here. At least 1/2 a dozen of them are custom builders themselves. Our particular builder hasn't built in this area before so he's not as well known in the neighborhood.

We see our neighbors every week at church and they're always making some kind of comment about the status of our build.

Most of them are very positive comments but sometimes we'll get stuff like...

"Wow the roof is taking forever!"

"Did ANY work happen while we were gone on vacation??"

And that's ok...of course, those are the same comments we make to ourselves all the time!

But since we now know several custom homebuilders, every time we mention a certain supplier or vendor that OUR builder has recommended or is using...they offer up THEIR suppliers and vendors or give their opinions about the vendors that our builder is using. Sometimes their opinions aren't positive so then we end up second-guessing that vendor / product.

We appreciate their advice (it's always great to get recommendations) but at the same time...all of this information and advice gets to be almost paralyzing, kwim??

For example, just last night at a church Halloween party, one of them mentioned that since our roof was taking so long to finish, they've got a bunch of subs that are sitting around waiting for work and he could get them out there asap to finish the job.

I really think that they mention this stuff for OUR benefit - as good neighbors, they really want to help US out.

But I don't really want to step on my builder's toes either - especially if he's getting good pricing and has set relationships since he's got the same crews working on his other concurrent 4 builds. (which definitely doesn't help the time factor!).

Anyway...has anyone else experienced this?

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kelntx
16 years ago
OH yeah! We have one neighbor that is driving me nuts. We have not seen him in a month or two and I am so glad! LOL! We stated we were getting a well, he stated we needed to do a rain water catch system, he even walked through the house and stated things HE thought needed to be changed. Drove me nuts! He told DH he stops by everyday to check on the house. DH told him that was very kind but really not necessary. LOL! At first I thought he was just trying to be nice but it got to be to overwhelming and he started to knock our builder. He had his friend who is a custom builder stop by and take a look in case we wanted another builders thoughts on things! WHAT!? I finally had to tell him we were very happy with our builder and that further advice was not needed. We had made our decisions on wells, septics etc. I think that is why we have not seen him in awhile. But yes, I have had a number of people ask me why there as not been any work done in the last few days, etc. Our builder told us he uses certain crews that he trusts and has used for years. So far they have all been worth the wait....except for the electrician!!! I have serious issues with that guy! LOL!

Anyway, now when people give me advice I do not ask for I just smile and say thank you very much but we have it covered!

Good luck with your build!
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