me and my wife have been married for 4 years. We have no kids yet. Recently my wife had a disagreement about moving houses. My wife works very far away. She has to drive at least an hour and 10 minutes to work. Me on the other hand I drive just 20 minutes to go to work if the traffic moves normally. Before I met my wife I already brought my house and I paid it off when I received an inheritance from my dead father. My wife moved in with me after I made her sign the obligatory prenup. I plan on staying where I am at for the rest of my life because this is where I grew up and my family and most of my friends lives right here and I don't want to be far. My wife's family on the other hand lives 40 minutes away and they don't live too far away from where she works.
Recently me and my wife had a disagreement that kinda turned heated. It was about moving houses. She says that we should move because she starting to get tired of driving an hour everyday. She didn't always work where she works now. She use to work at a location that was about 30 minutes away from home but she got terminated for reasons I can't remember. She chose that job in that other location because it was the only location that offered her and she accepted but now she thinks we should move because she wants to be closer to her job. I argued with her and told her that this idea is nuts and she is selfish for even subjecting that and that she is the one who wanted to take that job when I make more then enough money to cover for the both of us. I told her to suck it up and deal with it. I told her that she made her bed and now she has to lay on it. She should put her grown woman pants on and deal with it like a soldier. My wife argued with me that we can compromise by moving a bit closer to her job but not too far from where I work. I was honestly confused by that statement and I was also very annoyed. I told my wife NO. My wife said that I am acting kinda selfish and this is what pissed me off. When she said that I told her: listen, I am gonna end this discussion here. We are not having this conversation anymore. She tried to argue again and say that she wants to move closer to her job but she still wants to compromise. I told her: if you want to move, move by yourself. And then I walked away. The argument happened 2 days ago. Now I have been keeping my distance from her. When I come home, I do not talk too much to her. And after work, I go to the library to chill there and leave right before it closes at around 10 PM. And when I do come home, I say a polite hello to my wife and ask how her day was. She tells me it was great and she asks how my day was and I tell her my day was fine. I make sure to be as neutral and as distant as possible and I limit my time around her and only have small talks. And then I sleep in a different room. I am planning on keeping my distance from her for awhile. I Give her space and give myself space. I won't be interacting with her much and I'll be sleeping in a different room. This weekend, me and my friends will go away to the country side so it will be a good getaway. And I won't be talking to my wife on the phone. How do you deal with arguments with your spouse? What would you do if you were in this situation? It feels like my wife is trying to control me and isolate me from my family and friends.