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amylou321
last month

How is your year so far? Its early in the year, its true. But the start of something can sometimes set the tone for the whole thing. My year already has ups and downs.


I turned 39 in January. I have enjoyed my 30s tremendously. Way better than my 20s. Its true, I was thinner and perhaps had a bit more energy in my 20s. But the 30s have been the best yet. More freedom, more money, more hope more happiness. I hope that trend continues for every decade.


On the downside of January, I was grounded by my weight loss doctor. I had gained a pound, after indulging in my birthday treats. And they told me that not only would they not see me for my appointment that day, but that they would not prescribe any of the weight loss meds for 100 days. No worries though, I was WELCOME to come in between now and when my punishment was up to purchase vitamins and B-12 shots. Not sure when the 100 day banishment policy was put in place. The doctor himself is a very nice man but his Nurse Practitioner basically calls the shots there, so I imagine it was her doing. No matter, the phentermine was starting to become ineffective anyway and when they offered to make me another appointment in 3 months, I told them I would let them know. There are weight loss clinics all over town if I wanted to get the meds that bad. I just need to suck it up and do it. And I will.


February has been good as well. FINALLY got my car back. I wrecked it in February of last year. SO has a friend with a body shop that did all the work at a ridiculously low rate so we did not rush him. I am so happy to have my little corolla back, with a fresh sparkly coat of paint. Also, my hubcaps have been gone for some time. The car is 20 years old and really I do not know anyone with THAT car or have seen THAT model on the road that still has hubcaps. I remember when I lost the last one. I stopped at a stop sign, and I watched as it rolled around the front of my car, and down a side street. 🤣 My SO, who loves cars and has too many and way too much car stuff laying around, rummaged through it all and found me some nice looking hubcaps, cleaned them up and put them on. So with those and the new paint it looks brand new! I warned him that my corolla does not like to hang on to hubcaps.....but for now it looks nice. The car SO got me to drive in the meantime was nice, and I am grateful for it though I already had a sort of "back up" car, but I am much happier that I have my main car back.


Valentines Day is always a joyful day for me. I made heart shaped biscuit sandwiches for breakfast and heart shaped pizzas for dinner before Ileft for work that afternoon. I got a huge arrangement of flowers, a giant food basket, and the promise that he will procure and haul the 200 bags of dirt I need for my new raised beds I bought to grow veggies in. I got him a fridge to put in his shop. Not a mini, not a full size. I think its 7 or 8 cubic feet. He spends lots of time in his shop in the warmer months and his friends are always around too. He would end up making 20 trips up to our house to get everyone drinks or bottled water or ice or something. So now he can just keep them in the shop and save the trouble. I also got him a coat I thought he would like. He said he did like it so I am satisfied.


On the downside, I got a text from my oldest brother, who NEVER texts or calls me, EVER, asking me to call when I have a minute. I did and he informed me that his third marriage is ending, and he asks if he can forward his mail to my house until he gets settled elsewhere. He lives in the same state, a few hours away. He also asked me in no uncertain terms to NOT mention this to our parents or siblings. I said ok, texted him my address and forgot about it. I am shocked that this marriage lasted as long as it did, not shocked that it ended, though I am sad for him. He is always trying to rescue a woman, and it has done him zero good. I had a BAD feeling about her from the start, but as I do not know details of their split, I shant cast dispersions on her. Anyway, today I woke up to another text from him, begging for money to fix his car and for moving expenses. This distressed me greatly. He has never asked anything of me before, and it was not a small amount he was asking for. I sent it to him, because I do think he will give it back when his house sells like he said he would, and I also believe that if the roles were reversed, he would help me. However, it still bothers me. A man of his age should really not be in such a position, but its his choices of partners that have ultimately led him here. It upsets me that he is not ok. But he is an extremely private and proud person, and I know it hurt him to have to ask his baby sister for money of all things. It also bothers me that he seems to think that he can just not tell the rest of our family. She is included in group texts and emails as his wife for family business even though no one is really attached to her deeply, and she never really showed any interest in his family, and eventually it will come out when she lets everyone know. I will, of course, honor his wishes and keep it to myself. I think the reason he asked ME instead of our other siblings or parents ( most of which are much better off than I am financially, in an obvious way) is because when they first decided to get married, everyone else let their objections be known, loudly. He was JUST divorced from his second wife. I mean, he met and married this one within 6 months of the split from the last one. I was the only one who minded my own business. I do NOT like for anyone to meddle in my private life and the choices I make as an independent adult, and I extend that same courtesy to others. The only thing I told her was that whatever happened between her and my brother was THEIR business but if I heard that she mistreated my nephew, his son from his second wife who was 6 at the time, in ANY way, shape or form, that I would whoop her behind. And I meant that. I guess he does not want to hear the "I told you sos" though I do not think anyone would do such a thing at such a time. I am sad for him. I hate that he wasted 8 years of life on her. But what's done is done. I hope the rest if this year goes much better for him.


I, for myself, am looking forward with optimism for the rest of this year. I am planning my garden. I love looking through all the seed and rose catalogs I get and deciding what will be grown this year. I was given an acceptable raise at work. And even though I still have to deal with a coworker that I hate to his very core, I have chosen to focus on the positive aspects of my job. I work in my office on my shifts alone, and yet I am surrounded every night by people who I do really like and have a lot of fun with. I have made good friends here. Besides all the misery and rage that comes with that one coworker, my job is low stress usually and affords me a nice life, so I will be grateful for it and make the best of it. In general, with everything concerning my own life, I am very very happy. I am very grateful for that.


So how is your 2024 starting off?

Comments (48)

  • lucillle
    last month

    Anyway, today I woke up to another text from him, begging for money to fix his car and for moving expenses. This distressed me greatly. He has never asked anything of me before, and it was not a small amount he was asking for. I sent it to him,

    Please forgive me for asking, but did you double check to make sure it was him before sending the money? The fact that it was an unusual request coupled with his insistence that you keep all of this quiet just seemed like a red flag to me. Again, I am not prying, just want to make sure you are safe.

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  • amylou321
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    last month

    Yes. It was him, I did speak to him before i sent it.

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  • Kathsgrdn
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    Amylou, glad you got your car back! I'm also looking forward to gardening season. I found a company that delivers truck loads of manure to your house so will try them for the first time. I usually buy it in bags and it's expensive. Even with the deilvery cost this may be cheaper for me. My raised beds have really sunk in over the year.


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  • chisue
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    Kath -- What on earth is a 'shrunk'?

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    I suspect she means "schrank". It's a type of furniture most commonly referred to in the US using the French word "armoire" (pronounced as if arm-wa). Schrank is the German word that means the same as armoire.

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  • Kathsgrdn
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    Chisue, it's a wall unit made in Germany: german shrunk furniture - Search Images (bing.com)



    this is mine

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  • nicole___
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  • wildchild2x2
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  • sweet_betsy No AL Z7
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  • Elmer J Fudd
    last month

    With all due respect, kathsgrdn, I do not believe "shrunk" is a German language word. I'm comfortable enough with my knowlege of German and German phoenics to say that with confidence. The fact that you found hits in a Bing search suggests there are many people with an incomplete knowledge of German phonetics and spelling.


    I'll stick to "schrank". Same phoentical treatment for the "a" as the word "danke", which would be transliterated for English phonetics as "donka". Schrank given the same treatment for the vowel would sound the same as the "bonk" part of "bonkers". So, shronk. But it's spelled schrank and used to mean cabinet, wardrobe, closet, and the like.

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  • Kathsgrdn
    last month

    Elmer, I never said it was. It's what we U.S. Air Force people stationed in Germany used to call these wall units. I never once said it was a German word.

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  • Cherryfizz
    last month

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  • OutsidePlaying
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    Stressful for us too. As I’ve written before, on the night of Jan 8 we got a call that our vacation condo was on fire. There was a terrible storm that night which blew a tree down on a power line. The line fell on the condo next to ours and ignited the fire which totalky destroyed the 4 units in the building. Apparently an automatic shutoff interlock in the line failed to disconnect and sparked the fire. The HOA insurance adjusters and utility company have still been investigating but bottom line is we have already received our insurance checks. We now are just waiting for the bids for demo and reconstruction and all that to begin. The HOA is taking care of that process and keeping us informed. We agreed it is best to choose one contractor to do the entire job. We didn’t salvage much except a small patio set, a few pieces of art, and some kitchen items, which I may not keep depending on if we decide to sell the condo when done.

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  • chisue
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    Kathsgrdn -- I learned something new! Your wall unit (American translation) is lovely. Your link page showed a clever unit that looks like a bed in the wall -- with clothes hooks! I'll get back to this thread eventually with *my* 2024 progress report, but have to actually MAKE some before I comment.

    Do we need a separate topic about weight loss for the KT? I see a lot of progress coming on that front, not just here, but everywhere (weight loss meds contributing).

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  • ladypat1
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    Been doing well this year so far. I must have gotten covid sometime last fall though, as I have lost my sense of taste, and my sense of smell is very warped. I took covid tests around Thanksgiving and Christmas when i had small sniffles. Negative. But I noticed my Standard Thanksgiving dinner did not have much taste. Went to primary care and she said I may have had false negative covid tests. It is annoying because I am disappointed with most food. (You'd think I would lose weight, but noooo). That's all my health problems so that's good. Have started walking the mall again, and it feels good.

    Have lots to look forward to. Grandbaby # 2 is due on April 13. Mom has had lots of issues, her immunity is down and she is catching everything. Baby has issue too and will be operated on as soon as he/she is born. I take #1 grandson lots to give her a break, and I am loving it.

    Still play Mah Jong once a week, and go to retired teacher lunch once a month. Other teachers want to join us for MahJong, but don't want to take the necessary parks and rec lessons. It's not that easy. Going to Texas where it's warmer than KC later this week to stay with daughter #2 for a week. We do work in her flower beds, and shop and eat out. Love that. I keep telling her I want to come and stay a couple of months in the winter, and she says fine but you need to learn to drive here. I am not going to haul you around. (heehee) But I won't because I will be babysitting 2 little ones soon.

    I am leaning on my faith lots lately, and am always happier then. If you got time to worry, you got time to pray.

    OutsidePlaying isn't botanical work nice?

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    " Elmer, I never said it was. "

    Sorry if I misunderstood, kathsgardn. Your post suggested to me that you were challenging my comment. What would your misunderstood term of "shrunk" have been if not German?

    I'm sure you enjoy your souvenir of your time there. I'm impressed that something so large and bulky survived shipment back.

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  • Kathsgrdn
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    Elmer, yes, it survived that and multiple trips across the U.S. It is not a single unit, but 6 pieces that come apart with screws. The upper parts are just sitting on the bottom pieces, then are screwed together and lights cords are then plugged into each other that run through the whole unit. The doors also lift off easily for packing.

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  • OutsidePlaying
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    Ladypat, yes! I really enjoy botanical stuff so much, both at the Garden and at my own house. I just finished up-potting some tiny seedlings (mostly tomato) that were readh for bigger pots and more soil. Good to see new growth getting ready for transplanting in about 6 weeks! I hope all goes well with Mama and Grandbaby #2.

    Kath, I meant to say, we also have a shrank/shrunk too! DH has hauled it to the US from Germany when he was stationed there in the early 70’s to I don’t know how many houses now. It is in our study and I fear this will be its last stop. Truthfully, I’m ready to let it go and have some built-ins installed, but he is not. I call it ’the hulk’, but you have perfectly described how it is disassembled into flat pieces for moving.

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  • foodonastump
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    Shrunk would be a closer approximation of how to pronounce Schrank. So there’s that.

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  • Kathsgrdn
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    OutsidePlaying, mine is looking worn on parts of it. You can't really tell from that picture. I too was ready to get rid of it a few years ago and have a built in bookcase built in the space, painted bright white. When I had friends over last Friday for game night, one of my friends, who I've known since moving to this town told the other one, who now lives in my old rental home, that I almost got rid of it and she told me not to. Don't remember that but I just got lazy and will probably die with the shrunk now. I did buy some Mimwax paste and hope it makes it look better and get me moving some and off my rear end.



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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    " Shrunk would be a closer approximation "

    No. The vowel sound is like onk, not unk.

    Is your user name here pronounced as if spelled feed on a stimp?



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  • Jupidupi
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    My husband had some health issues that necessitated a colonoscopy & endoscopy being done at the hospital on January 2 (so he fasted January 1). He came home and started feeling a lot of pain. Went to Emergency the next day with a perforated appendix! The doctor claimed it wasn't related, but I have trouble believing that. He came home the day after surgery, had more pain, and went back to Emergency with a post-surgical complication that lead to ileus, with his digestion totally shut down. Had a tube down his throat for a few days, was in the hospital all week before his digestion started working again. So between the tests, surgery and aftermath, he had nothing to eat for almost the first two weeks of the year. But now he's home, the bloating is gone, he's eating and thrilled to have lost about 10 pounds. But talk about a miserable way to lose weight!

    On the plus side, he's up to going out and having fun again. Last week, with free tickets, we saw a burlesque version of West Side Story with some incredible dancing.

    And today the butcher gave me a 15% discount, saying it was my lucky day because he rang it up wrong. And when I unpacked my bag from the bakery, I discovered an extra loaf of bread. I haven't gotten free stuff like this since I was young and cute.

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  • foodonastump
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    “No. The vowel sound is like onk, not unk.”

    I’d say it’s closer to unk than onk, not exactly like either, but I guess that’s a matter of the differences how we may pronounce onk and unk so it’s subjective. What’s less subjective is that German was my first language, my mom’s off the boat, the SS Parthia to be exact, I grew up around and speaking with Germans, and while I don’t speak it as well today as I did as a child, I have the utmost confidence that I pronounce Schrank like a native speaker.

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    There's a lot of regional and local dialect pronunciation differences in Germany. Not just as between Hochdeutsch and Plattdeutsch. And even more when bringing in pronunciations common in Austria, Switzerland, and places in Germany near those borders and also near the Netherlands. You likely learned the pronunciations in use whether she came from.

    Just as a start, as you may know, there are at least three ways to pronounce the simple word "I" - whether ish, ik, or a throaty icchhh. I've travelled all over Germany on dozens of trips, I'm very comfortable that what I know was gained from personal experiences and extends well beyond my university studies or learning from one person.

    A thousand years ago, I visited a friend serving out his ROTC active-duty obligation while stationed in Rheinland-Pfalz. I went with him to a local store to help him buy a simple bedroom-type armoire he wanted to ultimately bring back to the US. In that southwestern German location, schrank was decidedly as if spelled in English shronk with the normal throat treatment given to the lettter "r" different from English.

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  • foodonastump
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    How’s your year thus far, Elmer?

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    Excellent, couldn't be better. How about for you? Many excellent memories to stow away in my memory schrank.


    PS - congrats on your weight loss. Did you use any particular approach?



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  • eld6161
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    Back to the Amy’s intended topic.

    Issues with my youngest daughter are slowly being resolved.

    Our 13 year old dog was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, tumors around his heart and a blood clot. The ER vet recommended putting him down! He was then turned over to the cardiologist. When we picked him up the vet said he responded very well to the first round of meds.

    Long story short he is on 5 meds and doing very well. Of couse it is day to day, no long walks, but he is happy! No more labored breathing.

    Health wise, we are all doing well.

    I’m in my Florida home and would like expand my social network which is my goal for this year.


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  • floraluk2
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    How would you pronounce Besserwisser, Elmer?

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    Regional accents aside, it would depend on whether the person speaking is regarded by others as knowledgeable and worldly or a Dorftrottel.

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  • Jennifer Hogan
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    This Schrank, Shrank, Shrunk discussion made me think of My Fair Lady when Henry Higgins asked "Why can't the English teach their children how to speak" "In America they haven't used it in years".


    I am another PA Dutch Country gal. My guess would be that the word Schrank became Shrank and since in American English Shrank and Shrunk became synonymous past tense words for Shrink the German Schrank became a German Shrunk. This is what happens when after 300 years of German being Americanized. I have the feeling PA Dutch would be painful for most Germans to listen to. But were not in Germany.


    I have seen these large wardrobe/cabinets referred to as Schranks, Shranks and Shunks.

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    The old versions of German that arrived ages ago and changed over time in Pennsylvania and the few other minor places where still in use bear only remote resemblance to modern Standard German. Millions of Americans learn and speak modern German- the number who speak archaic versions are minor by comparison and limited to small areas.

    Non-standard pronunciation practices because of historical curiosities in a few small and otherwise unimportant parts of the US remain irrelevant for our friend with furniture purchased in Germany. Her limited German vocabulary was gained while in the US military and stationed in Germany. My guess is that the pronunciation she learned at the time was from people who didn't speak German at all or not well.

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  • Jennifer Hogan
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    Back to the OP's topic:

    I have high hopes for remainder of 2024.


    I have had owned my home for 7 years, thinking I would get it renovated in a year. HA HA.


    Was diagnosed with Cancer while in escrow. Year 2 I fractured 4 vertebra. Year three - I had a heart attack.

    Year four my hot water heater and furnace both died in January and of course, the AC unit didn't work with the new furnace, so that needed replaced as well. My sister referred to this year as the year for "House Surgery", until 3 months later when I had to have a hernia repaired.


    Years 5, 6 and 7 were a blur. My oldest sister's husband has Parkinson's and her health was failing. The house I bought was 2 blocks from their house. They needed a lot of help. My life became focused on helping them. They moved to a senior community and things seemed to be okay for a few months after they were settled. Then my sister broke her pelvis and things spiraled downhill for both of them. Betty passed away Jan 31st and my BIL will be moving to an assisted living facility near his son's home on March 1st.


    I don't regret a single moment of the time I spent helping them and visiting with them and just being there for them. At the same time, it is time for me to renew my efforts on getting my home renovated.

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  • carolb_w_fl_coastal_9b
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    So far my year's start is plugging along with no personal major catastrophes, thank goodness. My son mysteriously broke his foot and had to have surgery because it had already started healing, and since he can't drive now, I'm shuttling him to work and back until he's able to resume.

    There's still the rest of the year to go too - fingers crossed.

    I think I can relate a little to Jennifer's situation. I spent 2019-2021 caring for my mom as her health, mobility and cognitive faculties declined - also working at my job, and dealing with the pandemic of course. So many of my personal plans and projects fell by the wayside, but I do not regret it at all.

    And now that she's gone, a lot of the things I thought were important before don't seem that way any more.

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  • chisue
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    I'm not posting here until I have something good to report. (That's how my year has been going so far. Ick.)

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  • Elmer J Fudd
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    Jennifer, I hope you have better days ahead.

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  • Jennifer Hogan
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    Thank you Elmer J Fudd . I have had a rough run, but I have a great support system of friends and family that have helped and supported me. I have enough money to be comfortable (not extravagant), two wonderful, lively dogs that need me and a job that I enjoy. Overall I have had a blessed life with a few bumps in the road.

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  • floraluk2
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    All going swimmingly so far in 2024. Whole family is fit and healthy. First grandchild due in two weeks.

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  • Olychick
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    Jennifer! That is a long run of difficult things. I don’t have siblings but know it must be hard to lose one. I’m sure she felt blessed to have you.

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  • OutsidePlaying
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    Jennifer, I hope things will go your way for a long stretch. You certainly have earned it! Best of luck with the house reno and you know where to go for ideas and advice I hope.

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  • Jennifer Hogan
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    OutsidePlaying - I love your name! Thank you. I am ready for a calmer year. I have my whole home color palette developed, bought enough flooring to do the whole house, picked my countertop material and cabinets for the kitchen. The plan is solid, the execution is what is lagging. Did get a lot of advice on Houzz.


    Olychick - Thank you for the kind words. It is hard, but I keep reminding myself how blessed I was to have her as my sister for 62 years,


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  • bpath
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    I’m not sure about my year yet! Getting used to fewer responsibilities, getting used to new ones. But I’m enjoying the schrank discussion. Some German homes have a kühlschrank, and that reminds me of a lovely Christmas spent snowed in at distant cousins‘ on a farm in Denmark. They had a kühlschrank, a cool room. It was where they kept things that needed to be kept cool, but not as cold as the little refrigerator. So the butter was spreadable, jams and much produce, cheese and ham. kind of like a root cellar, but just off the kitchen. I wish I could remember the Danish word for it. I very quickly learned the word for snow, though! Sne, similar to German Schnee.

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  • yeonassky
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    Bpath we used the words Rodkælder or kølerum interchangeably for the root cellar. Rodkælder means root cellar. Rodkælder is pronounced somewhat like roollkilla. Kølerum pronounced somewhat like coola roam literally means cold room.

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  • bpath
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    Thanks, yeonassky, I knew you would know!

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  • floraluk2
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    I've never heard of Kühlschrank used for a room. Ime it just means fridge in German.

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  • foodonastump
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    ^^^Me either, was gonna post that but didn’t want to get into another ”German” argument. But the room does sound great; I’ve often thought how awesome it would be to have a cool, climate controlled pantry. Kind of like people have for wine cellars.

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  • User
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    This year has been fantastic! I‘m in pretty good health as are my family and friends. I have all the ”stuff” I need. My most recent purchase was a push golf cart as opposed to the pull behind kind. I’ve signed up for a morning golf league for this coming season. Normally, I golf 18 holes for league play and take a power cart, but this year, I’m going to walk 9 in a league that is especially for folks who only want to play that many. We’ll see how that goes and maybe I’ll just end up doing the full 18 walking.

    I’ve just spent a week with my siblings in the city that I grew up in and we had the greatest time. My sister set up my dad’s old Bell and Howell slide projector and we spent a couple of evenings looking at old family photos from the 50s to the 80s. Lot’s of laughing and cackling😄 and just plain silliness. The drive there also reminded me what a lovely area of the world I grew up in and have lived.

    I had a good ”do nothing” vacation in Cancun in January and have just renewed my passport for another 10 years, so I guess I’m feeling good and optimistic about the future.

    No complaints so far in 2024. I’m still buying green bananas.

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