First time I've ever seen my father's father
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Comments (8)I would suggest getting a mow lawn. Did you look at all the pictures for the no-mow lawn? The only reason they call it that is because it happens to flop over and becomes unmowable when it is too tall. Furthermore, I would suggest getting a mix of Kentucky bluegrass (for full sun) and fescue (for shady areas). Of if you don't really have shady areas, then just go with KBG. KBG has the advantage of never needing to be reseeded (like fescue does), but it comes with the disadvantage of turning brown in the winter. Having said that, Marathon III is a very compact (dwarf) variety of fescue. That might work for you. Never till to prepare for a lawn. There, I saved you a couple hundred. If you want to soften your soil, try spraying it with shampoo. First test the hardness using a screwdriver. From what you say it won't even penetrate 1/8 inch. You'll need a hose end sprayer (Ortho red and yellow model is about $10). For 13,000 square feet you'll need about 40 ounces of shampoo. The hose end sprayer holds 32 ounces, so fill it up, take the screen off the end of the down tube, and start spraying. The setting doesn't really matter. You will need to spray as evenly as you can until you have used 40 (or more) ounces of shampoo. I suggest generic baby shampoo from Walmart. It has to be clear like baby shampoo. Spray that and then come back and apply a full inch of water with your sprinkler. Measure 1 inch using small cat food or tuna cans. Time how long it takes to fill the cans so you'll remember. Then wait a week to water again. Water again the following week. The second week after, repeat the shampoo and water. That should do it. If you get runoff before you can apply a full inch of water, then stop watering for 15 to 30 minutes and resume after the water has soaked in. If you get runoff again, stop and wait again. Repeat until you get a full inch into the soil. Since your soil is acting like clay (there are may reasons why a soil might act like clay), it might take more than 2 applications of shampoo to soften it and get it to accept moisture. A week after the second application of shampoo, water an inch again and test the penetration with a screwdriver. What the shampoo does is allow the water to penetrate much deeper into the soil. When that happens the beneficial microbes in the soil will come back and soften the soil for you. You can help them along by adding organic fertilizer periodically. My favorite is alfalfa pellets. At a rate of 20 pounds per 1,000 square feet you would need 6 bags of rabbit chow type alfalfa pellets. That size will go through a broadcast type fertilizer spreader. Then stop using whatever other fertilizers you were using because that's all you'll need. I use alfalfa on the federal holiday schedule. They are easy to remember and I am home those days. More specifically, for you in KY, first app would be on Memorial Day, then 4th of July, Labor Day, and Thanksgiving. Living in the south I also apply on Washington's Birthday. You were correct in saying why your soil is "compacted", but you were incorrect about it being compacted. It is simply hard for the reason you said. Compacted soil requires mechanical means such as cattle plunging through soggy soil near the edge of a pond or playing football on saturated soil. The soil has to be saturated first or you cannot compact it. Oh and do all this seeding in early September when the summer heat is beginning to back off....See MoreNeed legal advice, in regards to my late father's business. Help!
Comments (20)missingtheobvious is correct. In New York, the supreme court is the court of general jurisdiction that hears cases. It is the opposite of most states and the opposite of the federal court system. I have a law degree but don't practice law and am not well versed in estate law. THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE. However, as far as I know, she can't come after you personally. She can only make a claim on the estate. I believe if the estate is probated already and sufficient time has passed without her making a claim on the estate, she is out of luck. See e.g. http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/nycode/SCP/18 § 1802. Effect of failure to present claim If any claim is not presented on or before the day fixed in the notice published pursuant to the preceding section or if no notice is so published, within 7 months from the date of issue of letters, the fiduciary shall not be chargeable for any assets or moneys that he may have paid in good faith in satisfaction of any lawful claims or of any legacies or distributions to the legatees or distributees of the decedent before such claim was presented. Such 7 month period shall begin on the date letters were first issued to any fiduciary, including a temporary administrator or a preliminary executor, and shall not be interrupted by any subsequent issue of letters, except that the time during which there is no fiduciary in office shall not be counted as part of such period. and § 1803: Every claim against the estate of a decedent other than claims for expenses of administration and claims of the United States or the state of New York must be in writing, contain a statement of the facts upon which it is based and the amount thereof. In addition the fiduciary may require the claimant to present proof by affidavit that the amount of the claim is justly due, that all payments thereon, if any, have been credited, that the claimant knows of no offsets and no evidence of indebtedness and holds no security, except as specifically described in the affidavit....See MoreMilitary Honors at my father's memorial service: Very nice
Comments (15)Chisue wrote, I was not so forgiving of my own father, who left my mother and me when I was two. Although he visited me sometimes, and sometimes gave me grandiose gifts, he failed to pay court-ordered alimony or child support. Chisue, I really understand. I've spent 35 years trying to forgive my father and frankly, it has been a hard path. I could write an entire book about the process, and honestly, I'm still working on this new habit of forgiving him. The pain and hurt he inflicted on my mother is the hardest part of this forgiveness equation, but a hospice nurse told me, "Your mother is past all that now, and she has forgiven him." That one comment helped me so very much. (My mother died 10 years ago.) And when I was cleaning out my father's home (before he went into assisted living), I found his baby book, and that helped, too. I've posted a link below that explains it more fully, but that baby book enabled me to let go of a lot of hurt and sadness. And now that I have forgiven him, and now that I realize (and trust) that my beloved mother is "beyond" all that pain now, I feel like I've dropped a very, very heavy burden. The Aramaic word for forgiveness is "shaw" and it literally means "untie," and disconnecting myself from all that sadness and pain has been very liberating. And it only took a lifetime. (sigh) Rose Here is a link that might be useful: Innocence Rediscovered...See MoreSeeking a Palestinian olive tree to commemorate reunion with my father
Comments (10)Unless 'Arbequina' is a self maintaining seed strain you would have to be buying clonal stock (as in ones grown from "branch cuttings") to get the true item. However, the common sales pitch that container grown nursery stock does better because it can be planted without the roots being disturbed falls apart as soon as the grower leaves the plants in the same pots too long and deforms the roots. In which case these roots need to be pulled open etc. at planting if a defective specimen is not to be installed on the final planting site. Otherwise the tree or shrub may fall over or girdle itself many years in the future. Many kinds of woody nursery plants are also grown in containers because these types are intolerant of being moved bare rooted or otherwise having most of their fine feeder roots cut off or dried out. (Even with balling in burlap most of the small roots are lost when the plant is dug). A broad leaved evergreen such as the olive would be expected to fall within this group - if you find you have been sent pot bound stock (a universal problem) you may discover when you work on the roots at planting that the top shows adverse reactions like wilting or shriveling; all you can do is coddle the new planting with shading, frequent watering and mulching (this last should be standard practice anyway) and assume it is going to pull through. It's either that or plant something with bad roots and hope that circumstance will not come back to bite later. I wouldn't bank on any olive tree being a lasting outdoor specimen in USDA 7....See Morerob333 (zone 7b)
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