Rules for Big Kids
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Comments (1)I have this tub in a renovation that we are working on. My kids are grown, but I have 2 small grandsons. The bathroom is not ready to use yet (neither is the entire house) I would say that the kids would fit, but it's certainly not roomy....See MorePool Rules? For your own kids & their friends?
Comments (3)When we built our pool it was mainly because of our grandchildren. Upfront, I shared that I would not be a pool 'baby sitter'. If my nieces and nephew's children wanted to come one of the parents have to bring them and stay with them.....they are free to use the pool anytime that way. As the children have gotten older age 12, they think the kids are old enough to come by themselves but I have cont. to say an adult must be with them. I would not open up the pool to people I do not even know. They would have to be friends with my family and come with that family member. I feel if you open it up to all, you will never have any peace. Other rules I have.....no horse-play, no running around the pool, no ducking others, no jumping onto a float. Clean up after yourself! (These are my rules. When I am not here, if the parents allow their children to do any of above then the responsibility is theirs. They know my rules.) If I find they are allowing them to jump onto a float and I see it I correct that immediately....to much danger of hitting head on cement side I think.) Start out like you can hold out! Easier to relax rules than to tighten them....See MoreCourts ruled by money. Kids lose.
Comments (16)I don't doubt he could abuse drugs and never get caught. It happens. Some CPS workers are more liberal than others.. Some cops are more liberal than others... and same with family court Judges. We have a therapist that believes SD10 should be seeing her mom on supervised visits only because of emotional abuse, yet he is not willing to say so in court. He doesn't want to be involved in court proceedings. We had a Judge that heard testimony on BM bringing BF's to sleep with her in the same room she shared with her daughters.. and from what SD acted out with her barbie dolls (in sexual positions) and told us about what she saw... the court did not think that was enough to give BM less custody than DH. I have had cops tell me that CPS ruins families when I asked them to check the welfare of my 10mo old DGS. I have had CPS see the bruises on DGS and tell me that unless they see the mother high with the child, they can do nothing... babies get bruises. It is very difficult, not impossible depending on WHO the players are, to get supervised visitation or to take away a parent's visitation or rights altogether. You pretty much have to go back to court repeatedly, with the same Judge and prove these things are going on and hope that eventually the court will take your side. I have seen it go the other way... a parent bringing multiple actions to say things are going on, only to have the Judge admonish the parent for dragging the other parent back to court over and over. A good attorney is a must. There are attorneys that will take a case pro bono or at a reduced fee if they believe one side is at a disadvantage because of financial position and they believe it's in the best interest of the children to be with that parent. Men have Father's rights groups, Mothers have domestic violence & family services groups. One thing I have learned (and always work on practicing because it is HARD), is to let go. Many times, these battles are about control, power & let's not forget about MONEY, not about the kids. The more you battle in the name of the kids, the worse it gets. When it's not fun anymore (or when there is no 'rush' from the fight), the other side will eventually go away and leave you alone... if they are just in it for the battle. I stopped fighting when my son was 12... his dad vanished into the woodwork. I have never heard from him again. After my son turned 18, they have seen each other & spoken, but I have nothing to do with it. I removed myself from the situation. The more we ignore SD's mom, she has had less to do with us... she's still damaging her daughter, but there isn't a battle with us anymore. She still tries.. does things that if WE did them, she would go ballistic, but we shrug & say see ya next time... and go on our merry way. Now, I am working on doing the same with my DIL... as she calls me every name in the book... as she brings DGS back to me with red marks that 'could' be signs of abuse.. or everyday marks babies get.. and she likes to imply he hurt himself by telling me he tried to drown himself or he's depressed/bipolar. I have good reason to believe she is abusing him & she is mentally ill.. but it is still going to be an uphill battle to prove it in court & the last thing I am willing to do is allow myself to get sucked into a battle of wills with her. I document things. I don't confront her, she just denies it. I notify the proper authorities to document what I believe is going on... if they do nothing, at least it's documented. That's all you can do. He is their father and they know better than anyone what their father is about... the time will come when nobody can force them to go. Emotional abuse is horrible, I see it in my SD10 and she lives with us. Her mother makes it impossible for her to live a happy life here, all because she doesn't want to pay support. In time, she will decide for herself. We don't like to let her go because we know the things her mother puts in her head but we have to, it's the law....See Morekids spending the night...moms are camping out for big sale
Comments (12)we actually went out yesterday evening to gander mtn for DH for gun stuff. he hates shopping but couldn't pass up their deals lol. today was cold for me, 73 and cloudy and gloomy, not conducive to shopping for me but i did get out to target, lowes and borders. got a bunch of stuff (thou nothing for gifts lol) including some 1000 thread ct sheets for only $60 on the set, even their reg price at $120 is a steal for that tread ct. got a bunch of christmas music CD's, my splurge since we find music for free online. i already bought stuff online yesterday and dh is taken care of already, an antique rifle we got last month. i didn't get up at the crack of dawn, there are no stores outside of NYC or chicago i do that for LOL esp not if the temp is under 80, those places don't do sales anyways lol. i thought the shopping traffic and the stores were really not busy, i was very surprised. i thought for sure by 9am all the things i wanted to pick up would be gone but the only thing i missed out on was a rubbermaid wreath storage box at lowes for $5. i'm ordering all my gift things online so my shopping in stores is pretty much done unless i find more good deals. we pretty much have all we want or need so there's not much to tempt me out there which makes shooping days like today kinda boring lol, i wish i needed some of those things just to shop LOL ~ liz...See Moremtnrdredux_gw
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