We're in the same boat.... we specifically avoided trying to match the appliances because we felt like it would a) fail and b) be too much.... so our cabs are a warmer white, bordering on a light cream. We also have white subway... which is another white.... this way things are all in the white family, but not matchy - matchy.

I have always loved classic white kitchens and have one now, but I don't feel the need to run and paint your cabinets white. I would paint the walls before I painted the cabinets and probably in addition to the cabinets if I were to paint those. The piece behind the stove was a character piece -- something unique that makes your kitchen unlike every cookie cutter one you see, That's not a bad thing. It does look like they took a mirror and just put in a piece of stainless and you may not have liked that, but did you consider replacing the stainless with a tile -- glass, mosaic, subways (not white 3x6 -- something in a different size and/or color)? That darker wood was also the link to the dark crown that helped bridge it to the floors. If you leave it out, I would either tie in something darker (bronze cabinet hardware might do it) or replace the crown with trim that matches the cabinets. Painting them accomplishes the same thing -- it that why you are considering paint? If so, that is a much larger job that leads to a lot of other issues, as Lynn pointed out. I do think that making the island all one level and just replacing the top on it would be the single biggest impact thing you could do to update the kitchen. As it is, it is just a barrier that accomplishes little. You can still see the counters, cooktop and sink. No reason for it. Make it one smooth surface, maybe even a little larger on the overhang, and pull up some stools. Friendlier kitchen. If the child-proofing needs to continue for a while, look at the ones that screw inside the cabinet -- they look better and I think are easier to use. We only put them on cabinets where the kids could get into something harmful -- like cleaning products under the sink or breakable things -- but most of those were in upper cabinets.

All of the colors that you mentioned are warm, and for that reason, Greek Villa should look nice with them. I suggest two things: go to your SW store and ask what is popular with professional painters. Are they going with off-white shades or are they using the un-tinted white? I could envision that a pure white might have more visual impact, but I don’t know that with any certainty. Also, while you are there, buy a sample of Greek Villa and try it on your house. How does it look at different times of day?

The backsplash can be changed so leave that out of the equation. As for the rest find a white you love and use it for the cabinets and the walls then no issues.Or think of another color for the walls I love a really soft grayed green I use ray Wisp BM and often cut it 50% for a wall color that has a bit of color but still really neutral then just do the cabinets and all the trim in Super White.