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Comments (36)Funkyart writes: "I think it is a sad reflection on our educational system and what we value when liberal arts classes are considered fluff or not of value. The arts and humanities are essential to a balanced education and essential to becoming a well rounded individual. Your son has chosen an artistic and creative path for his future-- clearly he has interest and talent in this direction. Any college or university that frowns on developing that part of his education will not, IMO, value his chosen path or offer him an environment where he will thrive. " But, generally in the US educational system one's *university* education is the venue in which an individual chooses what direction of study s/he wants to take, be it science, liberal arts, business, pre-professional etc. At the college level students concentrate on a particular major, focusing on one in which they have (hopefully) interest and academic ability. High school curricula by definition aren't intended to concentrate on any particular area; coursework is intended to adequately prepare all those who plan to go to college in a well rounded fashion. Therefore I wouldn't say liberal arts is denigrated in HS. I would say a good college preparatory program in HS includes required coursework in all the topics that make a well rounded scholar. Students who wish to excel and/or be recognized by competitive universities choose to take far more than the required academics. Then too, universities also expect some breadth of study. Even the most focused academic majors, like engineering, require some liberal arts credits. There may not be many but they are a requirement. And conversely liberal arts students have to take some math/science. As for the particular situation being discussed here, from the OP this is what the student in question wants to take senior year: "Apparently his courseload looks too "light" because he is taking 2 English classes, 1 History, Video Production II (he wants to go to film school so this is essential), and Art History (didn't get his first choice here, which was Photography)." There is not a single math or science course selected! Frankly for this student it seems that the quantitative side of his education is being sorely neglected, at least in his plan for the year :). So in this particular case a university will not be dismissing the fact that this student chose to take a heavier load of liberal arts coursework. But any competitive university will definitely take notice of the fact he avoided all math/science in his last academic year. And in most cases, for a student who didn't do well beforehand in them (as was also discussed) to be ignoring those subjects in the last year is not going to be a great package to send off to college admission committees. Ann...See MoreParents...the Middle Age dilemna
Comments (13)I've been there Pesky, and lost my mom much too early (almost 3 years ago). There's no easy answer... But in plain terms, the facts are these: -- Your mom's health is likely not good, the predictable cumulative result of years of unhealthy choices. That damage is done -- water under the bridge -- something that can't now be undone with any sort of intervention. So lecturing your mom about her health habits and past choices isn't likely to do any good. -- Your mom appears to be in denial about her health -- the 'What I don't know won't hurt me' philosophy. I get that. It's something we all do from time to time, and to a certain degree, that's her right as an adult. Knowing the bad news only helps when there's something constructive you can do about it. -- But, the combination of these two factors could absolutely mean that a treatable condition goes untreated, both shortening her life by many years, and reducing her quality of life for however many years she has left. And IMO, that is intervention-worthy. Assuring that she live better and longer is a perfectly valid concern. I'd focus the intervention on keeping her in the best possible future health, not on 'bad-news' diagnostics and unpleasant and unwanted lifestyle changes that she'd be unlikely to stick with. Sure, she'd be healthier if she gave up fast food and dropped 40 pounds -- but you can't make that happen, and you don't want to sour your relationship with her trying to change who she is and how she lives. It doesn't sound like she wants to change her lifestyle, and it could be that by assuring her you won't harp on that, you may be able to get a toe in the door medically. What's her personality like? I mean, is she pragmatic? Dramatic? Are her feelings easily hurt? Would talking honestly and openly about her inevitable eventual death (in theory) be painful or offensive to her? If the focus is on keeping her 'reasonably' healthy, independent and mentally active (translation, out of a nursing home!) would she be receptive to that?...See MoreSleepaway Camp? What age? How long? Where?
Comments (24)maggiepatty, I'm in the minority here it looks like and I'm probably about as "normal" as you can get, and I am in the same camp as your DH. I think 3rd grade (and 5th grade) is way to too young to send off for a month(s) at a time. Of course, no one I know does that, so that would be a very "abnormal" thing around here. I have a 5th grader, who went to summer camp for the first time last summer (with a number of his friends) for a week and that was plenty long enough. My DS is very athletic and outgoing and has lots of friends and he did enjoy camp, but he was ready to come home. This year we are sending him to a single sport camp for only 4 days in another state. Is it mostly people who work who send their kids off for month(s) at a time during the summer? I guess I can kind of see that since the parents won't be there during the day anyway-and their kids may be more used to it? I don't know, what is it because I cannot wrap my head around it. I'm really just asking. Kids get so little time anyway to spend at "home" with some "down time" with school and all extra-curricular activities during school, so summer to us is about vacations, having DS friends over swimming, bike riding to each other's houses and to the tennis courts, playing basketball outside, golfing, etc. How do you fit a months worth of camp in the summer after all that? My parents sent us to church camp for a week each summer and I went to cheerleading camp every summer starting at 7th grade. I can see when they are around 8th grade being gone for a month-but even your 5th grader I would start off a week at the most two weeks for the first time....See MoreWhat age do kids start dating?
Comments (33)I'm in the UK so not familiar with US school terminology, so forgive me using the English equivalent, lol! DS (27 last month) was educated at a private (fee-paying) school from age 4. At 16 whilst in the upper school, he began dating a girl he had been in the same group of friends with since she joined the school at age 12. Soon after entering the school's sixth form they slept together at a party held at our house - they were both 16 and it was the first time for both of them. He told us about it next day. We were initially rather shocked, especially as he hadn't had a 'proper' girlfriend to go on dates with before, but had just hung around in a crowd of boys/girls. They were very responsible - in fact even at that young age they were incredibly mature - and ensured she went in the pill. Rather than discouraging them and thus leading them to take risks having sex in unsavoury places - I had friends at that age who had sex under the pier - we gave permission, as did her mum and step-dad - for them to sleep in his room at our house when she stayed over. They were both very academic - but her even more so - and their quite prestigious school had high expectations of them. One concern was that this relationship may have a detrimental effect on DS's educational prospects, but in fact the opposite was true. His GF encouraged him to work harder - he was initially only going to take 3 A levels, but with her encouragement he studied for a 4th - they were in a class of just three pupils for that subject! Throughout the two years of sixth form they stayed together and ultimately came away with AAAA (her) and AAAB (him). We were incredibly proud. At 18 she was offered a place at Oxford university (reading English) whilst he went to Sussex (reading philosophy), but none of us believed their relationship would last the three years of separation. However, most weekends he would drive up to her or she got the train down to him. They graduated in 2010 and bought a flat in London. Now, almost eleven years on they are still together. They haven't married and have no plans to. They have no kids either - just a cute pooch, lol! They have great careers and now live on the south coast of England in Brighton. We couldn't be more proud of them both and are so pleased we didn't discourage their youthful relationship :)...See Moremarilyncb
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