hi needsometips - The golden beaches is beautiful and I can't imagine tiring of looking at that each day. Whoever put those cabinet doors next to the granite will have a nice combo. It would be helpful to see YOUR doors next to it. (will you have two different finishes on your cabinets?) I know what you're going through. We started with quartz and several months later switched to granite because we saw the granite in a mock kitchen and kept wishing we had picked that. A month or two after we picked it, I started worrying that it would have a pinkish hue to it and started to entertain thoughts of changing it. I was still holding my breath on how it would look up until the moment they put the first piece on top of the cabinets. Whew - I was relieved to see it was beautiful - no pink hue. Not once since the granite was installed did I wish we had gone with the quartz. So, at some point you have to trust your decision - especially if both of you agreed on the granite choice. And, there is no limit on your "free passes" to change your mind. This is your project and you should be able to change your mind until you're satisfied. However,keep in mind that sometimes changing your mind late in the game will cost you more. My experience has been that the contractors and other businesses had no problems with a change when it involved an upgrade from the previous choice. (Ouchh - the wallet takes another hit!)

Hey K-J, you are the 2nd Aries that I've met - that I know. The other person is an old friend from the "hood". We are still friends and he has always told be that to experience an Aries is to experience life. He basically told me to "hold-on and be ready for some fun and excitement. He's just as you described yourself - nutty, but not too much over the edge. I guess I'm that way a little myself - a true Capricorn!! I posted before on this thread, but had to chime in again. I was someehat involved with someone that I've known for some time. I guess we mutually, without saying, decided to try to make a go at it, and it really hasn't worked. Rather than disolve a friendship, we decided to skip the relationship part. It was a bummer because being with him was easy - no real expectations; just spending time together, doing some things every once in a while. It was good while it lasted, but as it began to grow into something else, he got cold feet and I became uncomfortable with trying not to move forward. Plus, I'm not so sure I want to move in that direction just yet. So, we are now just friends again. That's working and I'm glad. I say this only to say that part of the problem is that I've always been "one of the guys", and bad boys are my specialty, I guess. This person wanted someone a little more refined. You can dress me up and take me out and I can play the part (I actually like that), but sometimes I'm a little bit nuttier than most guys want. Most of the time bad boys seem to accept that part. I just had a conversation with someone about bad buys too. They are often so intense that they can see right through to a woman's soul. I think that's why a lot of women are attracted to them. They seem to know what it takes. Sorry nice guys. You are great too, but for me, I like to jazz it up a bit - do some fun things a little bit different than the normal dinner and movie.

JNM, honestly... I was thinking of your posts this weekend and I kept thinking dear lord dont let what happened with her happen with us... but then I am very realistic and I am sure this will only last as long as whatever else in her life is tilted. I suspect the boyfriend but who knows what it is... we shall see :-)And, I totally get what you are saying... I know if (and when) things go bad I will immediately go back to being the bad guy. I dont know why I am always the bad guy ... especially since I have told DH numerous times (and he in an argument told her a few times) I am BM's best friend and she doesnt even know it... I am the person saying lets calm down and look at this from a different angle blah blah blah... I keep trying to think of an analogy but I cant come up with one. I even told my mom I am so shocked by the way things are going I half expect the next time I see her I will say hey what's up and she will say... umm nothing back to being ignored or having insulting comments thrown my way.... But hey we take the good when we can get it I suppose.

My problem is that I get bored of things or I get buyer's remorse or a couch gets a stain on it that I can't get out! So I want high quality, but at a reasonable price in case one of the above happens! I spend a lot of time shopping around! I am redoing my bedroom and found a photo of a look I liked. I searched and found the fabric for the drapes and it was something like $300 per yard so I abandoned that idea. I looked all over and found drapes in almost the same fabric at Pier 1. They are a black and white graphic pattern. They were extremely inexpensive. Now if I want to change to flowing white drapes, I don't mind replacing them. I also looked all over for my duvet cover and shams. After looking at so many of them, I actually found my favorite at JC Penney! Very inexpensive, great quality and I love it! I saw many tufted headboards in my research. After looking at them all, I found someone on etsy that makes headboards and she has great reviews and is very reasonably priced. Now if I get bored of that style, I don't mind changing. I love the headboard! The one thing I splurged on was the fabric for my throw pillows. It was $150 per yard with a 2 yard minimum. I was really hesitating about purchasing the fabric, but then I found pillows made in that fabric on etsy for about $70 each. They bring everything together in the room perfectly. I looked and looked but couldn't find anything as pretty with those colors. I am extremely happy with the result! So I really do believe you can find things you love at a lower price. My couch in my living room is from Rowe furniture. I looked at very expensive couches everywhere. The one I loved the most was at a store and it was Rowe. And it was not that expensive. It has been so well made and looks just as beautiful as the higher priced sofas.