Post pictures of your kitchen.

i did... posted one pic of the kitchen and one close up of the counters. not sure why its not showing up

If you’re not changing floors, I’d do at least the uppers in Alabaster as well, if not the lowers too. If you go with lowers in another color, I’d pick something that’s a contrast, so not greige as that’s pretty light to get a contrast and may not go with floors. How about a medium to darker brown stain on the lowers? Basically pick the darkest color in your countertop and use that as your lower cab contrast color, which f you choose not to go all white.

I actually think you have a busy enough granite that all white (Alabaster) would look good.

Thank you! Floors are actually going to be changed to provenza first glance. Does that change anything? Would that be too much alabaster?

Lowers cant be darker stained, unless you sand them all down. Stain needs to soak into the wood, and it cant do that with previously stained and finished cabinets. I like the cabinets as they are, and would think it over good before you decide to paint them. The backsplash needs to change, or even be painted, and some pretty decor and accessories with color, and the room will look fantastic

@Jennifer Hogan this is such a good analogy! I did read advice about avoiding too many whites in a space where undertones compete with each other. Due to this, I have decided that my house will vomit SW Alabaster everywhere. Walls in satin, ceiling in flat and trim/doors in semi-gloss.

Now the question is do I go with Alabaster on the cabinets or will that be overkill? I'm keeping the counters but the backsplash will be changed a future project.

Keep Vomiting. I would choose flat for the ceiling, eggshell for the walls, satin for trim/doors and then have the cabinets painted with a semi gloss or gloss enamel. The whites will look different because of the sheen, but will have the same undertone and not fight.

There is a pro that is a regular Houzz contributor @Beth H. : who painted her whole home White Dove and then re-painted with Alabaster. She has shared pics and it looks great. She also has great advice on painting cabinets. Hopefully she will see the shout out, if not you can click on her name and see if she recently shared her pics or reach out to her directly.