Would anger management help Bullie medical personel, or racists, or ethnic haters? It is quite proper sometimes to get angry and let racists and sexists know that they are sociably unacceptble. To take up for people who cannot take up for them selves is applaudible. Am adding another link. I bet i know one of the people the AMA is apoligizing for. You did'nt even begin to mention the herbs that would help anger stress. Mints do not. I grow all kinds of mints. Lots of room and lots of mints. I'm in zone 6 and passiflora grows wild up here, eveywhere. Talk about a potentially toxic herb. must have slipped up again Doctor. Here is a link that might be useful: AMA to Apoligise to Black Doctors

I was married for 18 years to a man with major anger issues. Like your husband, mine was not physically abusive towards me. But emotional abuse is just as bad. Those scars are just as deep you just can't see them on the surface. I too "fell" out of love with him early on but stayed because he threatened many times to take my children from me if I even tried to leave. Do you have children, is that why you stay? If you don't have children, don't have them with him at all. He may be calmer now, for awhile, but he will revert, trust me. When I finally left my husband he didn't understand why. I told him anger, meanness and "you" are just not a nice person and if I wasn't married to you I wouldn't even want you for a friend...ask your friends. So he did (surprise, surprise)and even more surprising they all told him the truth. That was ten years ago. Last year he told me divorcing him was the best thing that ever happened to him because that was the only thing that would and did get through to him was loosing everything, including his kids. Forcing him to really take a long honest look at himself, with the help of a counselor. However it did take him almost 10 years to reach that insight. Asolo is correct, you are in danger, maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but it will come eventually. Each sucsessive outburst that he gets away with will be just a little more intense until it eventually becomes physical. But to answer your original questions: NO!!! It is my belief that it is not possible to "fall" back in love. That level of love requires a level of trust that I don't believe can ever be restored. But that's just MHO. Alexis

Thanks everyone. My GD's father is a chef, so the family eats very well. He doesn't do junk food. I just wish they could get a handle on it. She hasn't taken naps since she was two and a half. She gets tired, but won't lay down. DD usually trys a DVD she's seen many times, and GD will sit to watch that. Instead of getting sleepy, she gets bored, and gets up to do something else. She had a tantrum with ME, when I was visiting. I was told to get her hair pulled back into a ponytail, before sitting down for dinner. She wanted her hair left alone. She was told she couldn't sit at the table unless her hair was back. She put up a fit. We ignored her, and finally I got her hair back, but she got away and shook her head around to mess up her hair! She got sent to her room, which has not much in it, except books. She pulls this "power struggle", stuff all the time. Maybe someday, she'll outgrow it, then there's her little sister........LOL Poor DD., Been there, done that.

That's really terrific! I'll say it again- A___ is so lucky to have you in his life!