Rhizo and Ficus, I didn't see your threads. Rhizo. I understand what you're saying, but...... lol. Until 'X' or so years ago, I not only repotted plants throughout the year, 10am or 10pm, but fertilized whenever the mood struck, 10am or 10pm. Winter, spring, summer and fall. But, holding back fertilizer during winter is something I sense. Do I have scientific proof..nope. But, it's something I feel. Rhizo, please understand, I'm not telling anyone to do as I do. People will fertilize, repot, or whatever one does with plants when they want. Outdoor Fir trees are evergreen, yet they stop growing during winter months. The same applies to Holly and Euonymous. sp. It's true outdoor, in-ground evergreens obtain nutrients through soil, which is the reason I pot tropicals in fertile, black soil..'and other amendments.' If a leaf or stem falls in a bag of black soil, before you know what hit, the stem/leaf takes root. More roots in the bag than stems I've tried rooting in water or a rooting mix. lol. I'd probably feel different if we lived in a warm, sunny climate, but IL is terribly, depressingly grey. Unless there's snow, something we rarely see anymore, so the skies are dark. Hope you understand... :) Hi Ficus. Haven't see you in ages. Are you saying, it doesn't matter whether you fertilize once or four times a year? Either way, plants end up with the same results? Depending on low-high light plant. Yes, light is the issue. This summer is unnatural. It's felt like autumn most of July. No sun to speak of, and very cool to cold temps. Normal summers, temps, at the minimum remain in the 80's, and several weeks @ 90. So, light is the main reason I hesitate fertilizing..worse when nights dip in the 50's..one night 40's. Guess I pretty much care for my plants the same way I care for mysef. When days are cold and gloomy, my energy level decreases to an all time low. I hardly eat..and feel like napping most of the day. Of course, my reasoning is very un-scientific, unless you're a believer in ESP, telepathy, etc. lol. I see you're in z9/10. Would you say it's sunny most of the year? Nj. I argee, a plant that is stressed should not be fertilized. Ever hear people say, my plant is dying, so I added more fertilizer or although the soil is wet, I watered more. lol I do use SuperThrive when a plant arrives or doesn't look well, but forget the fert. Wow, nice Aucuba. They're beautiful. I'd loving seeing Aucuba with ripe berries. You're right. Not only is there a Croton that resembles Aucuba, but a Dracana, too. I don't remember Dracs name, but common name is Florida Beauty. Ever heard of this Dracaena? I have two, small Drac, Florida Beautys. One has the yellow dots, the other is variegated on top of the dots, BUT neither grow..Can't recall the exact date, but they're 5 plus years old. I don't get it. You must have a huge garden. lol.

Baby Bermuda in Atlanta? Baby Bermuda is an exclusive product of Easton Sod farms located in OK. It is also a hybrid and there is no seed. How did you get it? Anyway crabgrass is easy to control with post-emergence products. But as stated you have to wait until the lawn is mature and has been mowed a few times. Otherwise you risk injuring the grass. FWIW you could paint it on, but if you are going to that much trouble, why not just pull it out to begin with and cast that demon back to he!! Nut Sedge is another issue and very difficult to control. Most of the post - emergence controls just makes it mad and the nut underneath the ground sends up three replacements for every one you spray. There are a couple of product out there like Manage and Sedge Hammer that are effective but very expensive.

I am also a bit hesitant to buy things or sell things to strangers, although I did sell a futon on CL, but it was a nice lady and she was by herself, so I figured I could take her if I had to!! But, I'm more hesitant to sell a car through the paper than furniture. It really makes me nervous to have someone come and drive my car around - I don't want to really go with them, and I'm afraid they'll drive off with it or wreck it. My husband is not at home regularly in the evenings or on weekends, so we just trade in the car when we need a new one. I feel bad in a way because I know we could get more for it by selling it ourselves.

I’m so glad you found peace Southern Summer ! I know it’s not the way we all visualized our blended families to be, but we had no choice but to separate & RE-gain our marriage back. I know that feeling & I am so glad your husband realized what was happening & found his way back to your marriage as priority & backed you, his wife, his future. I’m so glad to have connected with other SM’s who get it. Have a great day & keep smiling, there is a great life out here for all of us !