"Losing my house doesnt mean Ive lost my home, it only means Im moving."
Oh gads, in my mind losing your house is a big deal. I would be devestated if it happened to me.
However, I agree that it doesn't mean that you've lost your home. You and LF are a family unit and no matter where you go you are together and that makes a home.

You have a beautiful way with words and I always enjoy your posts so much. Your strength shines through in your posts as well as your life.

West, it was devestating. Soul-wrenchingly and heartbreakingly devestating. I can't even find the words to convey it. But my perspective is different now. I'll move and have a different house to live in. I won't own one for a few years, but it'll still be a house. Meaning, I will not be living on the streets :)

Thanks ejmoore! I really really appreciate it.

rob333, You said: "Meaning, I will not be living on the streets :)" I've never seen you mention that there was even a possibility that you would be living on the streets.

I don't see any way that could happen. Both of my parents have homes of their own, all six my siblings own homes (one has two homes) and I could live with them. But what I meant was, it could be worse, much much worse. I know having something that I've poured my heart, soul, talent, time, and money into ranks right up there with the worst of the worst, but having nothing (homeless) after that was said and done would be the worst thing to happen. I hate that for anyone! Especially anyone with kids. It's the main reason I donate my money (and when I get settled (now that I have graduated and stopped remodeling, but now I have to move), my time) to Habitat for Humanity.

There is no question that I'm a result oriented person with a soft heart. But I also ask tough questions of myself, so I ask you.

So,rob333 , how come you donate your $$$ to Habitat for Humanity since you and LF need a home for yourselves? Will you get a home from Habitat for Humanity from all your hard work/money donated?

We bought the home as a married couple (this part is a sore spot with me, as HE had to have it, but I didn't want it), but it has to be sold as it is a marital asset. I can't afford the house with one income (taking over the payments), so I cannot underwrite the house on my own. Nor would I want to do so, as I refuse to live outside of my means, only buying what I can afford or save up and get with cash. I'm a debt-free living kind of person. Or I was before HIM and I will be again. With a smaller housepayment, I can afford to donate money, while still having a home and accumulate savings.

:)

When we were young and first married and didn't have a pot to pee in I still donated to a couple of causes. Not a pile of money but just something. People do it in church all the time it seems to me,I think they call it tithing.Whatever the name,it's still a donation. Robin,I really like the sentence you wrote " Losing my house doesnt mean Ive lost my home, it only means Im moving."

Am I the only one here at the GP who remembers when journal entries were there to read but no comments were given?I liked that. Someone would write their feelings about something,then someone else would write their own entry,etc. but there was no conversation back and forth. I think when you know you can write from your heart on at least one post,with the knowledge that you aren't going to be picked apart for something you may have said,it serves a purpose the other threads don't.

Rob, I think you figured out that a house is just wood and bricks but a HOME is were you and LF are, eating apples and doing dishes.

No back-patting either

We could go back to the "sidebar" seperate post if you want. It doesn't bother me one way or the other. I just miss Lilo, Jude, Suzy, anyone contributing.

But it led to conversation, and I am glad for that! We could use some good conversations.

I don't normally comment on these journal entries---somstimes I almost feel like I'm peeking in someone's diary in a way and feel a little uncomfortable about it, but that's just sometimes--and I only look if I've read everything else already!

(Lilo's entries were an exception----they were always chapters from a book about Heaven on earth!! How I love you, Lilo----SUCH a treasure!!)

Rob, I will say you've brought back memories of when I went through a divorce with three children and never a DIME of support---I left him alone because he turned over the house to me, which is what I silently prayed for, while sitting in the lawyer's office for the last time.
You have MOXIE and I appreciate that part of you when it comes down to the nitty-gritty and hard times.

Mardas' point has a lot of validity---it would get tiring, feeling as though one had to defend himself for the way he/she feels, acts, thinks, with every typed word that came into our view.
We are not a court---we are a garden of incredible diversity and great hard-won beauty in heart and form.
Amen and Amen again.

"Amen and Amen again". kathyjane . That's the end of a prayer that something will end.

I read all your entries, Robin. There is not anything I can add to them of any consequence. You have your head on straight. Things are going to fall in to place for you, I am sure. The timing with the economy sucks major eggs, but like you can control that? ;-) I've always thought the most important things in life nobody can take from you, unless you hand it over to them, because they're stored in your spirit. I walked away from a nice house with three hundred dollars, two children and the clothes on our backs. I seldom looked back and there'll come a day that you won't either.

I just admire your spirit, Robin. If everybody had their priorities as straight as you, it would be a nicer world.

I've been reading a blog called Garden Bliss for a long time. About a year ago the blogger quit blogging because of personal issues. She's back. See the link below.
Robin, you kept posting through all the troubled times. There are different ways of communicating on the web.

West, all I know is, 1) this type of thread was started a long time ago, 2) I don't tell 3/4 of what goes on (nothing that isn't already public knowledge), and 3), most importantly, there are fewer and fewer ways to have conversations over here. I'd like to find a way for more conversations (interesting ones too) to go on. Ideas for that are more than welcome. Feel free to suggest a way for that!

:)

The reason I started reading the Garden Bliss blog was because she was gardening in Sacramento and and I know that it can get very hot in Sac. I was wondering how she dealt with that. When she dropped out of blogging I wondered what happened to her garden.
Since this is a garden party I appreciate your posts about your garden/planting news, Rob, from house to house and perhaps a third house.