so i should sit back and mind to my 2 kids and not handle sd's things? thats rediculous. I made the choice to be a stay home mother to all 3 of the kids. I chose to step up and help with SD. I agree he should handle dealings with BM and im trying to keep it this way - it has only just started but have to start somewhere. But as for taking care of SD i have no problems with it. I married him knowing he had a daughter and im not just going to push her off and deal with only my kids. thats wrong. she would resent me for that knowing she was with me before my kids.. I have already stated when DH does get home he does take over with ALL the kids. We are a family. SD needs to know she is no different in our heart then the other 2 children. Weekends he usually goes and does something with just him and SD as i have also told you all. I will not live in a house where my children are not equal or one has more than the other or where I do not have a healthy relationship with my sd. I do undertstand his "say so" is what goes with SD and I dont have any but for the most part we make agreements. we both want what is best. I also know BM has the rights and i dont but at the same time she told the judge she didnt want SD to move in with her she didnt have the time. I do. Maybe part of it traditional thinking - I cook I clean and I take care of the kids untill he is home then its him and I get a break or can watch my tv shows whatever. This works for us I know my husband is a huge part in my kids life and you all cant see that - you just see what i type b ut i wont sit here and type our whole day out for a week straight to prove it i have plenty of other things to do. Besides i come here for support nd advice not read trash talk about my husband so i will just start ignoring that part. Speaking of which he just walked in for his lunch break - he just told me BM called him to let him know she cant SD from school next TUE. she called him not me :).. back on track - I have friends who have step parents some had bad ones and some had good ones but ALL tell me to stand by her and keep up the good work and they know me and my family personally and one actually knows BM (from school). One said her SM treated her so different from her kids and she hates her now for it...

Make a list of everything you need to store in your kitchen. EVERYTHING - including oven mitts, dishtowels, tupperware, etc, including whatever random junk drawer/tool storage you usually like to have in the room. Take everything out of your current cabinets and measure them, then group them into how they'll be stored in your new space. If possible, plan for one empty cabinet in addition to all the spoken-for cabinets, and spend some time really focusing on how YOU move through your kitchen. Are you happier opening drawers or cabinets? Do you like some things at waist-level? What counter height is most comfortable for you when you're working? Since standard-height cabinets try to shoot for whatever the median height of a likely user happens to be, a lot of counters end up too low or too high, and it makes prep work a pain in the rump. If you fall outside of the median height, try to plan for at least one surface at a height that's perfect for you. I failed to dump out my cabinets and measure stuff before our remodel in '05, and man, have I ever spent the past nine years paying for that mistake. Can't wait to get into the kitchen in our new build, which will be planned with far more care!

Fori, you are so right about wearing a bandana or whatever in front of your mouth. To update: Some good news or not, depending on what this will do to the way we look. This video, by the same group, shows how a simple washcloth in front of the speaker's mouth basically contains pretty much all the droplets (> 99%) that are normally emitted when talking. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_OSz5Gr7gG0&feature=youtu.be

Very true. Back in the day, one couldn’t go past a construction site without hearing whistles or comments. True funny story: I worked for a summer with a construction crew when I was younger. When I first went to apply, I passed them on the way to the office. And they were hunks. Not one whistle directed my way. Not that one WANTS that sort of attention but when it has happened for years and then suddenly stops, one wonders. It turned out that it was a gay business, and the construction workers were all gay.