I got a sample door of driftwood with ebony glaze on cherry and really liked it. I think I would have been happy with Starmark, but after figuring tax/installation/etc the difference between them and the custom shop was very little and my contractor really wanted me to use the custom shop. The custom shop allows things to be a little more "custom" too which is nice. They work together well with the contractor so it has made things easier than I think it would have been otherwise. I ended up matching a stained maple to Starmark driftwood with a black glaze. It's very close in appearance. The kitchen is still in progress so I don't have any finished pictures (probably 4-6 weeks out still), but here is a sample door with the stain. This isn't the door style we ended up using, its more for color. This is my custom shop's maple, but it looks very similar in color/tone to the cherry driftwood sample I got from Starmark. I think the glaze is important on cherry or maple to mellow out the underlying wood tone, otherwise looks really pink (was not a fan at all of that look). Oak might be able to get away with plain stain. It's a little dark, I thought about doing the whole kitchen in it, but ultimately settled on a mix of light grey paint (matched to SW Repose Grey) on one wall and the island/mudroom/appliance wall/desk all stained. Omega porch swing seemed pretty similar, I cross shopped that too. I think I would have done QS oak inset if I stuck with starmark or omega. I really liked Porch swing with a brushed ebony finish.

okay..so so far I understood to you the granite is a biggest issue then..change for quiter countertop surface you love(but you need to decide whether you're changing color/stain of the cabinets. since they have to correlate, colorwise). different backsplash. quieter surface will give you more freedom with backsplash too. different pulls(unless you like the ones you chose) Learn pros/cons of your preffered countertop material in advance..Quartz is not bulletproof..(as granite isn't too. none of them are-everything will have pros/cons) for example, I love mitered edge more than rounded-but more possibility it might chip. Find as much as you can about every material you're going to install. If you do decide to paint/re-stain (and no, I'm not advocating white, like, at all)-it should be a pro job(unless you're willing to do it yourself..and know how, and will take lots of time) and yes, it'll chip too if say a fork falls or a knife and bangs onto it)) everything might chip-but on stain you'll see it less/will be less bothered in short learn as much as you can about what you'll be working with..and check your own tolerance to imperfections I can't see your kitchen fully..maybe you won't need any seams. if you do though-you'll see it to a degree on quiter light Quartz. not a biggie but first several days one can't keep eyes off that seam)) then one gets used to. backsplash-whatever will be-decide where you finish it(I'd do lower bottom cabinet level) and how. every guy/gal you'll talk to-being it a store or your GC or installer or..-ask questions. Don't presume they know you don't know..some will educate you, some won't. Ask everything..

May we see the kitchen?

No greige or beige. You have way too much in all these tones already. Consider a light green - perhaps BM "Silken Pine" or one with a bit more "sage" such as Farrow & Ball's "Green Ground". You need some "cool" with a bit of color for this.