Thanks, beekeeperswife...I finally saw it :) You're right...not much traffic. Confusing since I see a lot of 'kitcheny' subject lines. *shrug* So...there's really no good place to post off-topic threads that get traffic? What about the 'kitchen table'?

Well, DH (the problem solver) decided that I wasn't going to stand up for myself & called the CEO. He met with me & the Pres. They were not surprised. They told me that I was certainly not the first person to have problems with this woman. I told them that I had planned to talk to her first before going over her head to them. They were very nice & told me that they respected that & wouldn't get involved at this time. They said that if talking with her didn't work & the problem continued to come to them. They also told me that even if they got involved, she wouldn't change fundamentally. She wasn't included, but she knew something was going on because she was very nice to me for a couple of days. They she basically lost it in front of another employee who had come to ask me a question. She was so bad that he just stood there with an astonished look on his face. She needed some paperwork & couldn't find it & was convinced that I had it & just hadn't put it away properly. I told her that I did not have the papers in question & had not seen them. Since this was something a little out of the ordinary & a first time occurence, I would remember it. I'm pretty sure that she took care of this particular issue & the papers were likely on her desk somewhere. It wouldn't be the first time this had happened. She became very angry when I told her I didn't know where it was. They realize that this woman has friction with a lot of people. I've seen her act badly to the plant manager & one of the other VP's, but of course neither of them works for her, so they just ignore it. I had a long meeting with my boss yesterday. I told her that her treating me the way she had been bothered me & was a problem. I gave her several examples. I also told her that I needed to start working more regular hours. I told her that I certainly didn't mind working overtime when needed, but that I could not continue working until 7:30 or later every night and thru lunch. I also explained to her that I believed I was spending more time than she realized answering questions for other staff that relate to customers & trying to facilitate things from our dept. that might be holding up an order. This is not something I'm just doing extra, it's part of my job. I just don't think she realizes how much time it takes. She told me that she realized that she often came across in a bad way. She said she didn't mean to be a witch, but she knows it often sounds that way. She mentioned that this was an issue with the previous person in my job. She also said that she's come a long way from the way she used to be (now that is SCARY!). She also said that until fairly recently, she had never managed people. I feel better now that I've taken the step of talking with her so she realizes there are issues. I don't think it'll actually change things over the long term. I did work very late Tues. night, but she did at least ask if I minded. I took a long lunch on Wed. & left on time. She told me yesterday during our meeting that she wanted to meet with the entire dept. now that we had someone new. She later popped in & said that she had asked the others to meet at lunchtime & that we would order lunch in. This was not a previously scheduled meeting. I told her that DH was going out of town for a couple of days & that I had already planned to have lunch with him because of that. She said that she would have to go ahead & meet with the rest of the dept. I told her that was fine. Normally, even if I'd had lunch plans with DH, I wouldn't have minded changing them for an impromptu meeting. But with him going out of town, I didn't feel that I should cancel them yesterday. They ended up not meeting because one of the ladies didn't get asked before & she also had plans.

It has not ever been in my topics list on my cell phone. But it is in my topics list on my PC. When I try to submit a thread I cannot find it when on my cell phone. Which is quite inconvenient as I'm on my cell phone more that I am my PC these days. It is one of my personal topics but does not show up on my cell phone topics list only on my PC topic list. Errrgh... Hopefully all of us will have it eventually on any device. How I currently reach Home Decorating conversations on my cell phone is I have pasted the link on my homepage of my cell. Yes I jump through hoops to be here!

^^^Bingo, oakley - you said exactly what;s on my mind. I feel a bit 'selfish' about it as well but there it is. The sense of 'privacy' within our small conversation community is disappearing and of course I know that was a very false sense of security even before Houzz - we were open to unknown lurkers forever. The cross posting that includes the conversation forum has made us more visible to people that never knew we existed before - which would not always be a bad thing except..... because we have Decorating in our forum name, people think this is just yet another place to ask about drapes or paint color. And yet I find it perfectly ok when familiar names pop in with a question about drapes or paint color of furniture arranging. That's not a particularly flattering admission on my part so think of me what you will. localeater I too have some pending decorating posts to make and planned to ask here when I'm ready. I'll probably also post on the 'real' decorating side but as a separate, not cross post. It will mean following 2 threads but since I don't expect either one to become a hundreds+ topic, I'll deal with it. 3katz that's a great way of putting it - distracting nuisance - and again it's because we have Decorating in our forum title and new people don't know the basis for this forum.