How do you have an in-law live with you and keep your sanity?
Is anyone in a situation where they have an in-law living with them?
My father-in-law died years ago and my mother-in-law is on the verge of not being able to live alone anymore. Her health is deteriorating...not to the extent of needing someone to help her do everything...but enough that we worry about her living alone. Especially because she lives so far from us all.
My husband has made comments a lot about her moving in with us. Even she has made jokes about us having a mother-in-law suite in our home. More and more lately she has been leaning on us to go to her home to help her do things and having us run errands for her and take her to dr. appts. My dh says he thinks within the next year we are going to need to let her move in with us.
I love my mil. The problem is she is just bossy at times.
*When we are there she feeds the kids till they are overstuffed and then she insists they eat more. We have told her they are full and she ignores it.
*She hates medication and scoffs whenever my ss needs to take his asthma meds. She tried not giving him his meds when he stayed there before and insisted on natural remedies. I then got a call late at night to come there ASAP because she was worried! (This was all after I told her no to him sleeping over there because his asthma was acting up and she insisted on taking him home with her anyways and he cried and begged)
*She used to babysit for us in our home on occasion and would tell me how I should do this or that differently. She would do our breakfast dishes that we left in the sink on our way to work/school.
*She is very religious and attends church daily and prays frequently throughout the day. She is always on us to go to church and put the kids in Sunday school, etc. If she lives with us I feel like it will be shoved down our throats.
She stayed with us for a week before because our work schedules were off for a week and we needed a sitter for the kids. During that time I was so uncomfortable! She stood over me as I did everything from homework with the kids, to cooking dinner, to cleaning. I almost felt guilty sitting down at night to watch tv after the kids went to bed.
I know that when my dh was growing up my mil worked full-time and still kept an immaculate home and always had homemade meals on the table. She was amazing.
I feel like I can not live up to her expectations and that her living with us is going to make me miserable and exhausted! When I talk to my dh about this he points out all the wonderful things she has done for him in his lifetime and how much she has been there for us and the kids. I totally agree and know that at some point she will need to live with us. I just do not know how to cope with it and mentally prepare myself!!