Thanks Zalco!!

Try a corrector with pink tones and let that sit for a minute or two and then apply a concealer that matches more of your skin tone over it. Always dab/pat it in with a brush, dont use the windshield wiper technique or you can guarantee it will settle into the wrinkles. And dont over do with the amount, which I sometimes tend to do.

Have a great time with your date!

Enjoy yourself Amy. i hope you don’t get too concerned about the dark circles beyond some maleup as suggested above. your shining personality will come through

ATK- you look great. We brown-eyed girls tend to have brown under eye circles, it's part of our charm.

Thanks guys! I need to touch up my highlights and of course wash my filthy hair. I will actually style it and wear make up. Should help. A nice skirt and heels will also help!

Mine are purple🤪. Dab a little concealer under your eyes and blend in your fabulousness for a total refreshed look. And enjoy your date!

You are beautiful! You do not even need makeup but if you feel more comfortable wearing it than wear it as you would normally. Have fun and he is a lucky guy!

Roarah, you are way too kind! Thank you so much!

I like Lancome Effacernes Waterproof Long Lasting Undereye Concealer. If you have time, go to a department store like Nordstrums and have them try it on you. I put it on with my fingertip and just use a tiny amount. I like it well enough that I've used it on my face when I want just a hint of makeup. And you look great! Enjoy your date.

Carol, I am going to remember that one!! Thanks.

I think you will look lovely with your usual hair and makeup. Don’t worry about concealer. You are quite beautiful so just let your intelligence and personality shine through - concealer contraindicated. 😊

When I met my now husband for our first date, I was still suffering from the residual coughing fits and tiredness from a six week bout of the flu. We met for coffee at a local bookstore and I held a bag of Ricola on my lap and was discretely popping them the whole time . . . Hubs was new to the dating game and meandered for a LONG time. I didn't know if he was going to ask me out again or not. At one point I had to go out to the car to get more cough drops and eventually the anti-mucous medications started to wear off so I had to end that date . . . I went next door to the shoe store in the strip mall because they were having a shoe sale, so I figured I could at least get some new sandals from the trip, but I started to feel woozy so walked right out. Hubs was still hanging around outside the bookstore and FINALLY asked me if I wanted to go out again. I joke that if I hadn't been sick I would have stayed in the shoe store and we never would have gotten together!

My point is, if he's a good guy and smart, he will know what he likes and it will be the overall picture. Just do you as nice as you can and leave the rest to the universe. If you like each other, it will work out regardless of eye circles, which I would not necessarily hone in on, even looking at the photo you posted. I would wear my hair a little snazzier and some color around the face, you want to look happy. Of course I tried my best on my first date, but I really did look like death warmed over from the flu bout . . . we had e-mailed for a while and e-mailed after for a while, so he knew some things about me and I guess hedged his bets that I wouldn't always be so sickly. I got the flu again six months into our relationship and it was hubs understanding and nursing me back to health that sealed my heart. Looking back, he may have just been new to the dating game and pounced on his first nibble . . .

You know what your picture above reminds me of? It reminds me of those movies where the internationally famous gorgeous movie star has one of the roles where, at first, she is so shy and "homely" (yeah, right) and doesn't get noticed and is soooo awkward.

And then ---voila! -- she brushes her hair and puts on lipgloss and smiles and OMG who would have believed she was actually so gorgeous!!!

Well anyone would have because she was very lovely either way.

2 kats, thank you!

Pink, that is a great story. You never know what is in store for you. I may not even be attracted to him. I just feel out of sorts lately. That can affect how I feel about how I look on the outside as well.

Mtn, you are sweet. Do not worry I would definitely look better than in that photo. I took it to show myself at my worst. What you said was very sweet.

Try the Lancome Tient d’Idol!!! It is amazing. I am 62, and have ALL the eye maladies, thanks to genetics. Buy it from a retailer who does not mind exchanging it (Neiman’s, Nordstrom….) to get the right color. Use only a TINY amount, and pat it in and blend it out well.

I took it to show myself at my worst.

Yes, that's my point. It's like you trying to look bad, and it just doesn't fly. I am not fooled : )

Chiming in to say you are lovely (with or without makeup) and I hope you enjoy meeting your new friend! I also use the Lancome Effacernes and like it very much. I have what is gently called "texture" under my eyes...also known as wrinkles and sagging. The Lancome doesn't seem to settle in the lines and I think the key is using a VERY small amount. I am anxious to try the Lancome Tient d'Idol as well now with the recommendations here.

Good luck, have fun and keep us posted!

Congratulations on the date! I hope he's a really good guy and deserves you. :)

You are way too hard on yourself! My perspective is different because I have never been the type to wear makeup. My full arsenal consists of mascara and chapstick, and I think I may have used the mascara twice in the past two years. :) IMO, there is nothing as beautiful as a genuine smile!

I watched a documentary about self-perception that involved several female participants. A portrait artist was positioned so that he could hear, but not see the people in the room. Each individual sat and described their own features so that a portrait could be painted simply from the description. Then a stranger from the group was brought in to meet that individual, and the stranger would describe them to the artist for a second portrait. In every case, the stranger's description produced a portrait that looked more like the individual, and the individual's own description produced a portrait that exaggerated their perceived flaws and made them look very unhappy.

btw, you are cute as a button and remind me of my childhood friend Kathy. Now smile. :)

Amy, I don't post much but I read here a lot. What I know from reading your posts is that you are kind, smart, and you care about others. I know you've had a run of bad luck - but sometimes all that means....is that you had a run of bad luck.

Also I think you're cute as a bug. 😁 Honestly you're way too critical of yourself. Which I understand because it's endemic in women (I do it to myself too!), I'm just giving you an honest outsider's perspective.

Go and have fun. Whether it works out or not doesn't change a thing I wrote.

Congratulations on the date! I hope he's a really good guy and deserves you. :)

YES

I recently watched a makeup artist on Instagram address this very subject. She is early 30's but spends a lot of time on tips for more mature skin. This video was really helpful for me.....https://www.instagram.com/tv/CPHd-Q4JfqR/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

And if you go to her main Instagram page, you can scroll down to see her various videos that all have labels on them so you know what she's addressing in each one without having to watch them all. (You do not need an Instagram account to see the video I linked above.)

P.S. Have fun on the date!

I think you look fine and no matter what if some circles under your eyes (which I have a hard time seeing) is cause for a person not liking you then that is probably for the best anyways. I do understand it has more to do with your self-confidence, but tell your self that if they can't like you when you think you're at your worst they are probably not worth your time anyways. I know the feeling of how make up makes the wrinkles more visible and I've not been wearing make-up until lately and I'm now 50 and only started because my skin looks so blotchy now. I figured it is time for me to start to own my wrinkles as I'm not ready to own the sudden skin blotchiness so I have to pick one. Since we are close in age I'm guessing the guy you're dating will have some wrinkles too so try not to worry too much about your own. They are unfortunately not going away and I'm sure you want someone who won't care as we all continue to age and the person you date or elect to be with should still appreciate you as you get older for you and not care about wrinkles or in my case wrinkles and blotchy skin.

I agree I also "hope he is a really good guy and deserves you"!

You've got nothing to worry about, Akt. You're a pretty woman whose been through a lot. Just be yourself, look yourself and I hope for both of you it's a match. If not you tried and can try again. It's a new beginning, a step in the right direction. I'm just very happy for you and can't wait to hear back.

@User, thank you for writing. That was so kind of you!

Thanks for the video bluebell.

Thank you ALL for being such a great support system!

I promise to report back and maybe take a photo. ;)

Photo of you, not the guy. He might not understand all of this here :)

^😂

Would you think less of him if he has smile crinkles? or some puffiness or dark circles? I imagine not and i’ll bet you can’t even say whether he does or not! So please stop disparaging your cute, sweet, smart, talented self for such unimportant, superficial things. if he wanted to date someone in her 20’s with no crinkles from laughing, that’s who he’d be asking out! He’s obviously looking for something more. Relax and trust that any man worth having is not going to notice or care about those things. Have fun!!

And now I have a stye. I blame this exchange😂😭

@1929Spanish-GW

Oh no!!!! It isn't funny but you still have laughing!!

I’m the weirdo who loves laughing at herself. you want a bad photo? Here’s the last time I had a stye!😂😂😂

and…this won’t stay up for long!

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1929, oooh that looks painful!! I have had three styes and one chalazion. This was all in about 6-9 months after I started working in an ER. Finally they all went away and never returned.

You are so adorable!!!! I love your smile and those are such great glasses.

Thanks … you're too kind! I have a pin head, so when I found chunky glasses that fit, i purchased two pairs each in two colors to last mw a while. You’re going to look great for your date no matter what is under your eyeballs!

Well, I certainly do not see a pin head! I too have always though I had a pin head! haha

I got these glasses. I wish I had a better photo but I find wearing them takes away from my puffy, wrinkly and dark circled eyes.

Now I really need to get onto my roots and highlight them!

There you go again, telling us you’re 40 plus, then posting a pic at age 35! 😤 😄 Love the glasses, and yes!!! Glasses are great for hiding circles and bags. Love this pic!

Love the glasses!!

@amykath, now that’s sassy! I don’t even recognize the same person in those photos. Just be yourself and have fun!

You are gorgeous, Lady!

I want your eyebrows. Sigh. Mine pretty much disappeared after the Great Pluckening of Eyebrows 1990-2000.

@martinca_gw sunset zone 24, thank you!!!

Party and Bluebell, thanks you guys!

@Jilly, thanks! I need to get them waxed. I have always had caterpillar eye brows. I did go through a period of over plucking them!

Here they are as thick as can be while I was in college. I also was way way too tan!

AK, you look very nice. And you always are very nice. i could not sed any dark circles.

Love those glasses.

I have some ”hyperpigmentation” below my eyes and one spring I tried to figure out what causes it. Several things may contribute to the appearance of darker skin around one’s eyes — lighting, sun damage (photo aging), not enough sleep and a genetic predisposition. I stopped thinking about it. But I do wear a simple sunblocker so prevent tanning unevenl and also skin damage.

Your light touch of natural looking makeup in your second photo is very good.

Someone gave a simple blush stick after I complimented her fresh looking glow. I put on a lightly tinted face lotion with SPF 15, then use a simple bit of blusher like this one.

Boom!

Enjoy your date. And as others have comment, feel confident. You are very nice looking.

I don't think one can really look happy and feel confident if one truly is not happy or confident. On the one hand. On the other . . . I approached dating in my 40s and 50s the way I approached job hunting. A first date is an in person "see if we have any chemistry" interview. You are as much vetting him as he is vetting you. The confidence comes from knowing that if it isn't the right fit, that is not a bad thing. That was the hardest thing for me to do in online dating, tell a guy I didn't see it working out after a date. Usually they sensed it too, but sometimes they were just like my husband, they didn't care much about picking and choosing, just wanted a woman to date and for some "dating" was a euphamism for having sex with. (Not my husband, but that's what some guys relayed to me, pft. Such guys are a waste of time, they'll discard you as soon as the next "doable" woman comes along.

I had to tell some guys "no thanks" and it really wasn't anything in particular that was wrong with them (for the most part) just not a good fit for me. I even volunteered to help one guy up his dating game so he could find the right gal. His profile picture was very old and when he showed up looking much older and with way less hair, I didn't mind his appearance, but the disconnect was a moment of dis-ingenuousness that for many would be a red flag. I don't think he did it on purpose, a lot of guys don't happen to have a great photo shoot to share online, it's not much of a guy concern. He used his work ID photo that was old.

I have a friend from GW who met her husband through another guy she went on a date with. He could tell they weren't compatible, but that she would make a great match for a friend of his . . . so just like with the job, try not to take it too much to heart and too personal. It's not any reflection on your worth as a person if a date doesn't click. The planet has 8+ billion people on it, as varied as the molecules in the universe! The point is, you wan to put your best foot forward, be your best you, but don't try to make yourself into something you're not. Don't highlight your weaknesses, know your true worth and put it out there. If a man values it, you are lucky. If not, nothing has changed, your purpose in life is to use your gifts and talents to their highest purpose, not run after people who don't value what you have to offer.

Plus your pluses. I taught in a leadership program for three years at a community college. We taught a lot of "soft skills" as far as personal and interpersonal management. We used a system of identifying personal strengths. It is a well known and studied phenomenon that is is much easier to "plus your pluses" that spend an inordinate amount of time trying to make yourself into something you're not. The key is to find the right fit between a person's need and your pluses. Sometimes that takes some searching around. Don't get discouraged!! The right fit is out there and you will not have to turn yourself into a pretzel to find it, it will flow naturally.

Pink,

Yes.. it is completely possible I do not find an attraction and/or chemistry.

It is tough out there for any single people looking to find a good fit!

Heck, he could even cancel on me. I would always rather be alone than with someone who is not right for me. I learned that one through two divorces!

So…how was the date? Your invisible sorority sisters want to know.🤔

@jojoco! You think like me! This thread felt very much like being at the sorority house, in the best way.

Your cheering squad is breathlessly waiting, Amy!

Maybe the date isnt over yet, wink wink.

Can not wait for a scoop! lol Sue!

...side note...

Sue, I've learned to take a bathroom break before I read your posts :D

Oh, that’s right! it was on Thursday! We need to hear allllll about it, the bad and the good.

I just posted ALL about it in a new thread. Warning... it is long.