Oh, that is a really neat santa and globe decoration. Very unique--that sure would keep the kiddies on their toes! Love the items you collected together for you vignette, they work so well together. I have three of those ball shaped candle holders too--think mine were Avon many years back. You have me humming along now too--my humming sounds better than my singing! LOL Luvs

Stacie, I hope it's me. Listen to this. I belong to the moms club here in my community. There are a lot of young moms, several pregnant, most with young toddlers, some newborns..... anyway, my son is 11 yrs old so I'm one of the "older" moms in the club. There was some talk yesterday about an old wives tale, something to do with sitting in this special chair and within a years time you will get pregnant and have a boy. So there was some talk going around yesterday and some of the moms were saying they wanted to sit in "the chair". So I said, "Hey, maybe I'll sit in it!" One of the girls wrote back, "I don't think the chair has magical powers." I was SO insulted! What does she think I am? 90 yrs old? Gosh! So anyway if your package is coming to me, wouldn't it be so funny if I got pregnant???? I'd show her, that young whipper snapper witch.

Okay, speaking from personal experience, usually when a guy starts looking at porn it's because they aren't getting certain things they might sexually be interested in or there is a more deep seated issue in the relationship. People also usually only hide things for one of three reasons. 1) They are trying to protect someone they care about but we can pretty safely rule this out since he knows that you know. 2) They are afraid of negative consequences and since you have already likened porn to cheating {which is a bit mental if you ask me} he is likely afraid that admitting he has a fairly natural urge will cause him to lose you. 3) There is some shame in their actions and honestly, I hate to say it because people are going to yell that I'm blaming tyhe victem when I'm not, it's most likely you that's causing him to feel that shame. Your view on porn makes it taboo which is always both tantalizing and shameful. I have to ask this and no you don't have to answer, just think about my questions. 1) Have you ever considered using porn to spice up your love life with him? Consider putting on a porno while you and he are laying in bed together and just see if you can't get him to stand at attention for you. Use the thing you don't necessarily like to get the "thing" you really want. 2) Ever tried looking at what he searches and maybe, if your comfortable with it, incorporate one or two of those things into your love life? If it's something he enjoys then why not enjoy it with him? You both get what you want at that point which shows compromise and compromise is one of the basic building blocks to any relationship. 3) Consider this, if you two do the same thing every time you two get together then isn't it possible he's just a little bored? Not bored of you but bored of the same position you two make love in or even just bored of thesurroundings. Get a babysitter for the night and have a romantic evening to yourselves but don't go home. Rent a hotel room and have fun there. It would help to break him out of the rut that he may feel his life has gotten into. Do not take this as a strike against you, sometimes guys just get tired of the same thing over and over again. Mind you, I stress that you remember these are only suggestions to help you make your marraige stronger and help you grow as a couple. Feel free to ignore my advice as you please but remember that I've been in a position I think might be similar to the one he is in and I'm simply sharing with you what I myself have dealt with personally.

Alanna, I think MOST of us feel the same way! Those of us that have to grow them inside that is..Can you imagine how many people that don't even come here have the same issues? And worst yet, I have been growing them since I was 10 years old!! I have never had a perfect banner year with every tree, but thank God 99 percent of them do ok and the 1 percent that does not do well, goes in the trash! I feel your pain too. There is no perfect environment to grow them perfectly unless you grow them in an area they are accustomed t Oh the joys of this hobby...lol