Jane - I can't imagine the grief of losing my husband and am fortunate to still have my dear mother on this planet at age 90 and healthy. We have a family plot in a cemetery where my paternal grand parents are buried, a great uncle, my father and 3 of my brothers are buried - some of their graves are scattered around and when I go with my mother to put flags/flowers on their graves we are puzzled how to find them. They have no sentimental sayings on their gravestones. But my husband's parents were cremated and both are interred at the National Cemetery in Bourne, MA and their resting place is engraved with "How beautiful the dance".

Vermont is famous for it's granite headstones and you might look to some of the websites of their quarries. We toured some of the cemeteries in that state and marveled at the artful ways people said good-bye to loved ones.

When my mom's ashes were buried with my dad's at the veteran's cemetery here, we had 'Lives well lived' added to the stone.

Please accept my condolences for your loss as well.

It's probably not what you want but I heard one yesterday that is in my head "We were you and one day you will be us". Its tough to be the one left. Well that's silly it's tough to lose people HARD STOP. Prayers.

I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain. Be well.

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Life Is Not Forever. Love Is.

Our/Their mission on Earth is fulfilled

The world is diminished because they are gone.

Step softly. Dreams lie buried here.

The Pain doesn't last forever but the Memories Do

My dad died when he was only 60 years old. We were all heartbroken. My mom was just awful. When we finally got everything done she agonized over what to put on their headstone as well. My one sister came up with this line and that's what we used.

"Our gift was Love"

I'm sorry for all the loss you have suffered and the gut wrenching grief that goes with losing someone you love so much. God bless their souls.

I'm so sorry for all your grief and suffering.

Life is not forever. Love is.

Those we love don't go away.

They walk beside us every day.

We only part to meet again.

Sleep on now and take your rest. Matthew 26:45

In the arms of the angels.

Jane, I am so, so sorry for your loss and your pain.

My father married a woman who was much younger than he was. He died at age 85 and she died at 55. Their headstone has a picture of their dog ( a Doberman) and says “It was great while it lasted.” I personally think its stupid but everyone else seems to think its a riot.

I know the right words come along for your family.

I am adapting this as it should go for more than one person.

To the world they were one

To us, they were the world

I am sorry for your loss and sadness. I have gone through that too. We put

a short line of one of the things he always said to make us smile, when he

came home from anywhere. It still makes me smile when I see it at the

grave site. My memory can still "hear" his voice saying it, and I think, "he is home".

Jane, dear woman! did you find any on here you liked? i like the eld 6161..

To the world they were one

To us, they were the world

Have you googled headstone sayings? There are lots of resources that may give you ideas.

Here's what I found after a quick search:

• 74 Quotes for Headstone Epitaphs and Tombstone Inscriptions
• Headstone Epitaphs- 250 Beautiful Examples
• 60+ Ideas for Headstone Quotes & Sayings100 Quotes on Tombstones That Won’t Be Forgotten
• 100 Best Examples of Epitaphs
• Example Headstone Epitaphs And Inscriptions
• Simple Words to Write on a Headstone: 28 Beautiful Ideas
• SHORT MEMORIAL QUOTES FOR LOVED ONES

Jane, I'm so sorry! (((Jane)))

When Mom died, at the bottom of her obituary I wrote,

"don't be sad that I'm gone; be glad that I was here"

https://youtu.be/bpwdwbO1uvM
Sea grass your post made me think of this song by Garth Brooks. Maybe a line from it?
Thanks everyone. Gave me a lot of thoughts. So depressing.
Jane

Love is eternal

( Abraham Lincoln )

Jane, I share the thoughts of others wishing you well in dealing with your loss and I've said so before. I suspect dealing with this particular task is not a plus to help you put happier thoughts on the table to help you move forward from whatever period of acute mourning is right for you. I hope you can do what's necessary to find happier days.

So sorry for your losses. I'm sure your memories are very fresh and no wonder it is taking time to figure things out. Hugs to you.

See you soon! I saw it on a gravestone beside the Stone next to it that said Honey I'm home.

You could do something simple like carving of a lit candle. Something to light your way.

There are so many individual ideas. I saw a carving of a tree with a ribbon on it on one gravestone. I guess it is something to do with the Tie A Yellow Ribbon Around The Old Oak Tree song. I think you will find the perfect thing to commemorate your loved ones.

jane, i'm deeply sorry for your loss. my husband died almost 15 years ago and i still struggle every day.

death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves the memories no one can steal.

wishing you peace as you navigate this time in your life. i wish i had some profound words that could make it better but in reality, there aren't any. your loss is still very fresh, i know how hard it is to be grieving while you watch the rest of the world go on with life. sending you comforting hugs. 💓