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Is your lighting in ? If not forget choosing wall colors. Get sample cans and narrow your choice to 3 that you like not tons or you will never get this done. All your lighting should be LEDs in 4000K to make the colors stay true at night. I would keep this simple do thewalls in whatever color you choose in a matte finish and use the same color for the trim but in semigloss it will look like a different color just because of the sheen. IMO this si too soon to be choosing wall colorat all I know builders always want to have the paint done before the floors .IMO I would not do white at all since there are so many undertones with whites I would choose a soft gray/ green instead like Healing Aloe BM I find those types of colors much more neutral the beiges, grays or whites it is what I choose when builders are pushing for paint color.

Since you say you have a lot of natural light you might be looking at colors that are too warm. Even if you don't like gray you might need a hint of gray to tone down the color. I have a living room with a large south facing window. I tried some of the colors you mentioned and they were all too warm, or bright or too something for the space. I ended up with BM Classic Gray. It's not very gray in the light I have. If you like a darker color try Balboa Mist or Edgecomb Gray. I have Edgecomb Gray in my bedroom and it is very neutral, but also doesn't look very gray, despite it's name. How do you feel about green? There are some neutrals that lean green in some light.

So we have south facing with a similar floor color, similar cabinets, and similar island (all of our bases are knotty alder stained mission oak, not just the island, but same idea). We chose Hanstone Paros Quartz counters which I guess lean cool but aren't super stark so they work with the warmth of the rest. Our backsplash is a chloe tile. We have extra white trim & cabinets. We chose SW Drift of Mist for the walls. I think it's a lovely color but it IS a color. Warm gray, that leans grayer in north rooms and looks nearly white in our south rooms. Trying to go lighter would've just looked washed out IMO. Here's what two similar whites look like next to each other. Drift of Mist on the walls. Kind of hard to see it in a photo, but it just looks off in person. This photo is also in a low light room so the DOM looks grayer. The color expert on this site (Lori Sawaya) mentioned in a previous post that if you want different colors between trim and walls, they need to be separated by a chroma of 0.3 (I think???) to not look like a dirty version of the same paint. Thankfully our contractor painted most of our stuff extra white (this was a happy mistake - we had chosen pure white) - I can tell that the one area with pure white trim (chroma 0.4) looks muddier next to drift of mist (chroma 0.6), while extra white (chroma 0.3) looks better. ETA Lori's color site if you want to poke around: https://thelandofcolor.com/