Oh boy. How many do you intend on inviting?

I would probably make phone calls to the people who would be the most confused. Then I'd send the combination save-the-date/announcement/invite card with the link and probably follow up with an email with the link as well.

So, actually more work than sending out conventional invites :)

Also, congratulations to your daughter and her fiance!

Just wanted to offer hearty congratulations to you. How exciting!!

Now I will sit back and read the suggestions.

Don't worry about the wording, Eld, this will suffice. Booking now ...

How exciting! Maldives and Sri Lanka were on our list for holidays 2022, that is if we ever get our holiday 2021 trip done. It is such a magical place! Delightful. I think I recall that your DD did work in India? Is that why Goa is part of the trip, too? Fantastic, as in a fantasy!

Dee, there will not be a save the date mailing. Everyone will just get the link to the wedding site that explains it all.

My list is small. I know my close relatives will not be attending. We tried suggesting tio get married here, then have a party there. Nope.

Mtn,(and all) here is the story:

DD met her W about 8 years ago in an East Village bar. DD thought he was someone else at first. Sparks flew.

W’s dad did import/ export in India and the 3 children grew up going to India. W was born there and has dual citizenship.

My DD’s business was mostly (and still is) with China, but after meeting W she became a fan of India and has a factory there.

The family has a yearly rental in a compound in Goa. But the main reason for including this stop is to sprinkle W’s dad’s ashes. He passed away 3 weeks ago after a long battle with prostate cancer.

DD and W have been to Sri Lanka.

If you want to reserve a yacht, that is one of their friends who runs cruises. They have been on two. DD got her scuba certification on one of those trips. Same with the reservation for the atol.

Basically, this trip will be a bit more affordable because of all their connections. For most though, India is not on their radar and many will take a pass.

Sounds like this will be an amazing celebration. Considering the distance,it’s good to give a lot of time to plan. I will be following this with interest. I’d suggest that the first communication be more like a Save The Date along with necessary planning information, and send another communication closer to the date.

Exciting! Best wishes to all!

"My list is small. I know my close rekatives will not be attending. We tried suggesting tio get married here, then have a party there. Nope."

Since this doesn't sound like a traditional wedding with family, I'd stay out of it and let your daughter and her intended arrange everything.

How divine!!! Is there any reason you can’t include a more traditional invitation WITH the detailed announcement? People often stuff all sorts of info into a wedding invitation envelope.

I’m excited for y’all!!

Tere, they are. She told me to invite who I want by forwarding the link.

My question was how to word this. No invitation will be mailed.

They can get married there, with the people who can actually make the trip in attendance. Then have a lovely party when they return home, including the people who are unable to travel around the world.

Sounds great.

Congratulations to your daughter and her fiance.

How exciting! A wedding in the Maldives, with a week on a yacht afterwards, sounds fabulous.

Think Dee’s suggestion is perfect. Depending on the number of guests you are inviting, I might call all of them.

Eld, I understand that your DD isn't sending anything. I was saying that I would send a card/invite/link to my invitees just to cover my bases, sorry I wasn't more clear.

She told me to invite who I want by forwarding the link.

I would not send a card, because you are picking out a card for someone else.

I would draft an email and ask her if she wants to see it. Subject line something like: Happy News! And an Invitation.

Are you asking what to put in the body of the email?

There are no rules that apply. I'd be sure to cover everything that would go in a traditional invite, only in paragraph form i guess! And then the link. I might include some imagery or use a hot pink (pink is the navy of India they say) font.

I like @Bestyears idea.

Congrats! An exciting time for sure.

Congratulations! This sounds like such fun! I wish we had weddings like this in our family.

Are there going to be people invited who don't know the back story you gave above? If so, I would include that somehow in addition to Best years well worded paragraph. Or even a, "please feel free to contact _______ at _________ for more details. I was totally confused until I read your more detailed explanation.

ETA: I can hardly wait to start shopping for your wardrobe!

Daisy, thanks. Everyone knows the back story. I just find it odd for me to forward a link and explain, this is it.

But, now thanks to the many suggestions, I now have a plan.

So exciting! congrats.

I love Bestyears ‘ idea and wording.

I think @Bestyears just nailed it for you. This is so exciting!!

This is so far out of my zone of experience I haven't a clue on what to suggest but will look forward to watching it all unfold. Sounds like it will be magical for the attendees!

Congratulations! So much joy and happiness to look forward to. I am hoping to get to Goa some time in the next year or two.

Zalco, if you have questions, i will be happy to forward to my daughter.

Sounds like quite the adventure! I'm looking forward to reading more about it as the date draws nearer.

Congratulations!

Off to look up Goa.

How wonderful! Congratulations!

Up to your daughter but would they consider a party (no gifts) after the wedding? Even with ”discounts” that is a huge trip for many; aside from being expensive, there is COViD and the fact that others may have vacations planned.

I would not travel to the Maldives for a wedding of a friends child but would hope to be asked to a tea to celebrate after being asked to consider spending thousands….

Just my thoughts. I havent gone to nephew and nieces destination weddings because we spend our vacations traveling with kids and grandkids. I did spend 8 grand for a relative in the military hitting a huge achievement and our entire family (kids, grandkids) skipped our annual vacation to attend and acknowledge the achievement

Thank you, Eld. I will definitely take you up on the offer once my plans firm up.

would hope to be asked to a tea to celebrate after being asked to consider spending thousands….

I find it odd to view it as "being asked to ...(spend) thousands.'' You are honored with an invitation to a wedding. In this case, a destination wedding. Not uncommon.

And not sure why you should expect a tea "after being asked" as if the two are related?

IMHO, weddings should be about the bride and groom, after all. I applaud couples who recognize this and eschew the many trappings of what i like to call the "military-industrial-bridal-complex."

That's a wonderful story and a great opportunity. It makes perfect sense for them.

I guess instead of a "save the date" they should send out a "book a flight"!

;)

MTN, I love your military industrial bridal complex and use that term whenever I can!

Depending on global weather over the next two years the Maldives may not be a viable wedding destination in 2023. It has been one of the hardest hit places on earth by rising sea levels.

I think the point Anne was making is that as much as invitees might like to attend the wedding, not everyone will be able to, whether for financial reasons, health/covid issues or other. I'm sure many cannot attend destination weddings and would still like to meet the new bride or groom and celebrate with them, whether that be a small reception, bbq, or however the locals tend to celebrate. If they care enough to invite them, it seems the bride and groom might also like to introduce their spouse to the friends and relatives.

Very happy for you & yours! So exciting!

I would do exactly as your daughter asked. It's their wishes. You could very simply state they've chosen forego traditional invitations and all the pertinent info is contained on the wedding website.

First want to say no wedding band, just the one ring is super IN right now with brides. I am not sure everyone else's reasons but the two I personally know about were set in motions when sooo much thought went into the engagement ring. By the time they figured it all out they were DONE with ring design and forgot to consider what two rings together would end up looking/feeling. When my DIL was debating not having a wedding band I googled and found it's become common. Second: Who is anyone to tell a bride what she can or cannot do for her wedding--but I will find it interesting to hear how this directing to a web site..by word of mouth... goes for her and all those who would have loved to celebrate with her.

Depending on global weather over the next two years the Maldives may not be a viable wedding destination in 2023.

I should think it will still be viable. That said,I have been researching the area for a family snorkelling trip for Christmas 2022. Global warming is bleaching so much of the reef so quickly, that the advice about the best spot for marine life changes very rapidly.