Really frustrated with neighbors cat
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Comments (49)Joepye, I think your philosophy is outdated. Such a theory no longer has anything to do with aversion to chemicals or submitting to mind control. I can understand there was a time of no other alternatives, but these days there are just too many options. Information is easy to find and frankly, friendly products sit on the shelves next to the woefully-loathed ones. This guy should not have to be bothered with his neighbor. There is simply no excuse except one's own "philosophy," which this guy clearly does not have. If he did, then his lawn would like your picture preferences. The man is lazy or just doesn't give a darn. There is no philosophy or particular preferences associated with the complaint of this thread. If there were, the neighbor would not mow once or twice a month. He would never mow and his yard would look exactly like yours. Your arguments (not meant literally, only in terms of debate) would work swell for someone seeking advice or absolution for his own way of thinking that is contrary to the normal desire to keep up with the Jones'. This guy isn't. He's looking for suggestions to deal with his lazy neighbor. I grew up across the street from a lady with your same philosophy. I loved her lawn that was not a lawn at all. It was lots of different low growing-to-knee length-to-hip high vegetation piped with hostas all around. She was out in her yard 3 or 4 times a week pulling weeds and doing whatever. No manicured lawn I've seen is any more beautiful than her meticulously kempt hodge podge, and I never saw a bottle of anything her hands. I loved her yard mainly because it was well kept and intriquing to say the least. The little girl in me and then the teenager was constantly drawn to it, and I didn't think it an eyesore at all. My point is to wonder how it can be that "philosophy" lacks standard? It's a contradiction in terms....See MoreNeighbor frustrations
Comments (21)Well put about the overcrowding and lack of growth regulation. And anything we can do to offset the depletion of our aquifers is a good thing. Education is key. I wish they'd teach kids in school about how our state functions - ecologically. Sometimes I really think Florida's a lost cause, and it just makes me sad. Government and individuals have screwed it up in so many ways - not just with irresponsible growth, but with draining sections of the everglades, straightening the Kissimmee river, then trying to correct the mistake once they realize what a mess it made. Allowing developments to crowd out panthers and black bear even more, allowing industry and homeowners to pollute the lakes and rivers. Lake Apopka used to be a huge game fishing lake - now the fish are dead. It's like that everywhere. The majority of new residents are here to retire, so they may not necessarily care about the future of our state - since they're not leaving it to anyone. So more golf courses go in, more developments are built, more lawn chemicals are used and more water is wasted and polluted. My little spot here is very small, and in the scheme of things, it's probably not going to make a bit of difference if I don't waste water or coat my property in chemicals. But maybe if enough of us try, maybe there will be something left that's worth having when my niece and nephew reach adulthood. I choose to heavily mulch and if we're not getting rain, I water twice a week on the allowed days for one inch each watering (since we're still on water restrictions here). The plants that need more water die. The ones that don't, I get more of. Two of my gorgeous brugmansias that had grown to the size of lovely small trees almost completely died this year because I refuse to give them more water. Now that the rains are back, they're starting to leaf out and one is loaded with buds. My garden is far from sparse - it's quite lush on very minimal water. I have to tell you, every day in this heat, my plants wilt. They wilt by 11am, and they look like they need water really badly. But by the time evening rolls around, they've perked up again. If we get rain, they really perk up. It's heat stress more than it's lack of water. I wilt by 11am, too... In my opinion they can wait until the day comes that I'm allowed to water them, or they can wait until the next rain. Inbetween, they're probably not going to die. You're right when you say with everything there is balance and responsible use. That's why I choose to not over water, or grow plants that require more water than I'm willing to waste on them. Your garden sounds really pretty, by the way, Dave. And it's really great you stop the extra watering when the rains become regular - we've all seen sprinklers going in the rain, and it's craziness. I do feel for you having a neighbor who doesn't (or isn't able to) care for his property. I have a neighbor who sometimes lets her dogs' poo accumulate so much that it reaks. Especially in the heat. And she also excessively waters. She'll hook her overhead sprinkler up to her hose and leave that thing going all day long. Then she'll do it again the next day. Funny thing is, her plants don't look any better for it than mine do....See MoreWe're really not noisy neighbors, but....
Comments (49)I thought I would give an update. Since our chat with the neighbor in November, there haven't been any more visits from the police. We're pretty sure that he can't hear the drums anymore, because even on the weekends when we are pretty sure he is home he hasn't called the cops. There's even been one or two occassions where he and my husband have had occassion to chat about something else. Things are much more peaceful, and I'm no longer fearful every time I hear the neighbor close his door or see him outside. The more time that goes by the less and less I believe the neighbor's story about how the cops and the apartment manager all told him that they were going to tell my husband to stop playing the drums. I'm just not buying it. It doesn't make sense that they would tell him that and then not put it in their reports. I only believed it when he first told us cuz he sounded sincere. Now I'm thinking he's just a very skilled liar. Based on his claim that the manager had told him she was going to evict all of us if we didn't settle things, and a few posts from property owners here and on other boards that they wouldn't renew a lease with a tenant that had a lot of complaints against them, I got worried that we wouldn't be offered a renewal. I didn't want to accuse the manager of telling us one thing and the neighbor something else, and I didn't want to bring up his accusation that she was going to evict all of us. But I wanted to make sure that we were going to be offered a renewal when our lease comes up in April. I had mentioned this to my husband, and just yesterday he had something else he wanted to talk to her about. So, while he was there he asked her if there was going to be any trouble with us renewing our lease after all of the trouble with the neighbor. She laughed, said if there was anyone she wasn't offering a renewal to it would be the neighbor, and asked my husband if he'd like to sign the new lease right then. I'm seriously doubting that she said anything to the neighbor about evicting us. So, given the evidence, or perhaps lack of evidence to substantiate the neighbor's claims, we're pretty confident that he's lying his head off. I figure that he realized that he wasn't going to be able to force hubby to quit the drums by calling the cops all the time, cuz they weren't on his side about it. He wasn't going to be able to get the manager to tell us to stop cuz she wasn't on his side either. Maybe he was even told by the cops that if he kept calling them they might write him a ticket for wasting their time after they had told him it was fine. So he tried an approach he hadn't tried before, he tried being nice. And it worked. So there's a tip for people with problem neighbors....if being nice doesn't work at first, try being an a-hole for a while. Then when you're nice again it'll be such a relief to your neighbor they'll be happy to listen. Now, why he felt he had to lie and tell us that the cops were telling him something different than they were telling us, I don't know. I think he was counting on us not having the police reports, or maybe that they wouldn't be as detailed as they were. Oh well, I don't care. I will feel more comfortable when he's gone, but at least until then things should be much calmer....See MoreI really dislike having an outside cat. Really.
Comments (21)I know, it doesn't make sense from a strictly logical perspective. But I have an emotional connection with these birds. I haven't been in the position of watching mama and papa mouse feeding the babies for weeks. I can't say I have no problem with mouse killing. I can accept clean kills, but it's the suffering that bothers me. Cats often play with their prey--even when the prey is terribly wounded and incapacitated, the cat will toss it about. I have a big problem with that. Yes, I know it's nature, but my nature motivates me to attempt a rescue if the animal is still in good shape, or put an end to its suffering if it is beyond saving. I've done this many times....See More- 17 years ago
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